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Author Topic: Arghargarawrrgh.  (Read 2025 times)

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Offline Mouse

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« on: February 27, 2007, 07:41:44 PM »
ARARARGHGHHAWRGHH. I'm having a tantrum.

Basically, for the past few weeks I've lived permanently with my father  instead of living with my mother and father back and forth twice a week. Ugh, what hell that was. I was with my father Sunday night to Wednesday morning and my mom Wednesday morning to Sunday night.

But, my mom is an even bigger bitch than I am and therefore I decided living with my father was probably healthier. There are personal issues that he is supportive of as well that also influenced me to live with him. But, basically, my mom is irresponsible, selfish, an alcoholic and I suspect she is interested in keeping me only because of the child support I was bringing in for her of which little was spent on me.

Now, my dad has HBV and has recently gone on disability. He's been putting off treatment for a while and I'm glad that he's finally taking care of it before it gets out of hand. Even if I had continued to live with my mother the child support would have decreased drastically and she would not have been able to afford her alcoholic/cigarette/lottery habit that she spends like most of the child support check on. However, she doesn't understand this and loathes my father for going on disability and not giving her as much child support.

Recently, he terminated the child support altogether since I've been living with him because, well, my mother now has no child to support and soon I'll be forced to go into court to officially say I'd like to live with my father permanently because she won't take no for an answer and still thinks that if she can persuade me to live with her she'll get more money.

ANYWAYYY, other than being a total bitch in THAT regard, she's now telling me I can't come and get some of my furniture (book shelves and stuff). Even though a) they belong to me and b) she didn't even pay for them. My father did.

I have such a throbbing headache because of her and I'm so disgusted that I'm not only associated with her but I am also her SPAWN. Christ.

The woman must be stopped.

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #1 on: February 27, 2007, 08:22:42 PM »

I support you in trying to find a sane place to live. I commiserate with the mom horrors, having been forced to endure them myself.

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Offline Mouse

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #2 on: February 27, 2007, 08:29:45 PM »

I support you in trying to find a sane place to live. I commiserate with the mom horrors, having been forced to endure them myself.

(Who loves Little Man very much)

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #3 on: February 27, 2007, 08:36:26 PM »
Try and concentrate on whats going on with you. Mums can be hell. Mine was,for years but since my diagnosis has been great, maybe guilt playing a part. Hope you find a good place to be, physically and emotionally x
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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #4 on: February 27, 2007, 08:54:13 PM »
Moms can be bitches from hell, my ex's mom was and is a total c you next tuesday.  He has deep emotiional scarrs from her. His father was prick as well, so at least you have a nice father. And yes, you are doing the right thing by finding a supportive, healthier environmnet. I hope she lets you have your stuff back and that nothing sentimental was left behind for her to keep from you.

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #5 on: February 27, 2007, 09:27:20 PM »
Gosh, your Ma Dukes sounds like my sister, money hungry. She got pissed too when I went on disability for the same reason your Ma is in a huff. Sounds like to me, you made the right decision and I take it, you and your father get along a lot better. Well sweetie, don't stress it anymore cause you're in a better place. Just do what you gotta do.. ;)
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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #6 on: February 28, 2007, 04:39:45 AM »
Jaser sweetie, you''re a teenager, tantrums are a given! ;)

I'll keep my eye out for you 'you know where' so we can chat.
Meanwhile, keep on hanging in there honey!

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #7 on: February 28, 2007, 11:47:10 AM »
just keep your head up, things will get better

Offline Mouse

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Re: Arghargarawrrgh.
« Reply #8 on: February 28, 2007, 11:47:38 AM »
Thanks you guys. I know I should just let her think whatever she wants and just concentrate on whatever's best for me but I HATE it when disgusting people get away with thinking they're right.

The truth is the time I spent at her house was like hell. In addition to that my father doesn't want all of my animals at his house. I think if I can give my three female mice to my boyfriend to take care of (I'm at his house constantly anyway and will be living with him over the summer) I can persuade my dad to let me keep my rats at his house. I already have Morgan the mouse here, along with my pink-toed tarantula Peter Parker.

I just can't wait until I can actually feel settled down somewhere. I'm tired of moving back and forth from houses and rooms and feeling like every bed I slept in was temporary. Matter of fact, the only bed I've ever slept in that felt permanent is my boyfriend's and I can't be with him as often as I'd like to. But I've started to sort it out here - trying to make my room here feel like home, I guess. Finally being able to take all of my things and have them in one place where I can take care of them. Tacking all of my posters up on the walls - making plans of things I'd like to paint on my bookshelves and furniture and this morning I've even finally aquired little glow-in-the-dark stars to stick to my ceiling that look even more impressive against the blacklight I have next to one of my windows.

Plus books books books books books. I have so many I think I'm going to have to put some up in the attic eventually but I don't want to. I wish I had more shelves.

The point is the walls at my mom's were bare and the room itself was dirty and cramped and dusty. There was a hole in the wall from where I had had a fight with her. My TV didn't work. I opened up the drawers in my desk every day only to find things had been moved around and shifted through. And there were no stars on my ceiling. The thought of having to go back to that place and exist through another two years of hell before I can finally say 'fuck you' and leave is unbearable. It'd be like escaping from the dankest torture chamber in hell only to be sent back to it the second you feel at peace somewhere.

I'm fortunate to have somewhere to run away to. Me and my dad had problems in the past but when it comes down to everything basic it just makes sense to live somewhere where you don't feel cornered.


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