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Offline opembe1234

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I am scared to death
« on: January 09, 2023, 01:10:36 am »
I have been having some disagreements with my husband recently, and that has left me very lonely. I decided that having another secret relationship could ease my mind. There is this guy who has been texting for about 5 years now, but I have always ignored him. This time I decided to give him a chance. I went to his house for the first time, and we had vag sex three times (unprotected), but he pulled out each time. About 13 days ago, I also went to visit him; we had all vag sex three times again, but he didn't pull out. I used a vaginal tightening stick then. After that time, the guy was very reluctant to talk to me. He isn't texting anymore unless I do, and he never calls. Now I am really scared because I have some mild symptoms, like a headache for the last 3 days, muscle and some lymph node pain but no swelling. I also have persistent ear pain, but no fever or ngith sweats. I don't have sex with my HB after that time because I am scared of infecting him (just in case). What do I do because I am really scared and it's too early to take the test? Please help; I am losing my mind.
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Re: I am scared to death
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2023, 01:49:28 am »

What do I do because I am really scared

First, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling unwell. It's not HIV-specific, so instead of stressing about it, go to your doctor and treat it.

I hope you feel better soon.

we had vag sex three times (unprotected), but he pulled out each time

This would be an HIV risk.

we had all vag sex three times again, but he didn't pull out

If condomless, it would also be an HIV risk.

You had condomless intercourse, and to know your HIV status, test at six weeks post your last potential exposure with a blood-draw (lab) HIV antibody test. The result at this time will rarely change, and retesting at three months generally isn't needed. Also, consider getting an STI screening as you also had risks for easier to acquire STIs.

I don't have sex with my HB after that time because I am scared of infecting him (just in case).

Well, I presume you did have sex before this with your husband and might again after you have tested, so I'll mention the same thing whenever anyone mentions being in a relationship;

If you engage in condomless sex with your partner, you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. In relationships, condomless sex is often based on trust or past test results; however, this does not prevent HIV, so if condomless sex does occur, you should consider testing more frequently.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards


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