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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #50 on: March 03, 2007, 06:52:31 PM »
...Sorry...I wouldn't want to take up to much precious space here...afterall...the topic of porn does seem to be one of the more popular items in the AIDSmeds/POZ Community Forums...and I don't have a problem with porn...just saying...I'll try to control myself with the dots...

I'm glad to hear you're not against porn. It would be a bit rich for any queer sporting a handle bar moustache like yours to take such a position.

I no longer live in SoFla...and haven't been to the Ramrod in years...but I see you're not unfamiliar...and if I want to leave...I'll leave...not because you think I should...there are nice people here...but thanks for letting me know how you feel...you're too kind!


I'm glad to hear you've moved. It's a shame your posts still reek of sun-tan lotion, poppers and regret though. Must take a while to work the pan-handle out of your system. Matty the Damned cares not a whit whether you stay or leave, heartface. Just so long as you have a good time.

Now you don't seem to be the kind who can take advice (given that you know everything already), but still I feel compelled to tell you that posting a small introduction in Living With might help your cause. Maybe someone other than LongIslander will want to play with you. ;)

Fondles,

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Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #51 on: March 03, 2007, 07:01:13 PM »
Oh, and in case you're wondering...

...I have a dentist's appt. on the 13th of this month...I go every six months...you see the meth that I'm not doing hasn't given me a reason not to go to the dentist and take care of my teeth..I do have nice teeth..and apparently  all the cocaine that I'm not doing hasn't made me grind them down to stubs.  And, yes I have done cocaine in my past...and I didn't pay for it..you see there was always someone that was happy to have you share in the experience...and I have tried special K..one night when I was out in SoFla with another bartender...and that was the only night I tried special K...

...and there was the one evening when I lived in SoBe that I went out with friends(can you believe it) and we had dinner and then went bar hoping..I had to go to work at 4am and was exrtemely tired and had too much to drink...and when I got there I knew the only way I would make it through would be to ask the other bartender if he could get me a bump, as I had learned the first time I tried it when another bartender friend had given it to me at the Copa and it sobered me up.  Well, I felt terribly guilty for having asked for the cocaine, and did not like myself for it. 

...so if there's anything more you'd like to know...but then you don't care to know me and that's clear...I don't have anything to hide.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #52 on: March 03, 2007, 07:04:31 PM »
Oh, and in case you're wondering...

No dear not really. It's been a while since I subscribed to Aging Muscle-Mary Monthly.

...I have a dentist's appt. on the 13th of this month...I go every six months...you see the meth that I'm not doing hasn't given me a reason not to go to the dentist and take care of my teeth..I do have nice teeth..and apparently  all the cocaine that I'm not doing hasn't made me grind them down to stubs.  And, yes I have done cocaine in my past...and I didn't pay for it..you see there was always someone that was happy to have you share in the experience...and I have tried special K..one night when I was out in SoFla with another bartender...and that was the only night I tried special K...

...and there was the one evening when I lived in SoBe that I went out with friends(can you believe it) and we had dinner and then went bar hoping..I had to go to work at 4am and was exrtemely tired and had too much to drink...and when I got there I knew the only way I would make it through would be to ask the other bartender if he could get me a bump, as I had learned the first time I tried it when another bartender friend had given it to me at the Copa and it sobered me up.  Well, I felt terribly guilty for having asked for the cocaine, and did not like myself for it.

...so if there's anything more you'd like to know...but then you don't care to know me and that's clear...I don't have anything to hide.


It's not really that you "don't have anything to hide", now is it Scotty? It's more that there's nothing about you worth knowing.

:-*

MtD

/edited for a teensy typo/
« Last Edit: March 03, 2007, 07:21:57 PM by matty.the.damned »

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #53 on: March 03, 2007, 07:10:30 PM »
Matty the damned,

You think you're so clever and witty...gee..once you've thought me intelligent and now you don't...well that must make it so...

...and as far as poppers and suntan lotion...I hate poppers and anyone that really knows me...knows that... and it's been over a year since I've had suntan lotion on when went with friend down a cold spring river in North Florida..

Actually, you remind me so much of queens in SoFla..I mean you are familiar with the territory.

And...I don't need your embrace...you can keep it...and the cliqueyness doesn't surprise me...but thanks for letting me know how it is...really.

It's cute...how well you think you know me...precious even.


Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #54 on: March 03, 2007, 07:18:25 PM »
Matty the damned,

You made it a point to say I've posted nothing in the "Living with..which I'm guessing you meant living with HIV, well no not under that specific topic...but I have posted under the topics, "Treatment Questions" and "Side Effects."

I've mentioned that I've had gyncecomastia(oh yeah, from all the pot), and ringing in my ears, a bit of swollen parotid glands, and perhaps a few other things...but you don't really care about that..

...and so anyone knows that might be interested...a person without HIV can get gynecomastia...but then I'm sure that you'd be sure that must be part of the PNP crowd. 

I didn't know that I am supposed to post under all the topics..I'll work on that. 

Just trying to keep you apprised of my situation...

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #55 on: March 03, 2007, 07:23:44 PM »
Matty the damned,

...and while you're revelling in putting me down...what I spend too much money on is beads.

...and I occasionally do go to the bathhouse...and I don't care what anyone has to say about that...and I go on a Tuesday so I can get a free pass to go another day as I'm on a limited income..I do get lonely...and do want to be touched by another person.

...and I don't buy alcohol for home...unless I am making a nice dinner and having guest over...then I may purchase a bottle of wine... and I'll spend about 70% of my weekly allowance so I can do this...but I haven't had a dinner party in some time.  I do sometimes cood dinner for myself and my roommate... I in fact... cooked the soup that I gave the recipe for under some thread here...but I don't contribute...what do you read about here...

Offline Lisa

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #56 on: March 03, 2007, 07:24:25 PM »
I will accept you as you are, if you will me.

Could you dial back the rhetoric a smidgen please?

I think you are a regular guy who believes his back is against the wall. If you will stop defending yourself long enough, you will find that there is a plethora of caring people here.

Nobody wants to hug the porcupine.
No Fear  No Shame  No Stigma
Happiness is not getting what you want, but wanting what you have.

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #57 on: March 03, 2007, 07:31:45 PM »
Well Lisa,
I have been attacked by some here, but that's okay...I'm not a weak person...and I won't lay down and just take it...and I don't really like when people just say, "oh, you're being defensive." 

So, if you accept me for who I am...well...this is who I am...and I am just a regular guy...and I don't try to just put people down.  And I'm not afraid to be a bit self-depricating, or to admit when I am wrong.

And, I do appreciate that you were one of the first people to greet me and respond to a posting, thank you for that.

I have a loud bird, a Patagonian Conure...and many people can't stand loud screaming...it doesn't bother me...he really isn't that bad...and it is the voice he's been given, by God nature or whatever it is the reader believes in.  Sometimes, I just scream back with him, knowing he has no intention of stopping.

So, I accept you...but this is me...so I'm not sure if you accept me or not...since you view me as the porcupine...I mean hasn't Matty the damned been putting me down...it sure seems like it.
If you only really knew me...you knew how ridiculous her view of me actually is..

Scott

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #58 on: March 03, 2007, 07:34:44 PM »
I mean call me a pig...sexually speaking... or a whore, slut...anything else you can come up with...that's fine...I accept...but to say that I'm about PNP...you just don't know.

And, having said that, I'd love nothing more than to go to a nice dinner, see a movie, and spend the night with someone and hopefully...have that turn into something more meaningful. 

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #59 on: March 03, 2007, 07:35:46 PM »
Scott, whoooaaaaaaaa!

Please! I hope this doesn't incite you wanting to throw something at my head, but please take a good deep and slow breath and listen if you will.

First of all, your apology accepted. No problem. That's done.

Now, here's the listening part I'd like you to lend an ear on.

In a very short time you've managed to engage with varying degrees of hostility several different people here. Since I have some familiarity with all of them and in some cases for several years, I can tell you there's definitely a communication gap happening here. These aren't people who are out to "get you," Scott.

Yet somehow the interactions seem to be heating up and heading to what I sometimes say is "nowhere good."

So I am asking you for what is called in theatre "a willing suspension of disbelief" on your part. Assume if you will indulge me, that no one is out to get you. Take some breaths and chill a bit.

You don't have to reply to every single comment. Consider first if it's really going to advance communication or if it's just going to further stir the pot. Talking here is not about winning or losing. If you feel someone is being abusive to you please report it to the moderators. And no, that's not being a crybaby. It's avoiding having a firefight which is something totally toxic in the Forum for everyone.

There's more to you as a person than this kind of crusty stuff. Right now you're coming across as a guy with a very short fuse. It does not serve you well.
 
If you will let your guard down a bit and allow other stuff to show I know you will find responsive people here. I already read some of that in your most current comments. But whether you choose to do that or not, the crusty stuff needs to stop.

Sincerely,

Andy
« Last Edit: March 03, 2007, 07:42:06 PM by Andy Velez »
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Offline Boo Radley

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #60 on: March 03, 2007, 07:38:38 PM »
And, this all started because I pointed how aupointillimite had written something which I thought was the exact opposite of how he actually felt.  ................since I think it's unkind to simply ignore an unexpected visitor...................and so many have made it clear that they feel the same way................................

OK, now we're getting somewhere.  You have remained angry at aupointillimite and others who agree they don't like uninvited guests as a general rule.  Aupo was not talking about a friend who seemed suicidally depressed or someone who needed to talk or be with close friends.  Will, the uninvited guest, had nothing better to do.   If a friend came to my door unexpectedly and seemed upset of course I'd try to help -- most of us here would. 

Maybe you don't understand the need to relax and spend time with a close friend (in this case Liz, aupo's roommate) or just time to be alone without interruption, but plenty of other people do.  Are we evil because we want our down time? 

You've taken this incident and made several false conclusions about people here and you need to let it go and get over the anger you obviously feel.  Once your anger diminishes I believe you will see we are as human as you.  No better and no worse. 

Boo 
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Offline HIVworker

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #61 on: March 03, 2007, 07:41:38 PM »
I'm sticking this guy on ignore.

Sincerely

Namless HIVworker (who has called himself Rich about 100 times on the forum)....rolls his eyes
NB. Any advice about HIV is given in addition to your own medical advice and not intended to replace it. You should never make clinical decisions based on what anyone says on the internet but rather check with your ID doctor first. Discussions from the internet are just that - Discussions. They may give you food for thought, but they should not direct you to do anything but fuel discussion.

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #62 on: March 03, 2007, 07:45:48 PM »
Well,

Sorry, Andy, but I'm not a man with a short fuse.  And, I do find it hypocritical when everyone else is allowed to say what they have to say, well except for a few, and you don't feel the need to say anything.

I have been attacked in an unfriendly manner, plain and simple.  And if you're not part of the group well, then you obviously aren't part of the group. 

Just to let you know, not everyone thinks I'm the one with the problem.  If only I could bring myself to be a real dick... and print what they told me in their PM's...who they like and who they don't like.

But, thanks for letting me know how you feel Andy.

I think you're unfair...and those are my valid feelings.  And, i'm thankful for the few people on this site that aren't part of the pack and are able to be objective.

Scott

Offline Lisa

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #63 on: March 03, 2007, 07:51:21 PM »
I accept you for who you are. No limitations, because that is how I was accepted here.



What does pnp stand for?
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Offline Alain

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #64 on: March 03, 2007, 07:53:35 PM »
Plug and Play  ;D

..as in computer easy to install.. :-*

Offline tigger2376

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #65 on: March 03, 2007, 07:54:56 PM »
I'm sorry for sticking my oar in but just can't keep it shut ANY more.
I have been treated with respect and utter lack of villification by the people on this site.
They do not judge me
I respect their advice
If there has ever been a breakdown in communications or a misunderstanding, it has been solved, often with great humour.it is only natural that certain people gravitate to each other, its normal social interaction
NO ONE is any different/better/worse than anyone else. We are all here for the same reason in the end
I know i'm going to enjoy the party in the afterlife, but do you all mind that I'm going to be VERY late!!!

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #66 on: March 03, 2007, 07:56:15 PM »
Sweetest Keeper of Weasels,

"PnP" means "Party and Play". It's a reference to the meth and sex crowd.

MtD
(Who is learned in all the dark arts)

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #67 on: March 03, 2007, 07:56:46 PM »
Thank you, Lisa.

PNP, is an aconym for party and play....meaning that generally gay guys do drugs and have sex...and it's not something specific to South Florida.

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #68 on: March 03, 2007, 07:57:38 PM »
sorry, acronym...

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #69 on: March 03, 2007, 07:59:47 PM »
Thank you Tigger2376 for putting your oars in...

Offline tigger2376

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #70 on: March 03, 2007, 08:06:32 PM »
Was just trying to say, lifes too short already.
if you met someone in a bar and didn't like them, you wouldn't talk to them. why should it be different anywhere else?
There have been plenty of chances to leave this alone, and walk away gracefully. please, just leave it be
I know i'm going to enjoy the party in the afterlife, but do you all mind that I'm going to be VERY late!!!

Offline Moffie65

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #71 on: March 03, 2007, 08:09:29 PM »
This is just like someone coming into a room full of people that know each other and demanding that everyone stop and pay attention to them and do it their way.  It is a mental disability that I don't have to accept or agree with, I've seen it for years and it is just painful.

Scott,............  If you don't stop your shitty attitude, I will reach up your ass and pull your tounge out the bottom so that you can actually get a taste of your shitty attitude!

Andy, and Ann, we may have lost a really good and long termer on this thread, at least the PM I got confirmed it.  I will politely put myself on ban for this post.  And ignore myself,  I am needed in other forums now.

Love,
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and 362 to heterosexuals.
This doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals,
It's just that they need more supervision.
Lynn Lavne

Offline ManISOMan

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #72 on: March 03, 2007, 08:14:13 PM »
Oh great, I thank you, Tigger, thinking at least you acknowledge there is villification here on the forum, and then you tell me walk away leave it be........

When did you become my mother, father, or anyone to tell me to leave it be..........

I'm sick of being told to leave it be, or that I'm the one with the problem.......

I can do this all night, being the drug induced nut that I am...I mean that's what some feel the need to tell me....why don't you just not visit this thread if it bothers you tigger and go visit the porn thread where so much interest lies here on the HIV/Aids site that is actually no more than a get together for an elite group of people with HIV that are friends, and are not welcoming to new people........and thankfully there are exceptions. 

You walk away, go to another thread, let it be.... drop it.........

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Just curious........................
« Reply #73 on: March 03, 2007, 08:18:24 PM »
OK, Scott.

I can see you just don't have any perspective or the willingness to stop before this firefight goes any further. I know you are not going to understand it but I am giving you a one week time out starting right now.

Moffie, we definitely didn't need that fuel added to the fire. 

And I am locking this thread.
Andy Velez

 


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