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Author Topic: Am I over-reacting?  (Read 4609 times)

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Offline Jimmy2005

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Am I over-reacting?
« on: June 17, 2006, 08:56:59 AM »
Hi Im very worried could one of you guys help me out. I recently when to Thailand and Had protected intercourse with 6 women The condoms seem to be ok and not break. I received Oral sex without a condom on three occassions. I have caught Gonorrhoea Im told this makes it easier to catch HIV. What risk am I from contracting HIV from these events.

Protected Sex
Un-protected Oral Women to Man
Fingering Women.

Please advise

Offline RapidRod

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Re: What risk Have I put myself At
« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2006, 09:58:39 AM »
Apparently you contracted Gonorrhoea from the oral sex. At no time were you at risk for HIV infection.

Offline Jimmy2005

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Re: What risk Have I put myself At
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2006, 10:04:32 AM »
Why do people say Gonorrhoea makes it easier to catch HIV?

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Re: What risk Have I put myself At
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2006, 10:16:19 AM »
Jimmy,

Gonorrhea makes it easier to catch hiv when the gonorrhea is a pre-existing condition. This is due to the inflammation that gonorrhea or other similar infections cause in the mucus membranes they infect.

However, saliva is not infectious for hiv and that is why getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection.

You could have also gotten gonorrhea from getting some vaginal fluids on the head of your penis. This is also not a risk for hiv infection. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus whereas gonorrhea is very easily transmitted and can sometimes be transmitted even when a condom is used. Condom do provide excellent protection from hiv. As I said, hiv is very difficult to transmit, especially to the insertive partner.

While you don't need to test for hiv over these incidents, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Ann
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Re: What risk Have I put myself At
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2006, 10:36:22 AM »
You're talking about two different health problems. Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. The number of partners was irrelevant in your incidents. The key thing is that you used a condom each time for intercourse, which is exactly what you're supposed to do. Receiving oral is absolutely not a risk for HIV transmission. There's never been a case of transmission in that manner and you aren't going to make history by becoming the first.

Gonorrhea can be contracted via touching the throat, penis, vagina or ass of someone who has the infection. In your case it could certainly have occured through getting oral.

If you're HIV negative and have gonorrhea, it can inflame your mucosal membranes making you more vulnerable to HIV transmission through unprotected intercourse.

Happily you were using condoms and that's exactly what you should keep on doing.

Cheers,

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Andy Velez

Offline Jimmy2005

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Is it all just stress.
« Reply #5 on: July 22, 2006, 01:14:20 PM »
Hi guys I hope someone can help me. I'm 22, Male straight. I went to Thailand Had protected sex with 6 women. I'm a Male and used condom every occasion. I did get oral multiple times... when I got Home I went for a check up and had a UTI (NSU). But I know you have to wait until 13 weeks to get a test. It's so stressful, weird Things are going through my head, Like Did the Condom break? what if somehow blood was passed?. Not only that It's like all i'm hearing about on News or in banta is Catching HIV and I feel like someone is telling me I have been infected. It's been 7 weeks now since I was in Thailand. I'm scared to get tested because if it comes back positive I don't no what i'll do. My anxiety is unreal, All day everyday I can't stop thinking about it. Also I don't think I have a very good immune system anyway as I always have a cold, and get sick quiet easily. What advice can you guys give me?.

Thanks

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Re: Is it all just stress.
« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2006, 01:51:48 PM »
Jimmy,
Before an expert replies I would suggest you read the lessons of HIV

http://www.aidsmeds.com/lessons/StartHere1.htm

I've learned alot since i've been here and that is the best place to start. You will notice that condoms do provide an excellent barrier.

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Re: Is it all just stress.
« Reply #7 on: July 22, 2006, 02:06:43 PM »
Jimmy, condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. As long as you wore one for each of your incidents you don't have to worry about HIV.

There are other STDs out there so if you are sexually active it is a good idea to have the standard panel of STD tests done regularly. That means at least once a year and every six months is even better.

If you're having any symptoms they are not about HIV and you should discuss them with your doctor.

This time out you don't have any need for HIV testing nor for further concern. Please read the lesson on this site about transmission if you haven't already done so. It covers all the basics you need to know.

Cheers, 
Andy Velez

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Re: Is it all just stress.
« Reply #8 on: July 22, 2006, 05:01:38 PM »
Jimmy,

It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread. With this in mind, I'm locking this one so you can return to your original thread

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Jimmy2005

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HIV fear Anxiety Disorder
« Reply #9 on: August 06, 2006, 10:59:00 AM »
Hello All. I think many people posting on this site ( Including me ). May all have a anxiety disorder. I had protected Sex and unprotected oral (BJ) with 4 female sex workers on Holiday with my Friends in Thailand. But for some reason I can't stop thinking about HIV. And the big question - What If ?

What if the condom broke? etc.

This was 9 weeks ago. I have not been tested. But i'm extremly scared to get tested as I have convinced myself I have HIV. My friends who also had protected sex on Holiday don't even think about HIV or Getting tested... But me on the other hand. Day in Day out it's on my mind. I ask myself questions like what will I do if it's positive?

Does anyone else posting on this forum have the same issues. Even though these experts are telling us it's unlikey we choose to still worry. FEAR disorder. Is anyone else going through this please reply.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: HIV fear Anxiety Disorder
« Reply #10 on: August 06, 2006, 12:47:19 PM »
Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. Nothing you have reported leads me to think you have any reason to be concerned about HIV in relation to your actions while on vacation.

You can have as much sex as you like, including with someone who is HIV+, as long as you always use condoms for intercourse.

So this is really about your doing a job on you with a bunch of what ifs. Maybe there are some other things about the experiences in terms of your feelings which are sparking your fears. Only you would know if that is so.

What I can tell you is that you were not at risk for HIV this time.

In general I do recommend that anyone who's sexually active should get tested with a full panel of STD tests regularly. That means at least once a year and once every six months is even better. I say this not because you were at risk but because it's just a prudent thing to do.

This time out I don't see any cause for concern about HIV even though your mind may continue to work overtime and saying differently.

Andy Velez

Offline whymewhyg

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Re: HIV fear Anxiety Disorder
« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2006, 01:23:19 PM »
i know exactly how you feel..

when i get sick i start to question it , when my gf feels ill i start to wonder....
i always think about how bad id take it.... what id do and where id go if i couldnt face some who id had infected..
the more you wonder the more you believe its real...

its not just you man, its so many of us

Offline nuttygal

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Re: HIV fear Anxiety Disorder
« Reply #12 on: August 06, 2006, 08:33:13 PM »
i completely relate.

i am diagnosed with OCD, and know i am prone to irrational fears, yet somehow i always believe that this particular fear is rational. after protected sex with my ex boyfriend, who was known to be bi but we were protected the few times we slept together, and i became really frightened, convinced i hadn't noticed a condom leak or break, etc.

the kind people on this site really help, and they're all very brave/strong and make my fears seem ridiculous, yet it's hard to let the worry go. i always feel i have left out a detail that will convince the experts my problem really is HIV.

all i can say is, we should be embracing our negative status and helping in the fight against the virus instead of being consumed by worry. easier said than done, i know, but a good goal.

Offline Ann

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Re: HIV fear Anxiety Disorder
« Reply #13 on: August 07, 2006, 04:34:01 AM »
Jimmy,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Jimmy2005

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Am I over-reacting?
« Reply #14 on: July 28, 2008, 11:27:40 AM »
Hi, guys great forum.

I have a really bad fear I may have been exposed to HIV, I recently went to Thailand (4 weeks ago today)
I had sex (Protected) with five Women CSW whilst visiting. I always use a condom, and did on every occasion.
I checked the condoms and they did not break or tear, I also receive Oral sex once without a condom.

So in total, I had protected vaginal sex with Five different women, and  unprotected oral sex once.
I have been searching the net for symptoms and feel i may have some very minor symptoms, Mouth ulcers, Body aches and minor swollen salivary glands.

I also feel tired, Fatigue and very stressed out!

I understand i may be suffering from Anxiety, my question is How many people on this forum or you have examined have ever caught HIV from protected sex?

I will get a blood test at 10 weeks, but to be honest i'm extremely worried it might be positive, and don't know if i can bring myself to test.

Offline Ann

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Re: Am I over-reacting?
« Reply #15 on: July 28, 2008, 01:33:48 PM »
Jimmy,

Once again, I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

Yes, you're overreacting. Protected intercourse is just that, protected. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. People do not become infected with hiv when condoms are used.

Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is not a risk for hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected through getting blown and you won't be the first.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Jimmy2005

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Anxiety and OCD or real risk?
« Reply #16 on: September 25, 2008, 09:25:20 AM »
Hi, i have posted on this forum before, as i have been in the same situation. Can you please let me know
if i'm worrying to much. I visit Thailand about 14 weeks ago, I always use condoms when i'm over there. I'm a male, and had protected vaginal sex with
5 CSW, from what i remember condom's were used correctly, not breaking.

On one occasion i received  un-protected oral sex.

About one week later, I started getting worried. I got mild sore throat, tender/swollen salivary glands, and fatigue.

I'm completely obsessed with HIV now, and have recently started getting mouth ulcers. This has convinced me i might of caught the virus.
I don't want to get tested as i have to much fear, I have also noticed the tip of my penis/urethra is red.

In your profession opinion do i have a risk, or need to get tested.

K

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Re: Am I over-reacting?
« Reply #17 on: September 25, 2008, 09:40:49 AM »
Jimmy, I've merged your threads. As you have previously been requested to do, please follow our rule and keep all of your entries in this thread and don't start any new ones again.

You've been coming here long enough to know the answer to the questions you have raised. Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. You used them for intercourse. Good. So there's no risk there.

As far as receiving unprotected oral, in the entire history of the epidemic there's never been a documented case of transmisson in that manner. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first.

No, there's no need for testing. But maybe it's time for you to consider seeing a therapist or other mental health professional to discuss your fears since there seems to be a recurring pattern. We can't help you with that here. We can only evaluate what you tell us in terms of risk and as far as that is concerned you were not at risk. Period.   
Andy Velez

 


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