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Author Topic: I need help, depressed for a year,am i infected?  (Read 17982 times)

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Offline man_apart

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #100 on: September 10, 2006, 05:50:13 PM »
Like we have said before you DO NOT know enough about HIV. If anyone has Positive result it's documented. It's a requirement that all positive results are documented and reported to the health department. So if someone wants to claim they were infected by unusual circumstances, it would be investigated and reported to the CDC.

Thanks for answering the question, and again, I NEVER CLAIMED TO KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT HIV, that is why i am here in the first place!Ann is right so are u, I should not have sent this link to this guy. I apologize.
So now u r saying that in all the cases where someone tested +ve for HIv, there has never been a single person who got it from deep kissing, or mutual masterbation? This will be my last question.

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #101 on: September 10, 2006, 05:57:33 PM »
Man,

According to the PM I received from Aussie, he's not too pleased with you either. This site does not exist to allow people with over the top hiv worries to enable each other to become more worried. Just stay out of other people's threads and stop PMing links to dodgy claims to other people.

Documented means that a person's claim as to how they were infected has been proven by scientific and medical evidence. This pandemic has been going for over twenty-five years now - don't you think that we know a thing or two about how it is and is NOT transmitted by now? Neither kissing nor mutual masturbation are risks for hiv infection.

Ann
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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #102 on: September 10, 2006, 06:00:17 PM »
Correct. That's what I'm saying. Every testing facilities has to report all positive results, not the persons name but the positive result.

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #103 on: September 10, 2006, 06:25:29 PM »
Ann, and Rod, thank u every much for the clarification. I now understand what u r saying, I just dont understand that why when people (including myself) give u other details, like in my case gum disease and inflammation(gingivitis), u still say NO risk,eventhough the other person is possibly HIV +ve. and always say we r trying to put a spin on it!! wouldnt the prescence of inflammation make an entrance for the virus? or u also mean that there has not been documented cases EVEN WITH the prescence of inflammation/gum disease when it comes to deep kissing?. Thank you, this will be my last posting.
I do apologize again for pming other members. God bless u all....
« Last Edit: September 10, 2006, 06:59:09 PM by man_apart »

Offline RapidRod

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #104 on: September 10, 2006, 06:34:08 PM »
If you gave someone a bj then we would say it's on the lowest end of risk levels. It's a vanishing theoretical risk to begin with. You do now what theoretical means don't you? There has never been a risk of HIV infection by receiving a bj. Since this is your last post on AidsMeds. I wish you luck. Life is not meant to be lived in fears.

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #105 on: September 11, 2006, 08:16:56 PM »
If you gave someone a bj then we would say it's on the lowest end of risk levels. It's a vanishing theoretical risk to begin with. You do now what theoretical means don't you? There has never been a risk of HIV infection by receiving a bj. Since this is your last post on AidsMeds. I wish you luck. Life is not meant to be lived in fears.

I dont know if u were giving an example, but my risk was not receiving a bj. I know what a theoritical risk means, but u guys just dont want to reason, if i say i have gum disease and gingivitis, u still stay no risk, like it is the law! won't inflammation make transmission possible? or just the presecence of saliva eliminates that possibilty? also if the person has high viral load, won't this play a role? Dr. H said so on one of his posts on medhelp. Also the duration of kissing (hours) isnt this enough to cause small injury in the lips and mouth from the lip sucking, tongue sucking, soft biting movement? or still makes no difference.
I know i said i wont post again, i dont want to be hated by the people here, coz i have a feeling i will be part of ur family pretty soon, it is just i had classic ARS symptoms 2 weeks post exposure, and 4 swollen nodes in the neck -confirmed- (still present 3 months post exposure), what other possibilities do i have???  I made an appointment with an HIV specialist and i will go and let u guys know the result, can someone give me a final comment on these comments that i just made? I think I might be irrational, but with all the facts i presented, i need someone to discuss them with me , other than attacking me and saying not to post again. I know u guys r here to help not to make ppl feel bad or sad.!!

p.s I know i caught sthg from this girl, i just cant think of anything else that has these symptoms except hiv, considering that she is possibly hiv +ve.
« Last Edit: September 11, 2006, 08:21:14 PM by man_apart »

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #106 on: September 11, 2006, 08:21:49 PM »
man,

Am I Infected? is not a discussion forum nor an intensive therapy site for people with unfounded fears regarding HIV. We have been more than patient with you. You've repaid that patience and effort by repeatedly breaching the rules, ignoring the good advice and guidance you've been given and harassing our other members with unwanted and offensive private messages.

We are not here to debate the mechanics of HIV infection with you. We're not interested in what your opinions on these matters might be. Largely because you're wrong on these issues. There are plenty of other places on the internet where you can argue with people about this stuff.

AIDSMEDS is not one of them.

Your needs are outside the scope of what we are able to provide here. It's time for you to move on, before an enraged Moderator moves you on forcibly.

MtD

Offline man_apart

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Re: I need someone to answer me, please ...please
« Reply #107 on: September 11, 2006, 08:27:31 PM »
man,

Am I Infected? is not a discussion forum nor an intensive therapy site for people with unfounded fears regarding HIV. We have been more than patient with you. You've repaid that patience and effort by repeatedly breaching the rules, ignoring the good advice and guidance you've been given and harassing our other members with unwanted and offensive private messages.

We are not here to debate the mechanics of HIV infection with you. We're not interested in what your opinions on these matters might be. Largely because you're wrong on these issues. There are plenty of other places on the internet where you can argue with people about this stuff.

AIDSMEDS is not one of them.

Your needs are outside the scope of what we are able to provide here. It's time for you to move on, before an enraged Moderator moves you on forcibly.

MtD
I never intentionally meant to break the rules (sometimes ppl do wrong things when they are not in the right state of mind and i apologize about that), I never offended anyone in here!!, I always showed respect to everyone here, I am not debating the mechanics and i am not qualified to do so, i am merely asking questions to get advice in return not to argue with anyone. (i am in no position to argue) .
This is exactly what i am talking about, i am expressing myself and trying to understand, and u just attack me and threaten me to be kicked out of the forum. I will not have any further posts (this time for real) , I thank everyone for their patience and advice.

Offline man_apart

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« Reply #108 on: October 01, 2006, 02:10:49 PM »
I dont know what to say, but you guys were right all way long. I finally built the courage and tested after 4 months with the rapid oraquick and it came back negative!! I couldnt believe it myself and can still hardly believe it!! I felt the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. I am still kind of worried that it might be a false negative in that I didnt swipe the thing correctly and it didnt have enough saliva on it, but everyone assures me there is no false negative with this test and after 4 months.
I want to send special thanks to Rodney, he has been patient with me, also special thanks to Ann, Mr. Velez, and matthew. Guys I owe u my life, i kept thinking of all ur posts while waiting for my results. I also volunteered in the biggest AIDS organization where I am, and will attend my first meeting soon to prepare for the AIDS walk.  This is the least I can do to say thank u.
Thank you AIDSMEDS from the bottom of my heart, I am no longer man_apart.....

Offline sad_sad

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I need help, depressed for a year,am i infected?
« Reply #109 on: April 06, 2007, 03:51:37 AM »
hi everyone, I will  make this as short as I can.
about 1 year ago i dated this girl for 2 weeks, she is a high risk person (history of injecting drugs, etc..)
I had a few encounters with her that involved prolonged french kissing (for hours), and she masterbated me twice and I fingered her deeply and vigorously for long times and got vaginal secretions on my hands.
about 4 weeks after, i got sick like never before:
-worst sore throat ever - night sweats- chills -diarrhea -loss of appetite  - white coating on tongue -lost 15 pounds , about 2 weeks later i had swollen lymph nodes on my jaw line mainly one under my left ear a size of a miniture egg. I felt like crap for 6 weeks almost.
, sever pain in my axillary lymph nodes that lasted for 4 weeks,I had a rapid oral test for hiv 4 months after that which came back negative.
i had 2 sexual encounters with 2 different girls after that , it was protected vaginal sex and unprotected oral (give and take), both girls tested and came back negative.
My doctor tested me for std , all came back negative. I tested positive for EBV and herpes 1, he couldnt tell if my ebv was recent or not.
since then i still have swollen lymph nodes on my jaw line, they never went down. My doctor couldnt figure out why my lymph nodes were swollen.

I am afraid the oral test was  a false negative. i have been scared and depressed every single minute of my life for a year. I have a gf now and she is pregnant. I am scared to death that I passed hiv to her and my baby will be hiv +ve. I tried to build the courage to get a blood test for hiv but i am scared like hell. I cant get this out of mind. please tell me honestly 
1-what is the chance of me having hiv?

2-do i need to get tested again?

3- could my oral hiv test results be a false negative? does that happen?

4- Why are my lymph nodes still swollen?

Please answer me, i can't think of anything everyday except that I have hiv, my doctor put me on meds for anxiety and depression, but nothing is helping, i tried counseling but didnt help, please help me.... ???

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« Reply #110 on: April 06, 2007, 06:23:52 AM »
sad sad,



Can I ask why you are using different usernames while posting to our forums? Thus far, you have also used man_apart

Please realize that this kind of activity is disrespectful of other forum members, as well as our moderators. People spend a considerable amount of time helping others in these forums. Using multiple accounts is at the very least annoying, if not deceiving and disrespectful of others. It is also against our Terms of Membership which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread, which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse.

You must realize that the answers won't change, no matter how many names you post under.

I would appreciate a reply to this message, and I hope you will commit to using just one account - preferably your original one. If not, you will be banned from further access to the forums.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: I need help, depressed for a year,am i infected?
« Reply #111 on: April 06, 2007, 06:28:44 AM »
Ann, I forgot what my user name and password are as i havent been here in months, i am not tryin to play any games whatsoever or be disrespectful 2 anyone, i came here for help and i was afraid to say that i have been here before as i know everyone will ignore me :-\
« Last Edit: April 06, 2007, 06:33:24 AM by sad_sad »

Offline Ann

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Re: I need help, depressed for a year,am i infected?
« Reply #112 on: April 06, 2007, 06:36:44 AM »
sad,

Now that you know what your old username was, if you still can't remember your password, then use the link provided for such an occasion. I'm disabling your new account and merging your threads. Re-read your old thread - our answers are not going to change.

If you cannot accept your negative result from a no risk incident, then I suggest you seek counseling to learn how to cope with your sexual anxiety. We cannot do that for you here.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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