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Title: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: chwhyoche on November 18, 2016, 02:25:57 am

The pool of men has gotten so small and the ones I have talked to or met seem to have issues, ex addicts of some sort.  Some were highly promiscuous (ie. sex parties).   I was so conservative when I got this from my husband 17 years ago ( having had only one partner before him), and now he has passed away, and I have this depressingly limited pool of men to try and find a great match.   Yet the incidence of drug use is likely or recovery from it, or promiscuity, or deviant behavior.  Last one was a major covert narcissist.   If you laugh at this, or think it is cute, then you do not know what this personality disorder truly is or how emotionally abusive such a person can be.

Such a pathetic situation I have gotten into. 

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: PittGurl on November 25, 2016, 12:16:57 pm

Agree :(   I've pretty much reserved myself to just working on me and enjoying the other parts of life.

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: bones5 on January 02, 2017, 10:25:50 am

  this is bones5   not sure where you at ,   I am in central texas    . some of the adds  that read this,,,,and that,,, are miss leading    some of these folks not truthful about their   situation     . but I am right here for real

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: Jim Allen on January 02, 2017, 11:31:32 am

Bones,

Please do not post in the positive women's section of the forum.
It's strictly off limits to men.

Thank you.

Jim

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: Cerise_81 on June 20, 2017, 11:56:35 am

I agree, the men on the poz website is do depressing. From lies to the games,it's just useless.

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: sologirl on September 14, 2017, 05:47:26 pm

Hi,
This is a problem with most HIV dating sites. I have been on most with no real sucess.

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: blackbeauty40 on September 16, 2018, 11:50:52 am

I've connected with several men on the poz website and I have to admit, the pool is really depressing. The last person I met on the site, turned out to be mentally and emotionally abusive among other things. I'm getting older and would like to meet someone special but as time goes on, I'm afraid the chances of that are decreasing everyday.

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: TabooPrincess on October 04, 2018, 03:56:20 pm

Girls why are you limiting yourselves to poz men!? There’s a whole world of men out there! I’ve told 4 men in my time about my status - granted I usually tell men I’m
Not particularly interested in, but they have not given a damn!
Date as any normal person would I say. We shouldn’t think of ourselves as being restricted - yeh, it brings up issues, but simpler ones than narcissists and drug addicts?!

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: milano8 on January 01, 2019, 04:38:26 pm

But how do you tell a neg man that you are poz?

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: rockchick on January 20, 2019, 07:33:31 pm

Ladies, I totally understand. I find most "straight" men (my personal experience) are really bi and extremely promiscuous, a lot of drug users.. etc.. it is beyond depressing.

Have any of you tried other non hiv dating sites, any stories, suggestions..

Title: Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
Post by: PittGurl on January 20, 2019, 09:28:15 pm

I agree, and it sucks.  I finally met a man at work who is wonderful and turned out he is poz and didnt know it. We have a crazy story!  After a year of dating he has moved in and we are so very happy!!!   Keep hope, there is someone out there for you. I never thought it was possible either....you can tell that from my post 11/25/16 on this thread.