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Author Topic: a little sad and lonely  (Read 4244 times)

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Offline pipmonk100

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a little sad and lonely
« on: December 26, 2024, 04:41:37 pm »
I suddenly feel old and lonely.  I know I should be grateful for what I have in life, but the fact still remains I've only had one proper partner and that was in the early 90s and last happy years. 

I'm not sure what I want from this post, maybe just a hi from someone who understands. All good vibes to you survivors and supporters.

Cheers Philip

Offline Tonny2

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Re: a little sad and lonely
« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2024, 06:52:58 pm »



                 ojo.          Hello there!… I guess, there are a lot of us who have felt like that, including myself, at some point, our lives, but I guess,, we have to look for something to keep us busy at least that’s what I do like walking my dog, listen to an audiobook, do some cleaning or talking to my best friend on the phone. You are not alone. … we are here for you.… Hugs

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Re: a little sad and lonely
« Reply #2 on: December 27, 2024, 07:13:40 am »
I often go back to look through people's old posts to catch up on who people are and how their situations have been. So, of course, I looked up your old quotes. LOL

I'm 62 and have been living with HIV since the mid 90's, actually its unclear when I was infected but that is when I tested positive. Been on meds now for some years and am generally okay.  At the moment having a period of lows as I'm a reflective kind of guy and miss my friends still.
So how have things been in the last year and a half?

I'm going to bet we are about a year apart in age. my 63rd b-day is approaching in March. (WooHoo. maybe. LOL) I also bet we share a whole lot of similar issues too. decades of meds, doctors, health issues, etc. morphing into aging issues, fatigue, and non-HIV issues along with depression, ennui, happiness, loneliness and sometimes an out-of-place out-of-time feeling.

I talked with a lot of friends and family and I shared a couple things about Christmas time. You'd think New Years Eve/Day would be when people consider how their lives have been; but on that day, their thoughts turn to the future of what's coming up. It's at Christmas that people reminisce on what's past, who's been lost and sometimes even the depths of our troubles.

The upside of this gloomy news is to never feel bad when feeling sad at Christmas. It happens to all us. And the upside to this gloomy advice is that sadness is only terrible when you never remember the gladness that sorrow came from. I thought a lot about my deceased friends and partners, along with a lot of bad times I've gone through, this Christmas; but I balanced that by remembering all the great times I had with those people and how much I have overcome in my life. Every day I am alive, along with the people I have with me now, is always a good day.

Best wishes for a Happy, Healthy 2025!
leatherman (aka Michael)

We were standing all alone
You were leaning in to speak to me
Acting like a mover shaker
Dancing to Madonna then you kissed me
And I think about it all the time
- Darren Hayes, "Chained to You"

 


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