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Offline fear64

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I'M Scared
« on: February 12, 2007, 01:44:13 PM »
Hello,
my question is much like others on this forum.  Here goes... I went to one of these porn theaters.  While there I masturbated another man.  I had a small nick on the backside of my index finger.  I have read that this poses a theoretical risk.  I do not think I got any semen on my finger.  Also, I used some hand sanitizer right after I was finished so as to make sure I could not have any infectious fluids on my hands.  My concern is that if there was a miniscule amount of semen I could have rubbed it into the nick on my finger causing infection.  Is this at all possible?  I am a married man and do feel some guilt over the episode.  My wife will be wanting to have sex soon and I don't want to be scared of that.  Does this even warrant testing??  I need to know if it is safe to have unprotected sex with her.  The incident occured 3 weeks ago today.  I have not had any symptoms other that a post nasal drip which I know is not an HIV symptom.  Please HELP!!!!

Thank you very much
In Fear ???

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #1 on: February 12, 2007, 02:45:18 PM »
Fear, you can relax about this incident. HIV is a fragile virus and not easily transmitted. As you have noted, the risk was strictly theoretical.

In the real world of HIV this very common sexual activity has never been documented as a means of transmission, your nicks and such notwithstanding.

Take a breath and let it go. Guilt is just bad news in a relationship.

No testing necessary. Just get on with your life.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline fear64

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #2 on: February 12, 2007, 02:59:04 PM »
thanks Andy! 
I have called the local health dept STD/HIV information line and they said"No RISK as long as you had intact skin"  The fear comes from not having intact skin.  Is it your opinion that it is safe to haver sex with my wife?  That is the real issue.  I can deal with the guilt if I know that it is safe to be intimate with my wife.  Beleive me, I am never doing this again.  I ahve read many posts on here and the Transmission lessons but they don't really address handjobs.  Is that because they are safe?

Thanks,

Hope I am not being a pest

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #3 on: February 12, 2007, 03:13:44 PM »
Yes, as far as I am concerned it IS safe for you to have sex with your wife.

If you haven't already done so, please read the lesson on Transmission on this site. There's a link to in the Welcome thread which opens this section.

I don't see any need for testing nor for further concern on your part.
Andy Velez

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #4 on: February 12, 2007, 03:46:55 PM »
Fear you ahve been given sound advice from Andy.  I would just like to concur with him, you did not have a risky incident. 

I personally would not test over this situation either.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

Offline fear64

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2007, 04:05:00 PM »
Thanks to both of you.  The only shred of doubt actually comes from the Lesson on Transmission.  It stated that HIV enters the body through unprotected vaginal or anal sex, through mucous membranes or breaks in the skin.  I have read the lessons and understand them thoroughly.  I did have the nick on my finger and that has me a little scared.  I do think you both have given sound advise.  If it can enter through breaks in the skin then why does a nick/cut on a finger not pose a risk as stated in your posts?  I am not trying to be disrespectful and am taking your advice... just don't understand the Theoretical VS. Actual risk thing.  I am also not questioning you comments either.


Thanks and appreciate what you do for all of us in this type of situation.
With utmost respect,
Fear

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #6 on: February 12, 2007, 04:17:12 PM »
Theoretical VS. Actual risk thing.  I am also not questioning you comments either

To help with the theoretical vs actual imagine time travel.  Theoretically its possible.  But can you time travel?
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

Offline fear64

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #7 on: February 12, 2007, 04:24:44 PM »
Good analogy.  I will say that I am still a little worked up over the incident but you have both helped ease my fears.  Hopefully I will not be back.  Thanks to Andy and ACinKC.  I will try to let it go. 

Best of Luck to both of you!

Fear

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Re: I'M Scared
« Reply #8 on: February 12, 2007, 04:26:31 PM »
fear,

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus. Successful transmission occurs INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. When hiv finds itself outside the human body, it quickly becomes damaged and unable to infect.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection in your mutual masturbation incident. Not one person has ever become infected this way and you will not be the first.

Ann
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