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Offline Gators610

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Oral Risk - A Chance?
« on: March 06, 2007, 06:17:51 PM »
Hello

Im 21 on Feb 23 I visited a dance club - not a strip club, all girls are clothed.  But had received a lap dance from one.  She proceeded to give me oral sex with NO protection.  Lasted about 10 minutes or so but towards the end started to hurt a bit.  She was using way to much tooth but I did evantually ejaculate in her mouth.  She then asked If I liked to have sex with her which I refused, but she then started oral again.  Too much teeth again so she stopped after a couple minutes.

Then she stood up and put her vagina in my face, which I licked for approx 2 minutes or so.  Toungue did not seem to go inside at all.  Even so I could not feel any vaginal fluid, she was very dry.

However, knowing oral sex is a low risk - I can not for the life of me forget about it and get rid of my fears.  Been online for days reading information and my chances.  Called right away Advanced Medical for testing.  Completed the urine test for Chylmidia and the Clap, both came out negative - but I was not worried about this.  I can only think about HIV.  I have not had a headache, but feel like my head is in the clouds - so to speak, upset stomach and diarreha.  Yesterday started with not a sore throat but annyoing.  Constantly checking my mouth and toungue and I must have caused irratation to the bottom of my toungue from strecthing it to feel for unusual bumbs.  Been sore - but go to the gym 4 - 5 times a week so I dont pay attenton to that. sore throat - been clealry my throat recently.  And now feels like im starting with a minor ear ache.

Am I freaking out over nothing.  My friends and sister say Im fine and to stop, but I cant.  My one friend from work who studied the body in college said he wouldnt have even gotten tested.  But Im a worry wart - Cant help it.  I go for my HIV, Herpes, Syphillis, and Hep tests on the 23 of March.

Do I need to be worried, Was I at a risk at all?  Is there a chance I could havfe gotten HIV?  Thats my only real concern now.

Thank you - I truly do appreciate and repsonses I get.  I really do..

Jimmy

Offline Gators610

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #1 on: March 06, 2007, 06:19:55 PM »
And not to mention - most of the websites i read so far have scared the hell out of me..

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #2 on: March 06, 2007, 06:20:34 PM »
You didn't have a risk.

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #3 on: March 06, 2007, 07:50:06 PM »
What you need to do is read our lesson about HIV transmission. There's a link to it in the Welcome thread which opens this section.

In this 26th year of the pandemic, not knowing the real risks for HIV transmission is a luxury no one who's sexually active can afford. Read it, follow the safer sex instructions consistently and you can enjoy your sexuality, protect your health and be spared the kind of needless worry which brought you to this site. Which I am glad about because now you can get the real deal about safer sex.

And you were NOT at risk for HIV in this incident.
Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline Gators610

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #4 on: March 06, 2007, 08:21:27 PM »
I truly appreciate the quick responses.

Oh I did forget to mention (not sure if it even makes a difference or what not) but I meant to get at by stating the teeth, was that when I got home I noticed two marks on the head of my penis.  Which looked like two teeth marks.  Didnt seem like the skin was broken, just maybe bruised - Anything to worry about??

As far as this experience and safer sex I learnt my lesson.  I have always been careful and conservative, but I made a stupid mistake.

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #5 on: March 06, 2007, 08:25:33 PM »
It doesn't make a difference if you had teeth marks on the head of your penis.

Offline Gators610

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #6 on: March 08, 2007, 09:24:34 AM »
Thank you for the replies.  You guys have re assured me about NO risk.  Just curious, however, as to way almost every website and piece of reading I have done they say It is low risk, but not NO risk?  Is this simply to cover their ass, "just in case" ??

For the last two and a half days I have been experiencing a sore throat, last night it was pretty uncomfortable.  But it is off and on and has been varying in degree of pain.  Sometimes I feel pain in my ear, mnost of the time I dont.  I would not think anything of it in any other cirumstances, but I have NO fever and the only other thing that is bothering me is a somewhat stiff and sore neck.  So the sore throat seems a little odd.

Should that be any cause for concern??  Or is it just simply an irriatated throat and sore neck?

Thanks for your patience and responses, I Truly appreciate it.

Jimmy

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #7 on: March 08, 2007, 12:54:46 PM »
Jimmy,

Many websites do not differentiate between cunnilingus, getting a blowjob and giving a blowjob - they lump it all together under the heading of oral sex. Neither cunnilingus nor getting a blowjob is a risk, while giving a blowjob carries a very small risk if you have terrible oral health/hygiene.

Getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection because not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Not one person has ever become infected through getting a blowjob and you will not be the first.

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #8 on: March 08, 2007, 01:53:37 PM »
Thank you Ann -

I do see now that they do lump it all in one.  Somewhat misleading and leads to worry, but its nice to have willing, patient, and helpful people here to ask questions.  I do thank you as I have been somewhat of a nervous wreck lately.  I have been looking at my body and in my mouth for weird and unusual things.  I have found bumps and looks like possible white spots in the back of my mouth, but cant see that clearly into that.  Im guessing im seeing things that have always been there, just never seen or paid attention to it...

So basically I have nothing to worry about from what I had done correct.  All "symptoms" are from seasonal illness or stress or other?

No need to worry about HIV??

Jimmy

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #9 on: March 08, 2007, 02:43:02 PM »
Gators,

Whatever is going on with you has nothing to do with hiv infection. If your sore throat persists, go see your doctor.

Remember, you need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Condoms used correctly and consistently for anal or vaginal intercourse will prevent hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Oral Risk - A Chance?
« Reply #10 on: March 16, 2007, 11:18:02 AM »
Thanks for all the responses.  I just have a quick question as far as testing goes.  I went to the doctors this past Friday, figuring I should get tested for STD's and everything because I have never been tested beofre so thought it was something I should do.  I explained to the doctor my risk of oral sex and she did not seem concerned, like what you guys have said.  I did ask if I could have a test though and she said she could give me a viral load test.  I questioned her asking isnt it too early being only 2 weeks, and she said no because they were testing the viral load.

That is my question.  When a person first becomes infected, they are highly infectious - right?  Which would mean they have some sort of viral load - So why is a window period needed to test?  Is the viral load test helpful.  I also asked her if this was enough and she said yes - there was no need for furthur testing.

Oh I my results did come back negative after my non risk exposure.

Jimmy

 


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