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Author Topic: Was stress and scared...done venting  (Read 2750 times)

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Offline skeebo1969

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Was stress and scared...done venting
« on: January 23, 2007, 05:54:36 PM »

    Whew thanks...lol
« Last Edit: January 23, 2007, 09:43:11 PM by skeebo1969 »
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline bear60

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Re: A little stressed and a little scared.... I need to vent
« Reply #1 on: January 23, 2007, 05:59:44 PM »
Thomas....You know what you want.  Just find the right way to do it....to get what you want.
You could always hand out applications for GODFATHER  to everyone here. 
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Offline DanKenny

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Re: A little stressed and a little scared.... I need to vent
« Reply #2 on: January 23, 2007, 06:26:57 PM »
Thomas,

sorry about your confusion and the intensity of your plight -- it is quite evident.  but hey, one thing stands out more than anything else -- your love for the woman and your really high opinion of her....

I would say stick to your hopes - she has been there for you... and she will need your support.  You know, one thing that I have learnt is that our own confidence radiates and influences those who want to help us. Re the pregnancy, increasingly, there are positive outcomes.  many people are now giving birth to negative babies, provided proper prenatal care is taken.  So focus on that.  I have a 8 yr old son who is + and is doing very fine...has been undetectable since age 2, and doing very well.  So, don't get so down.  There is a lot in the offing for you both. Why don't you want to marry her...there should be no rush or pressure to do so..take your time...and i'm sure you both will come out fine.

take care....DK
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09/07:   771   ~    <50     ~   29%
03/07:   493   ~    227      ~   22%
02/07:   Began Meds ~~ ATRIPLA
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Offline koi1

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Re: A little stressed and a little scared.... I need to vent
« Reply #3 on: January 23, 2007, 06:52:46 PM »
Hi,

It seems like the love you will give this baby regardless of hiv status is what will make this child thrive. I know of a family friend who has a daughte who is doing fine, and she is in her teens now. If she is getting proper pre-natal care, than the chances of it being poz are very low. I heard that c-section delivered babies with mom taking hiv meds and prohylactic doses for the child reduces the risk by over 90 percent. Anywhow looks like you need to get on her insurance to avoid more anxiety as far as your quality of care is concerned. Some employers only require domestic partnership to be eligible for insurance coverage.

Lots of luck

rob
diagnosed on 11/20/06 viral load 23,000  cd4 97    8%
01/04/07 six weeks after diagnosis vl 53,000 cd4 cd4 70    6%
Began sustiva truvada 01/04/07
newest labs  drawn on 01/15/07  vl 1,100    cd4 119    7%
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Offline Life

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Re: A little stressed and a little scared.... I need to vent
« Reply #4 on: January 23, 2007, 07:39:04 PM »
Thomas, I just speak from my experience being Married to Will....  I know my troubles are now "Times Two."  As well, my joys are also "Times Two"...   I still feel the benefit of being together is what carried me through the troubles.  I hope I can do the same for hiim when or if that time ever comes...   Tom, be at peace with youself and listen.  You will get the right answer.  But I dont think we can tell you which way to turn here..

Love,

Offline Longislander

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Re: A little stressed and a little scared.... I need to vent
« Reply #5 on: January 23, 2007, 08:31:54 PM »
Hey Buddy, you know where I stand. And we're all here for you, through all the future happiness, too!

Paul
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5/06   ?? /37000                     8/07 491/55000/24%    9/09 913/U/39%
8/06   349/9500 25%              11/07 515/68000/24     2/10 845/U/38%
9/06   507/16,000 30% !          2/08  516/116k/22%    7/10 906/80/39%
12/06 398/29000 26%             Start Atripla 3/08
3/07   402/80,000 29%            4/08  485/undet!/27
4/07   507/35,000 25%            7/08 625/UD/34%
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #6 on: January 24, 2007, 12:50:13 AM »
I got your back even though I don't know what you said. I'm kinda piecing things together from other folks replies. I agree w/ what the others are saying in regards to the pregnancy. Don't stress yourself out, big man, things will come together, you will see. Much love.... :-*
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Offline ACinKC

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #7 on: January 24, 2007, 11:05:41 AM »
As queen said im kind of piecing this all together from the other posts.  But my initial reaction is this:

I wouldnt be nearly as worried about the HIV as I would about you actually spawning a little thomas/thomasina onto this world!!!  I just dont think we could handle it!

Otherwise, you will handle this like all things in your life....head on and full of gusto!
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

Offline Robert

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #8 on: January 24, 2007, 12:59:16 PM »
you know you've got support from all of us here.  I say go for it.  I think that would be so cool.  This little boy would be Cody's angel.....HOw sweet is that?

robert
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Offline bear60

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #9 on: January 24, 2007, 05:19:48 PM »
wow ..............an AIDSMED baby!
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Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #10 on: January 24, 2007, 10:19:29 PM »


   Thanks everyone for the kind words... 

   Sorry for the confusion with deleting my initial post.  I have been a little out of it the last few days.   I am going on little sleep because of my knee which is really beginning to get on my last nerves.  Tomorrow I go in for my first lab results since starting meds and a physical which I know will be done half ass-ed by the sorry nurse practitioner I must deal with.  It is amazing she is allowed to even work with HIV/AIDS patients.  She also oversees case management there.   I go from absolutely the best health care I can imagine in Miami to this lying piece of shit bonehead...  Sorry I had to say it.

  On to better things though..  J (my girl) is in her 5th week..  I am pampering her to the hilt at home and from what she tells me they are giving her the royal treatment at work.  She got her labs back last week and they were Cd4 829 and Vl undetectable... 

  She went to the person i human resources today at work and they told her I would be added to her insurance 30 days after we got married.  I do wonder about any pre existing condition clause though.  When she started there she immediately got insurance and nothing was ever said, so maybe it would be the same for me.  We have not set a date yet.  I just do not want it to be a forced thing because of the pregnancy and insurance reasons, however I do agree with her that we should get married before the baby is born.

  Right now the names of choice have already been chosen... If it's a boy it will be Thomas Jr. ; if it is a girl it will be Lila Jade.  Not sure if  I am spelling it right, I am going by what J told me she wanted for a girl's name.  It is pronounced LIE  LA  so correct me if you know.  I would ask her, but I have already put her to bed... ;D

  Thanks again all...

  Thomas


  Edited:  I originally goofed and said these were my first labs...
 
« Last Edit: January 24, 2007, 10:33:35 PM by skeebo1969 »
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline Life

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #11 on: January 24, 2007, 10:22:50 PM »
Thomas, this so wonderful!  ;)

Thomas there are many states that say hiv/aids cannot be charecterized as pre-existing.  Find out...

Offline poet

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #12 on: January 25, 2007, 07:02:23 AM »
Sounds real good, Thomas.  I read your thread earlier and even searched for past posts to see where you had been venting.  Glad to hear that I didn't miss something important.  Yes, Lila is pronounced Lie/la here, too in the commonwealth of MA. :)  Best, Win
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Offline aztecan

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #13 on: January 25, 2007, 09:11:23 AM »
Thomas,

Since I have absolutely no experience in these matters, at least not first hand, all I will say is congratulations!  ;D

Oh, and WOW!  ;D

By the way, I like the new photo.

HUGS,

Mark
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Offline joemutt

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #14 on: January 26, 2007, 05:51:30 AM »
That's nice that you're going to have a baby, I love children.
Be well Thomas, Joe.

Offline Razorbill

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #15 on: January 26, 2007, 06:05:44 AM »
Congrats!!!  A round of fried rice for everybody!!  You're life's going to busy and very fufilling and I'm happy for you.  Great news on the marriage and the insurance.  Change is scary - but Thomas, these all look like good changes, really good.
Ernie

Offline IzPoz

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #16 on: January 26, 2007, 06:49:16 AM »
Thomas,

Congratulations on the impending birth and your engagement!!

With respect to the insurance, you should be fine.  I did the same thing with my husband when I added him to my policy, and he was covered right away.  So, you shouldn't worry about it.  You have better things to worry about :)
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Offline ACinKC

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #17 on: January 26, 2007, 11:30:53 AM »
Dude I am so excited.  Kids change you, I know its cliche but man, there is nothing like it.  The love of a parent for a child is the most powerful thing in the world. 

Ive got two of em so if you want any pointers you can PM me anytime but you know that!

I have one very serious question:  WHEN AND WHERE IS THE BACHELOR PARTY!  That shit is gonna be off da hook!!!  (thats me bein gangsta)
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

Offline allopathicholistic

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #18 on: January 26, 2007, 11:41:52 AM »
Cute baby names!   ;D

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #19 on: January 26, 2007, 04:58:59 PM »
Dude I am so excited.  Kids change you, I know its cliche but man, there is nothing like it.  The love of a parent for a child is the most powerful thing in the world. 

Ive got two of em so if you want any pointers you can PM me anytime but you know that!

I have one very serious question:  WHEN AND WHERE IS THE BACHELOR PARTY!  That shit is gonna be off da hook!!!  (thats me bein gangsta)

  LMAO!!  AC where have you been?  I have two of my own...  A 15 year old and a 4 year old, both girls!!  I wonder how much more I'll change, I've already been Mr. Mom for the last 4 years.

Bachelor party at my house... We can all have a 40 ounce and a dime bag of your choice... (Now that's gangsta!).

Before I get slammed for being a bad dad...  I just do pizza! ;)

That reminds me I got some coupons yesterday in the mail for Pizza Hut's hand tossed pizza....  yummmm I want some red onions, mushrooms, and pepperoni!

Cute baby names!   ;D

 Thanks Alex... 

 
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Offline Jerry71

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #20 on: January 26, 2007, 05:19:21 PM »
Congrats are in order for you Tom. ;)

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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #21 on: January 26, 2007, 05:21:25 PM »
I'm hopnig and wishing that everything will end up great for ya.

Hugs,
Justin
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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #22 on: January 28, 2007, 02:46:01 AM »
hey Tom

Just caught up on this thread.
Congratulations and good luck.

steve
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Re: Was stress and scared...done venting
« Reply #23 on: January 28, 2007, 03:11:06 AM »


  Thanks for the well wishes....
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

 


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