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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: worriedx1000 on March 06, 2013, 01:23:36 am
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Hi, so a few nights ago I was at a party and hooked up with a girl in my friend's bathroom. At first she was just giving me a "hand job" and kissing me, but I asked her to stop because I could feel the beginning of a friction burn due to the lack of lubrication. Her response to this was to give me oral sex.
After going down on me for approximately 20 minutes (I can't remember exactly because I was drunk), she stopped and as I was zipping up my pants I noticed that I had in fact acquired a very red friction burn on the tip of my penis.
Upon this I freaked out and asked her for an extensive background of her sexual history. I was told that she has had unprotected vaginal AND anal sex "multiple times" and has not yet been tested for HIV.
My question is, assuming she is positive, am I at risk of infection? If so, is my risk practical or merely "theoretical?" If it makes any difference I am quite certain that I was not bleeding at all. Does this make a difference? Assuming she had a cut in her mouth, how screwed am I?
Thank you in advance for reviewing my situation and responding quickly, I am very nervous and need to know my risk level.
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Worried,
People are not high or low or not risk. ACTIVITIES are high or low or no risk. You need to get that fact through your head. It's not WHO you do, it's HOW you do it.
Provided YOU use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse with any women (or men) you're with, I don't care if they've barebacked with the entire team of the Dallas Cowboys and the DC's extended friends and families. It doesn't matter what they've done in the past. It's what YOU do in the present that counts - and what YOU need to do is to use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse.
The activities you engaged in are NO risk. Not high, not low. NO RISK.
Getting a handjob is not a risk.
Getting a blowjob is not a risk. Not only is saliva not infectious but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.
As for the tired "blood in the mouth" issue, unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before they kiss or blow you, there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause concern.
Not one person has ever been infected through getting a blowjob and buddy, you are not going to be the first.
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.
To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER A HANDJOB OR BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.
Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
Ann