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Condom Breakage
« on: January 10, 2007, 06:11:25 AM »
I recently had protected sex (5 weeks ago approx) with a girl from a massage parlour. Everything was ok as far as I know as the condom did not break or slip off. After we had finished having sex and I withdrew my penis I noticed blood on the condom that must have come from my date. The sight of the blood freaked me out, but I tried to be rational and thought because I used a condom there would be no problem. I tried to forget about everything but recently I have begun to feel a little bit under the weather with mild feelings of tiredness and a rough chest. I know this sounds dumb but I can't help but feel this is due to my encounter in the massage parlour. 
« Last Edit: January 17, 2007, 03:11:52 PM by brightside »

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Re: Slightly worried. Am I just being silly!!!
« Reply #1 on: January 10, 2007, 06:24:43 AM »
bright,

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection and it doesn't matter if blood is present or not, they still protect. You didn't have a risk.

You should use condoms no matter if your partner is a sex worker or the girl/guy next door. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: Slightly worried. Am I just being silly!!!
« Reply #2 on: January 10, 2007, 06:44:10 AM »
It was a stupid thing of me to do. From everything I have ever read and from whatever information I have found I have always been aware that protected sex is protected sex. It was just that I've been feeling a bit unwell recently, nothing major, just not my usual self. This has heightened my anxiety about the incident in question. I guess the sight of the blood also freaked me out as this has never happened to me before. Thank you for your advice, I think everyone here does a fantastic job and provides proper factual information rather than the gossip and hogwash you're likely to here in the pub!Thanks again.

Brightside.

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Re: Slightly worried. Am I just being silly!!!
« Reply #3 on: January 10, 2007, 07:03:40 AM »
bright,

There's no point in beating yourself up about having sex. It's a basic human urge and we're hard-wired to do it. Instead of calling your actions stupid, call them smart. You were smart to use a condom.

Don't forget it's cold and flu season and there are plenty of bugs going around. Get adequate rest and make sure you wash your hands several times a day. Most colds and flu are spread via our hands when we rub our eyes or put a finger in our mouths.

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Re: Slightly worried. Am I just being silly!!!
« Reply #4 on: January 10, 2007, 07:14:52 AM »
I am the world's biggest hypochondriac, so anything to do with my health always scares the **** out of me anyway. I feel angry because it would be so much simpler for someone with my paranoia to totally avoid any situation that may potentially put my health at risk, but as you say I'm only human. We all are. You're right, it wouldn't be much of a surprise to feel a bit low at this time of the year. Guess I'm just overeacting!!! Thanks again for all your help. The support you give to those worried about these issues is invaluable. First class.

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Unsure of some things
« Reply #5 on: January 11, 2007, 10:59:19 AM »
Ok, I posted on here yesterday about a recent encounter I had that I felt may have put me at risk. The responses I got helped ease my mind but I just wanted to know what the chances are of becoming infected through touching infected blood/vaginal fluids with your hands as you may do when removing a condom or even using your fingers to arousal a girl. I've heard that you would need to have an open wound on your hands, but some cuts and wounds are so small you may not even know you have them. Can anyone clarify this for me?

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« Reply #6 on: January 11, 2007, 11:21:47 AM »
bright,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

Skin is an excellent barrier against hiv. Forget about the small cuts etc, if you had a cut that was anything to worry about, you'd know it and you'd hardly be doing anything of a sexual nature with a hand cut that badly. When skin is cut, it immediately starts to heal and protect against the entry of pathogens.

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #7 on: January 11, 2007, 11:38:17 AM »
Ok, so unless I have an open wound that is losing blood then I don't need to worry? As you say if this was the case then I certainly wouldn't be doing anything of a sexual nature with my hands or any other part of my body that had an open wound. Thanks a lot for the clarification, its been a big help.

Brightside

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Condom effectiveness?
« Reply #8 on: January 11, 2007, 04:33:56 PM »
Taking into account all of the excellent information I've been given, what is the margin for error with condoms? I mean is it fair to say that as long as it stays on your penis and does not break, then you can fully expect to avoid HIV infection. Is it most important that the condom covers the head of the penis, as obviously they can roll up from time to time?

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #9 on: January 11, 2007, 05:14:35 PM »
If a condom is used consistantly, correctly and with plenty water base lube. Then a condom is 100 percent effective. As long as the head of the penis is covered then you were never at risk for HIV.
« Last Edit: January 11, 2007, 05:53:42 PM by RapidRod »

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #10 on: January 11, 2007, 05:36:28 PM »
 I no longer have any reason to feel that I was at risk of HIV infection, since all the scenarios I have described have been deemed as safe practices. Thank you for the information and advice you have given me. It has certainly added to my knowledge of the manner of HIV infection. I know I may seem a little paranoid, but the questions that I ask involve situation specific circumstances that general information can never accurately answer. Like many on this forum I have also been quite worried about the potential risks involved in any sexual behaviour. I would just like to wish my deepest thanks to all that have answered my questions and helped me to stop worrying. You all provide an invaluable resource for worried minds! My awareness of both my own and others sexual health has certainly increased since reading some of the posts on this forum. I am in no doubt that the advice given here will certainly make me more pro-active and responsible regarding my own sexual health. Thanks again

Brightside

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Are symptoms just anxiety?
« Reply #11 on: January 12, 2007, 12:04:08 PM »
This may seem a bit of a daft question, but I'll go ahead and ask it nonetheless. Obviously the majority of people that post on this forum believe that they have been exposed to HIV, however, the actual numbers of people that actually were exposed to the virus is probably much lower because some (but not all) people suspected of carrying the HIV virus simply didn't carry it in the first place, or people (like myself) believed they were at risk despite using condoms. What I find quite staggering however, is the number of people that experience symptoms despite not really being at risk, again like myself. In addition, the number of people that experience very severe symptoms but still test negative at 13 weeks is still quite high. So are most 'symptoms' people experience just due to anxiety? I don't ask this question to try and sound clever, I'm just amazed at how many people think they are ill when basically there is very little wrong with them. Probably like me!

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« Reply #12 on: January 12, 2007, 01:42:02 PM »
bright,

Yes, very often people become ill through stress. Symptom hunting on the internet can also sometimes produce symptoms. The human mind is very powerful and sometimes when you keep thinking about symptoms, the mind obliges and produces symptoms in the body. It's the same sort of principle that causes placebos to sometimes work against illness. As I said, the mind is very powerful.

Other times, people are sick with something else, but because they believe they had a risk, they come to the erroneous conclusion that hiv MUST be the cause of that illness. This is why we always recommend seeing a doctor about symptoms. A person could be missing something very serious - or very benign - by their single-minded focus on hiv.

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Testing Advice
« Reply #13 on: January 12, 2007, 02:17:36 PM »
All the advice I have been given on this forum has told me to ignore symptoms and get tested if I think i may have been at risk. Even though the encounter I described previously did not pose a risk and the specific incident in question does not require testing, I still feel a little afraid to be tested. Any advice?   :-\
« Last Edit: January 12, 2007, 06:22:40 PM by brightside »

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #14 on: January 13, 2007, 06:48:56 AM »
Hello all, I was just looking for some advice. I would just like to know whether anyone feels I need to test over the incident I described earlier in my thread. I feel a bit unsure because I'm trying hard to put this totally out of my mind. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :-\

Brightside

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #15 on: January 13, 2007, 08:20:53 AM »
bright,

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection and it doesn't matter if blood is present or not, they still protect. You didn't have a risk.

You should use condoms no matter if your partner is a sex worker or the girl/guy next door. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann


You didn't have a risk. You only need to be tested as a part of a routine sexual health care check up if you are sexually active.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #16 on: January 13, 2007, 10:15:48 AM »
Thanks, I just needed some reassurance because I've been struggling to put this whole thing to the back of my mind, probably because I've been feeling a bit unwell recently. When I've been feeling better I'm convinced there is nothing wrong with me, that there can't possibly be anything wrong with me, but when I feel a bit lousy I think I must be in trouble. I will probably get a test at 13 weeks just to put any doubts to bed, but also to kickstart my routine sexual health care check ups. Thanks again.

Brightside

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Have some questions
« Reply #17 on: January 14, 2007, 11:33:01 AM »
Hi, I'm curious to learn as much as I can about HIV in a bid to better educate myself regarding various aspects of the virus. I hope by learning as much as I can about this subject I can be in a better position to protect myself and engage in sexual relations with confidence, concentrating on the facts rather than worrying about the 'what ifs'. A friend recently asked me if sex with a HIV+ person was more likely to result in other STI's as well as HIV. I did not know the answer. Would someone be more likely to catch different STI's from someone who is HIV+? Indeed, does having HIV mean you are more susceptible to other STI's?

Brightside

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #18 on: January 14, 2007, 11:39:32 AM »
I'm hiv + and I don't have any other STDs. Some STD's can help with the contraction of HIV. Just because someone has HIV doesn't mean they have a low CD4 or a high VL.

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #19 on: January 14, 2007, 11:53:45 AM »
Thanks for clearing that up for me RapidRod. I honestly didn't know the answer. I'd heard that it may be easier to become infected if you are already carrying an STI, but I wasn't sure why this was. Obviously condoms if used consistently and properly guard against HIV infection, but condoms don't protect against STI's like herpes. This may sound a bit dumb, but if someone with herpes had protected sex with a HIV+ person, would they have any greater risk of becoming infected with HIV or is there no risk becuase of the condom?

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #20 on: January 14, 2007, 12:08:17 PM »
No risk because of protected sex. If the other person had an active case of herpies then the positive person could contract them.

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« Reply #21 on: January 14, 2007, 12:21:06 PM »
That's what I thought, but thanks for straightening that out for me. Is it true that infection may be easier if you already have an STI? and why is that the case if it is true?

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« Reply #22 on: January 14, 2007, 12:37:06 PM »
If you have an untreated STD or an untreatable STD you are 5 times more at risk.

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #23 on: January 14, 2007, 12:45:44 PM »
Thanks for clearing that up for me RapidRod. I'll bear that in mind for the future. Thanks again.

Brightside

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« Reply #24 on: January 14, 2007, 01:05:56 PM »
bright,

It doesn't matter about other STIs - if a condom is used you are not at risk for hiv. The figure Rodney quotes is for unprotected intercourse.

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« Reply #25 on: January 14, 2007, 03:54:04 PM »
Ok, this may seem a bit over the top or even paranoid, but I'll ask it anyway. Many people carry HSV-1, usually manifest as a common coldsore. If a person was to become infected with HIV would a coldsore(s) be part of their ARS symptoms? I know this may seem like a silly question but as I mentioned before, I'm keen to find out as many things as I can.

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #26 on: January 14, 2007, 04:10:30 PM »
NO, cold sore are not a sign of HIV infections.

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #27 on: January 14, 2007, 04:16:36 PM »
Thanks. I know I'm speculating but I thought maybe if someones immune system was stressed due to HIV then there may be a greater likelihood of an outbreak of cold sores in a person carrying HSV-1. Thanks for putting me straight.

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« Reply #28 on: January 14, 2007, 04:26:04 PM »
I have HSV-1 and I haven't had a cold sore in years. HSV-1 is not specific to HIV.

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« Reply #29 on: January 14, 2007, 04:45:50 PM »
Thanks RapidRod, you've been a great help.  :)

Brightside

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Re: Unsure of some things
« Reply #30 on: January 15, 2007, 01:10:17 PM »
Ok, this is a real longshot, but my housemate was recently involved in a violent game of soccer. He sustained a large cut above his eye and was spat at by one of the opposing players. He was unsure but he thought some of this guys saliva got into his open wound and was worried potentially about various infections. I told him he would be fine as saliva cannot transmit HIV to another person but he said he'd already found out that saliva does contain some HIV. Secondly, following the soccer match, he and the rest of his team shared a large bath. Some of the other players also had open wounds and blood was clearly visible in the water. I told him that if there was any viruses or anything then the hot water would have probably killed them and that there was no risk. I also told him to post on this forum. Was my advice about right?

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« Reply #31 on: January 15, 2007, 01:12:50 PM »
Yes.  About right.  Hiv is fragile and very difficult to transmit OUTSIDE the body.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

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« Reply #32 on: January 15, 2007, 01:18:57 PM »
Thats what I told him. I think he was a bit concerned because he had an open wound and was a bit freaked out about somebody's saliva getting in there. I'll tell him to have a look at some of the stuff on this forum, that should ease his mind. Thanks a lot.  :)

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« Reply #33 on: January 15, 2007, 02:23:22 PM »
Ok, here's another rumour I heard recently, being a student campus is full of them. At a party a girl gave a guy a blowjob. The guy came in the girls mouth. Alledegedly the girl then kissed another guy a little while later. Presuming the first guy was HIV+, would the traces of cum in the girls mouth be enough to infect the second guy? Strange I know, but I was intrigued when I heard this.

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« Reply #34 on: January 15, 2007, 02:30:19 PM »
No
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

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« Reply #35 on: January 15, 2007, 02:42:55 PM »
I didn't think it was possible either. I think this rumour came about becuase their was some french kissing involved but I assume the girl either swallowed or spat the semen out becuase I doubt she would have kissed a college jock with a mouth full of cum. Does saliva destroy HIV or prevent its ability to infect?

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« Reply #36 on: January 15, 2007, 02:55:03 PM »
Yes it can.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
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« Reply #37 on: January 15, 2007, 03:03:30 PM »
Thank you ACinKC your help is much appreciated. :)

Brightside

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Re: How reliable is testing at 6 weeks?
« Reply #38 on: January 16, 2007, 11:19:29 AM »
Ok, I've been posting on here for a while now and I've had all my fears about becoming infected with HIV eased by the straightforward and factual advice I have been given and I am extremely grateful for this. Thank you all. The incident that I have been worried about occured approximately 6 weeks ago and involved a single protected encounter (vaginal sex) with a massage parlour worker. I've never worried about protected sex in the past but this time some blood was present and it really scared me. I've tried hard to forget about this but my mind is racked with worry becuase I have been feeling like ****. I just want to know how reliable a 6 week test is? Is there much chance the result will change at 13 weeks?

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Re: How reliable is testing at 6 weeks?
« Reply #39 on: January 16, 2007, 11:29:30 AM »
You didn't have a risk. You don't need a test. If you would get tested and get a confirmed positive result it would not be from what your situation was here.

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Re: How reliable is testing at 6 weeks?
« Reply #40 on: January 16, 2007, 11:46:13 AM »
I know I am being a little irrational but I feel like I cannot get on with my life until this is all over. I do have obsessive and compulsive tendencies, which have been confirmed by a psychiatrist, such as constant washing of my hands, constant checking of doors, windows, gas stoves etc. I am also able to convince myself that something has occured when it really hasn't. For example, just last week I made myself vomit becuase I thought I had eaten some nuts (I am allergic to nuts) even though deep down I knew I hadn't eaten any. Deep down I know I had protected sex and that there was no risk but part of me has begun to have irrational fears like what if the condom broke without me noticing or something! I know my nervous mind is causing this.

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« Reply #41 on: January 16, 2007, 12:02:15 PM »
Then you don't need this forum, you need to work out your problems with a mental health professional. We can't be of any help with someone that has OCD. It's out of our scope.

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« Reply #42 on: January 16, 2007, 12:02:40 PM »
Your money would be better spent working on those anxieties.  Good luck I hope you put your mind at ease.
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« Reply #43 on: January 16, 2007, 12:17:23 PM »
This forum has been such a big help because I don't really have anyone else to talk to or ask questions. I went through similar anxieties with HIV a few years ago when I had a potentially riskier encounter with a girl I met abroad. I convinced myself then that I'd become infected with HIV and put my family under tremendous pressure with my anxious ways, even though they told me I'd be fine, which of course I was. Naturally I am keen not to repeat that and so I've had to keep this all to myself. I felt fine for the first 4-5 weeks after the incident in question but this last week or so I've felt not right and I'm worried its becuase I have become infected. This is why I enquired about the 6 week test.

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« Reply #44 on: January 16, 2007, 12:27:49 PM »
You need to talk with a mental health professional and not us. We are not mental health professional and that is what you need to help you with your worries brought on by OCD.

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« Reply #45 on: January 16, 2007, 01:12:53 PM »
I hear what you're saying, and I respect your opinion. I will do something about my OCD as soon as possible. It will undoubtedly settle down when I have resolved my current situation. Now back to my original question. Anybody, how accurate is a 6 week test?

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« Reply #46 on: January 16, 2007, 02:30:39 PM »
You dont need to test!
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« Reply #47 on: January 17, 2007, 03:22:13 PM »
Hello, I've been freaking out about a few HIV issues recently and I'd just like to open up by saying thank you to everyone that has answered my queries and questions even when I've banged on about the same issues time after time. Cheers, your help has been terrific.

I recently asked if a coldsore(s) could be a potential symptom of HIV infection as they are caused by HSV-1. Coldsores can appear for various reasons, including stress or just general feelings of being 'run down'. If HIV infection occured wouldn't that cause a carrier of HSV-1 to become 'run down' enough to experience a coldsore? I've heard coldsores are not HIV specific but I do not understand why this is. I have been worried about potential HIV infection recently. I have a coldsore and it feels like something else to be concerned about. Can anyone shed some light on this?   

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« Reply #48 on: January 17, 2007, 03:33:16 PM »
My mom gets cold sores.  My mom is HIV negative.  Therefore cold sores CANNOT be SPECIFIC to HIV.

This should be easy enough to understand.

There are NO HIV SPECIFIC symptoms.  Meaning there is nothing that happens to or within the human body SPECIFIC TO when HIV is present.  And it means that any symptoms that do occur are related to DOZENS of other causes, NOT SPECIFICALLY (which really is a key word here) related to HIV.
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« Reply #49 on: January 17, 2007, 04:08:05 PM »
Thank you. I wish you and your mom all the best.

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« Reply #50 on: February 06, 2007, 11:01:05 AM »
Hi, I haven't posted on here for a while, so I hope everyobody is well and in good form. You guys do a great job, helping ease worried minds like mine. Keep up the good work. I just have one question about HIV/AIDS and related symptoms. Are skin lesions a symptom of AIDS rather than of HIV infection? And secondly at what stage of AIDS, i.e. after how many years do people get skin lesions if they remain untreated. Any information would be greatly appreciated. Cheers.

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Re: Question about symptoms
« Reply #51 on: February 06, 2007, 11:03:04 AM »
Go to the "Welcome" thread and read the lessons section.

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« Reply #52 on: February 06, 2007, 11:34:41 AM »
Ok, so a 'skin lesion' is actually a sign of 'Kaposi's Sarcoma' a cancer like disease that is classified as an opportunistic infection. Opportunitistic infections occur when the T4 cell count drops below 200. When the T4 cell count drops to this level then this is decribed as AIDS. Am I right? From the information I've accumulated the onset of AIDS takes usually between 7 and 10 years in an untreated HIV+ person. There is no strict time window for the onset of AIDS. Thanks for directing me to the lessons section Rod, I think I've learned more that way rather than just being told the answer to my question. I hopw what I've said is accurate.

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« Reply #53 on: February 06, 2007, 11:40:58 AM »
KS, like a lot of other disease are not specific to HIV infection. The classification of AIDS, is CD4 count <200 with an OI. KS, is not the prominent OI in aids classification. PCP by far is the top. Mine was Histoplasmosis, which is not that common and is only found in certain regions in the US. 

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« Reply #54 on: February 06, 2007, 11:43:48 AM »
A skin lesion is not a definitive sign of KS, therefore it is also not a definitive sign of AIDS, therefore it is not a definitive sign of an HIV infection so you are not quite correct.

 Here are some causes for skin lesions.  The sooner you stop focusing on HIV the sooner you can find out whats going on.


Acanthamoeba ... Skin lesions
Anthrax ... skin ulcer
Autoimmune Thrombocytopenia ... skin lesions
Bedsores ... skin ulcers
Behcet's Disease ... skin lesions
Bubonic plague ... blister at flea bite site
Burns ... skin blistering
Candidiasis ... small blisters
Cellulitis ... blisters
Cercarial dermatitis ... small blisters
Chickenpox ... itchy blisters, scabbing of blisters, blister-like rash
Connective tissue disorders ... blistered skin
Contact dermatitis ... skin blisters
Cutaneous Anthrax ... skin ulcer
Cutaneous diphtheria ... skin ulcer, infected skin lesions
Cutaneous mastocytosis ... skin lesions
Dermatitis ... blisters
Dermatitis herpetiformis ... blistering skin rash
Diabetes ... skin ulcers
Diphtheria ... infected skin lesions
Eczema ... blistered patches, blisters, weeping spots
Epidermolysis bullosa ... skin blistering
Erysipelas ... pus-filled blisters
Erythema multiforme ... blisters
Flea-borne diseases ... Skin lesions
Frostbite ... local blisters
Genital herpes ... blisters
Granuloma inguinale ... skin ulcers
Herpes gestationis ... Vesicular rash
HIV/AIDS ... skin lesions
Human adjuvant disease ... Skin lesions
Impetigo ... blisters
Incontinentia Pigmenti ... blistered skin, spiral lines of small fluid-filled blisters
Invasive group A Streptococcal disease ... Blisters
Kaposi's Sarcoma ... ulcerating spots
Leprosy ... symmetric skin lesions
Mastocytosis ... Skin lesions
Melioidosis ... skin pustules
Molluscum contagiosum ... skin lesions (painless wart-like bumps), irritated skin lesions
Mycosis fungoides ... skin ulcers
Necrotizing fasciitis ... blisters
Orf ... blisters
Pemphigus ... blisters, mucous membrane blisters, nasal blisters, skin ulcers, skin blisters
Pemphigus Foliaceus ... Blisters
Pemphigus Vulgaris ... Blisters
Phaeohyphomycosis ... Skin lesions
Plague ... blister at flea bite site
Porphyria ... skin blisters
Psoriasis ... skin blisters
Rickettsia ... Skin lesions
Scrub typhus ... skin lesion
Seronegative Arthritis ... skin lesions
Shingles ... semicircular one-sided skin blister rash, small yellow skin blisters, skin blisters
Sickle Cell Anemia ... skin ulcers
Skin Cancer ... skin ulcer
Stevens-Johnson Syndrome ... skin lesions (painful), skin blisters
Tinea ... blisters
Tuberous sclerosis ... skin lesions
Type 2 diabetes ... skin ulcers
Ulcerative colitis ... skin lesions
Vibrio vulnificus ... blistering skin lesions
Wegener's granulomatosis ... red skin lesions, purple skin lesions, skin ulcers, skin blisters
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« Reply #55 on: February 06, 2007, 12:38:01 PM »
Bright,

What part of "you didn't have a risk" don't you understand? If you don't believe our risk assessment, go test, collect your negative result and move on with your life.

If you'd bothered to read the Welcome thread like you've been repeatedly asked to, you would have read the following:

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« Reply #56 on: February 06, 2007, 12:46:05 PM »
I myself do not have any skin lesions or indeed any physical reason to be worried about HIV infection. Much of the fear I have experienced in recent weeks has been allayed by the advice I have received on this forum. The question I ask is in no way motivated by any fear on my part. I merely ask this question to try to educate myslef as best I can with HIV/AIDS related issues and to satisfy my own curiosity. Surely one of the most dangerous (not to mention demoralising) things to come out of the entire HIV/AIDS epidemic is the ignorance and lack of knowledge expressed by those people that still shamefully consider this a taboo subject. By educating myself as best I can, I am trying not to be like one of those people. That is my only agenda. Thanks for the advice.

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« Reply #57 on: February 06, 2007, 12:56:23 PM »
You are a self admitted hypochondriac and have come to these forums consistently with everything you find on your body.  So what you are saying NOW is you dont have a risk you want to talk about but you do want to waste the time of those of us on here who give advice researching all the possible WHAT IF THIS HAPPENED scenarios your little mind can think of?  Do I have that about right?

This forum is designed to try and help those who have valid concerns about situations THEY PERSONALLY were involved in.  I encourage you to seek more help for your OCD and anxiety and let us help those that need it instead of focusing on your what if scenarios!
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« Reply #58 on: February 06, 2007, 01:15:36 PM »
That's not fair and let me say you are out of order for saying those things when you do not know me personally, but you are entitled to your own opinion, so I won't contest it or resort to petty squabbling. All I seek is information, not an argument. In the UK right now there is a campaign called 'comic relief' that attempts to raise money for the underprivilaged around the world particulalry African children suffering from HIV/AIDS. Recently myself and my nephew watched a documentary about this very subject. Ever since, he has been asking various questions about HIV/AIDS, many of which I have been able to answer due to the advice received on this forum. However, this latest question about lesions I could not find a definitive answer to, so I sought advice on this forum. No paranoia, no hypochondria, no ulterior motives. All I wish to do is educate an adolescent boy about these issues in a more factual way than I was at the same age. If you view this as a 'waste of time' as you describe then frankly you are the one with the tiny mind not me.

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« Reply #59 on: February 06, 2007, 01:25:41 PM »
You posted this just 3 weeks ago.  "I went through similar anxieties with HIV a few years ago when I had a potentially riskier encounter with a girl I met abroad. I convinced myself then that I'd become infected with HIV and put my family under tremendous pressure with my anxious ways, even though they told me I'd be fine, which of course I was. Naturally I am keen not to repeat that and so I've had to keep this all to myself. I felt fine for the first 4-5 weeks after the incident in question but this last week or so I've felt not right and I'm worried its becuase I have become infected. This is why I enquired about the 6 week test."

So pardon me if I am coming off a bit harsh, but you have repeatedly said you have OCD, you are a hypochondriac and that you have unwarranted fears of being infected when no risk is present not to mention having tested reliably and conclusively negative.  It is probably not the healthiest thing for you mentally to be hyperfocusing on a disease.  If you want to learn all you can start with the Lessons then Move to the CDC website and aidsmap website and such.  You can read everything you need to know.  If you truly want to educate yourself do some of the work yourself, try not to come here and have us do it for you.  You will find this much more personally rewarding in the long run I am sure.
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« Reply #60 on: February 06, 2007, 01:40:32 PM »
Yes you are right, but as I said I only consulted this forum when I could not find a definitive answer to my nephew's question. The forum has been such a big help, I reckoned it to be my best bet for a clear 'no nonsence' answer to my question. OCD is a disease of the mind it is a mental health problem and in the UK is controlled by the govenment mental health act. When you say I have a tiny mind then you are poking fun at my condition and you are discriminating against me and that is totally out of order. I do not discrimitate against anyone on this forum for being HIV+ or possessing any other illness, disease or ailment for that matter. Forgive me for my rather bullish stance on this matter but you are only qualified to give advice on this forum regarding matters related to HIV/AIDS. That does not give you a licence to poke fun at the problems of others, and frankly someone in your position should know better. I do not wish to fall out with anybody on this forum, and I do not wish to argue with you but you were the first to display a confrontational attitude. I apologise if my postings have been exessive, but in my view every question I have asked in the last 3 hours has been valid and did not require such criticism.

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« Reply #61 on: February 06, 2007, 02:04:27 PM »
My use of the term "little mind" was in no way directed at your OCD.  It was not meant as derogatory or to insult.  I can see how that would be taken that way and for that I shall try to watch my adjectives a little more closely.  I am not being confrontational I am just trying to make sure we can help those that need it.

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« Reply #62 on: February 06, 2007, 02:22:40 PM »
Bright,

This forum is for hiv risk assessment and testing questions. It isn't designed for you to come to with questions pertaining to every little thing about hiv infection.

My earlier warning stands. Please take heed. There is nothing more we can do for you here.

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« Reply #63 on: February 06, 2007, 02:54:42 PM »
 Ann,
I empathise with what you are saying 100% I told your colleague in explicit terms that I was not worried about my own HIV status, that I didn't have any physical symptoms and that my only agenda was to find information. Despite this he/she repeatedly made mention of my OCD and hypochondria in his/her replies to my post despite my assurances that I wasn't being a hypochonriac over this issue. Let me remind you that I was in fact asking a question on behalf of someone else. He/She had no reason to bring up my OCD, other than to use it as ammunition against me or to use it as a convenient 'put down' to get their point across. So even if the 'little mind' quip was not intended to offend, they were still prepared to use my own difficult issues against me in order to gain the upper hand. He/She made a judgement of me and an presumption of my motives based on things I had said in the past despite my assurances that I was not obsessing over this issue. I apologise sincerely to those who's time I may have wasted on this forum, and you may think I am angered about nothing, but this isn't nothing to me. Some of those comments were below the belt and I will not be bullied in that way.

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« Reply #64 on: February 06, 2007, 02:57:04 PM »
Nothing i said was below the belt.  I was simply pointing out the facts that you brought up.
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« Reply #65 on: February 06, 2007, 03:03:33 PM »
That is not for you to say as the things you said were not directed at you they were directed at me. I'll judge whether they were offensive or not if they were directed at me thank you very much. You cannot deny you made repeated references to my OCD when it wasn't relevant to my posting. If you can't admit that then that is up to you. In my opinion your behaviour was harsh and offensive and not least unwarranted.

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« Reply #66 on: February 06, 2007, 03:15:56 PM »
AC, bright,

Enough. This discussion ends here.

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« Reply #67 on: February 06, 2007, 03:20:53 PM »
My sentiments exactly. How do I delete / cancel my account?

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« Reply #68 on: February 06, 2007, 03:25:25 PM »
bright,

Just stop posting and your thread will move down the page and disappear into obscurity within a day. We do not delete accounts.

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« Reply #69 on: February 06, 2007, 03:33:38 PM »
Thank you Ann, my decision is in no way a reflection of you personally or the forum in general. It has been a great help. Thank you.

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Condom Breakage
« Reply #70 on: July 16, 2007, 05:01:05 AM »
Hello all. Haven't used this service in a while. Hope eveyone is ok. I've recently landed a new job as a Physical Education teaching assistant in a high school. Due to my experiences, I've volunteered to teach some sex ed classes with the kids in the school. I have a couple of questions to ask. Does anyone know how rare or common condom breakage is? I've never had one break myself, so I do not know. the web is also full of conflicting information. Also, is it easy to tell if a condom has broken or split during intercourse. I've searched the web and some answers have said yes it is obvious because they break in a big way. These are my only questions and once answered I won't ask any more.

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« Reply #71 on: July 16, 2007, 05:05:23 AM »
Please keep all your questions and concerns in your orginal thread.

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« Reply #72 on: July 16, 2007, 05:18:06 AM »
bright,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

Condoms, when used (and stored) correctly, rarely break. I've never had one break.

Please read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line. You'll learn everything you need to know there.

And by the way, I deleted the new account (Starsailor) you attempted to create today. Having multiple accounts is against our Terms of Membership which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread, which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse. Try to create a new account again and be banned.

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« Reply #73 on: July 16, 2007, 05:31:47 AM »
My apologies. Didn't think I'd get a reply if I used my original account, hence the attempt at creating a new one. Thank you for the information, I know it will be invaluable. Stay well everyone.

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« Reply #74 on: July 16, 2007, 04:25:41 PM »
Had protected sex with a sex worker 6 days ago, been feeling ill for the last 2 days, I have tonsilitis. Could this have come from my encounter with the sex worker and is it an early sign of ARS? How soon does ARS begin? I've heard that any symptoms earlier than 7-10 days are not ARS (www.medhelp.com), so could it be that the only thing I have caught from my date was tonsilitis?

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« Reply #75 on: July 16, 2007, 05:23:16 PM »
Read the lessons on Transmission and testing (even if you have already read them previously).

There's a link to them in the Welcome thread which opens this section.

You've been around the block here enough times to know the answer to your question by now when you've had protected sex. Condoms provide very effective protection.

I'm unwilling to start another round of reassurances to you on this latest "event."

Frankly, you're just at the edge of getting timed out.

 
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« Reply #76 on: July 25, 2007, 01:27:52 PM »
Ok I know I'm on the edge of getting timed out and I'll accept that if it happens. I also know I've drove a few people on here crazy for some time and I really am genuinely sorry. I'm an OCD sufferer and find it difficult to get rid of negative thoughts. As I explained I slept with a sex worker 15 days ago using a condom. Approximately 5-6 days after I had a really bad sore throat with white spots etc and within the last 2 days I've developed some red blotches / rash on my torso. I've had red blotches on my body for years but this is unusual all the same. I know I had protected sex but I don't know 100% if the condom broke. I mean I had no reason to think it did break so I didn't check, but then I've never had one break before so I don't know the difference. The lady put the condom on me and I'm nervous that she may have put it on incorrectly, which is stupid because she has probably done it a thousand times! I did not ejaculate so I feel the condom must have stayed intact. (1)What are the chances of becoming infected following a condom breakage? (2)Do I need a test? If I get  barred I'll accept it but please first answer my question.

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #77 on: July 25, 2007, 01:40:57 PM »
You don't need to test for protected sex. If the condom would have failed you would have known it. End of discussion.

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #78 on: July 25, 2007, 01:51:32 PM »
Ok then RapidRod, Im going to take your advice and just try to get on with my life from this point onwards. Thank you for answering the question.

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Re: Just a quick word
« Reply #79 on: July 30, 2007, 06:31:36 PM »
Hello, I've been on this forum dozens of times with dozens of worries, all of which I guess were completely unfounded. I just wanted to say thank you to the moderators and anyone else that has taken the time to answer a question I have asked. It has been a huge help. For a long time I've felt like HIV has been chasing me, but I known now that I'm chasing HIV because I can't leave it alone. Everytime I have a sexual encounter,(which due to my paranoia are always safe) I convince myself there is something wrong. I haven't had unprotected sex since May 2006 and have tested negative since then. Every insertive sex since I've had since then I've used a condom. I know these condoms must have stayed intact too, becuase I now know that it wouldn't go unnoticed if they had split. I had protected sex with a sex worker 3 weeks ago and began to feel ill within 5 days. I still feel a little unwell and have some blotches on my chest but I know most of this is head stuff, probably brought on by my anxiety. I don't know what my symptoms are but I do know that I used a condom last time I had sex. What I'm saying is that I guess it's better to focus on the facts than speculate about uncertainties. I'm currently in two minds whether to get tested in 3 months just for peace of mind. I know I haven't had a risk recently but I'm not sure if it would be better to test and get this shit out of my head once and for all or just forget about it and not bother with a test and get on with my life. Any advice. I feel like such a bastard wasting valuable time asking question after question, but I'm seriously considering smashing my computer up so I can't 'research' symptoms anymore.

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #80 on: July 30, 2007, 06:52:49 PM »
Bright,

You would do yourself more good by making an appointment with a counselor or therapist to learn how to deal with your anxieties. You know we can't do that for you here.

Sexual feelings, urges and activities are a natural part of adult life. Counseling can help you find the joy, rather than the anxiety, in this aspect of life. Do yourself a favour and get help working it all out.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. Use them correctly and consistently and you will avoid hiv. Really.

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« Reply #81 on: August 04, 2007, 07:02:39 PM »
Ok I know I hold the title of most paranoid 'worried well' on this forum and by now even I am starting to understand that my risks are pretty much non existent. You'll be pleased to know (I hope) that I'm taking Ann's advice by seeing a therapist soon to talk about my anxiety,  but some things are still troubling me. I had sex with a sex worker 4 weeks ago, used a condom no worries, but for the last 2 weeks I've had a rash on my body. There are 2 red blobs on my breastbone about 1cm width and then some redish discoulered areas below that where my breastbone finishes and stomach starts. I have 4-5 similar blotches on the inside of my left thigh and 1 blotch on my right thigh. Recently I've noticed some smaller red blotches around my pubic hair close to my penis (sorry to be so graphic). I'm reluctant to see my doctor as I only saw him 2 weeks ago to request some antibiotics for tonsilitis, which he didn't give me. He's not that helpful. I know you don't focus on symptoms here but I am nervous about this sudden rash on my body. I feel fine and am not having any other symptoms. Does ARS rash last 2 weeks? and is it accompanied by other symptoms? I know my risk assesment is non existent having used condoms but this is weird even for me!

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #82 on: August 04, 2007, 08:29:03 PM »
Then you know, asking us about signs and symptoms won't do you any good.

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #83 on: August 04, 2007, 09:52:38 PM »
bright,

We cannot diagnose your rash for you.

Make sure you read the Welcome Thread and take note of our forum posting guidelines - particularly the one about being timed out. Andy warned you about two weeks ago, and I'm warning you again. You won't get another warning.

Condoms prevent hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #84 on: August 17, 2007, 04:46:19 PM »
How reliable is testing at 6 weeks? And before anyone has a go at me for posting on here, I'm not here for an argument I just want an answer to the question. I've had various different symptoms for 5 weeks now, the latest being 2 purple patches on my tongue. Don't know if this a symptom, but it's fucking weird all the same. My doctor is fucking useless, he won't even give me a course of antibiotics despite having pus in my tonsils for nearly 5 weeks. He has been equally quick to dismiss everything else I have mentioned to him so I just wanna get tested now. So is it worth doing it now, or shall I wait for 13 weeks?

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Re: Condom Breakage
« Reply #85 on: August 17, 2007, 05:05:31 PM »
Bright,

What part of "no risk" don't you understand? You used a condom, you didn't have a risk. No risk.

You've been repeatedly warned that if you persisted, you'd be given a time out. I'm giving you one now and it will last for four weeks. Use this time to seek out the face-to-face counseling you need to learn ways of dealing with your anxiety. We cannot help you with that here.

Do not attempt to create another new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned from these forums.

Ann
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