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  I just found out my husband cheated on me. To be safe, I went to get myself tested and I came back positive. I have 4 kids (13,11,9, &2), all of whom were tested and came back NEGATIVE!!! I have NO family to lean on and my soon to be ex can not be counted on. What will happen to my children????? I have cried for a week straight  :'(  and have yet to come up with a solution, PLEASE, I need ideas. I really don't care if I die or not, I guess I do, but I am more worried about my babies.....

Hi Newpozmom......the best idea,  seems to me, is for you to take care of yourself and then  you can take care of your babies.
Get the proper medical attention....for you!
Make the necessary adjustments to being a single getting help with the children...either from friends or from an agency.
Do you need to go on Medicare?
You have said you are poz. That dont mean a whole lot if you dont have your bloodwork done. 
Many, most, of the HIV positive people here work and are living productive lives. You can too.

Thank You for your kind words. It's just hard dealing with the cheating, then being dealt an even harder blow. At this point, I will need more mental coping skills than anything else. I will find out now who my true friends are though. What makes me even sadder is just thinking about leaving my kids. I think I will have to move back to the bay area, where there are even greater resources to help me.

Dear Momma,

I am so sorry for what is happening in your life right now. I know it is hurting a lot and being cheated on is a hard one to deal with. Try not to blame yourself for it. It just happened for what ever reason. I am so glad that you are here right now and I am hoping that you will be here as often as you need to, so that you can let it all out. With time and when the dust settled a bit, you will find ways to deal with it what ever is coming your way. You are going to be fine, because that is what mothers do and they are so good at it.

First, you have to find a doctor that deal with HIV and do not be afraid of asking for help. I am sure that they can give you directions as to how and where to get help. You want to make sure that your health is good, not only for you but for your kids.

I don't have all the answers and to be truthful I am not sure I always understand why things happens one way or another, but I am sending you Love right now and all energy and I am hoping that somehow things will work out for you and your family.

Mom, big {{{{{hugs}}}}} are on the way to you and don't be a stranger, this is a good place to start.



you have to be strong for your children,there simply is NO other way. Get to a HIV specialist,and he/she will determine your next course of action, whether your ready for meds or not.
In this country,assuming your in the USA..There is no reason you cant get medical treatment. Todays meds are life saving, and if you follow your doctors rules, YOU WILL LIVE A LONG SOLID LIFE.


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