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someone somewhere:
I have meet a young woman who  is newly postive.For some reason this young woman has seen me as her mentor and l am ok with that.But as someone only three years into this myself sometimes the answers don't come.

Apart from being there for her letting her know it will be ok l am not sure what more l can do.

So all of you living with HIV longer than me and her what l can do to help her?

I really don't want to mess this up.

sorry if this doesn't seem pertinent, but it is.

Are you straight or gay or confused?  Do you want a relationship with this person? 


The best thing you can do for her is what you are already doing. Just be there for her. If she has internet access, you can encourage her to join us here and also see to it that she knows about all the other features of this website. (Which are detailed in the welcome thread at the top of this forum.)

If she doesn't have internet access, you might like to print off some of the Lessons for her. Most of them have a printable version - look at the bottom of the subject list column on the right hand side of the page. You must be in an individual lesson to see this link. Some of the lessons I'd recommend are the ones on lab results, when to start treatment, disclosure, women's issues... and ask her if there are specific things she'd like to know.

You might also be able to help her by making sure she is seeing a doctor she is happy with and making sure she is aware of any Aids Service Organisations in your area.

But really, the most important thing is just being there for her and letting her know she's not alone. Isolation is one of our biggest problems and probably hurts the most.

And by the way, welcome to the forums! I've read your intro in the Introduce yourself thread and I'm looking forward to getting to know you better.



Um, yes, your question is not pertinent to this thread. Not everything comes down to sexual relationships! :o

someone somewhere introduced herself already and as a fellow cat tormentor, you should show her more respect! :D


Wise advise, giiving your time to someone is one of the most precious gifts there are,
even when nothing much is said. I think you wont "screw up" you seem v. considerate. :)


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