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Offline mgradylady3

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can he really be negitive???asap
« on: January 01, 2007, 02:42:02 PM »
i tested positive one year ago. going by my numbers then which were cd4 92 and a viral load of 710,000. my doc said 5-8 years i had it. which i ran into someone i new at the docs office. so now i am going to say 8 years. my question is i lived with someone 2 years ago for 2 years. we had unprotected sex for that 2 years even when it was that time of the month. after i found out and because i still talk to him i told him to get tested. he said he did and he said he was negitive. is that possible???? i really think he did not get tested because i dont think he wants to know. i know he has been with at least 2 girls since me. i just dont want him to pass it on if he really has not been tested. can he really be negitive???

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #1 on: January 01, 2007, 02:56:21 PM »
m,

It is TOTALLY possible. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man.

My own partner and I were together for a year and a half before we discovered my hiv status and he's still hiv negative over seven years later. Of course we use condoms now, but we didn't before we knew I was positive.

Both our fellas were lucky. As you still talk to your ex, please let him know that just because he dodged the hiv bullet this time, he needs to be using condoms with his partners until he's in a securely monogamous relationship where he and his partner have both tested negative together. Tell him that to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2007, 06:02:19 AM »

it is very possible that he is negative.  I was in a similar situation with my wife. We had unprotected sex for several years while I was positive (before I knew my diagnosis).  She turned out to be negative.  It must be just plain luck.  Although I hear some folks are less susceptible to the virus.

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Offline Esquare

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #3 on: January 04, 2007, 09:48:22 PM »
My wife and I had unprotected sex many times over the course of several years (I didn't know I was poz till recent) and she has tested negative twice now so yes it is possible.

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2007, 04:45:11 PM »
Partner and I played bareback with him as the bottom for 8 years.  I was diagnosed close to death and had been infected for years.  Partner is neg and we went at it like bunnies and he always got the load.......strange things happen.
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Offline minus_25

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2007, 09:22:54 PM »
sdcabincrew74 - Maybe you did infect your partner at one point, but since you kept on bareback topping him, you repeatedly innoculated him, kind of like the case of Andrew Stimpson, who was once HIV positive, but then became negative.  Supposedly, he cured himself of HIV.  What's the latest on his story anyways?  Also, I read that there have been stories of this sort of thing happening to prostitutes in South Africa, but those cases have not been documented like Andrew Stimpson.  ...strange things indeed.

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #6 on: February 01, 2007, 11:38:55 PM »
Finally i can post.  Been lurking for a few days but when i saw this topic I really wanted to post.  I was married for 7 years, dated for 2  before I was diagnosed with a cd4 count of 140, vl of 114,000.  My husband tested negative and continued to test negative for the next 2 years.  My reason for wanting to post is to let you know it is possible not to pass it along.  Unfortunately my husband could not handle my new found status and our marriage ended.
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Offline RapidRod

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #7 on: February 02, 2007, 06:06:31 AM »
sdcabincrew74 - Maybe you did infect your partner at one point, but since you kept on bareback topping him, you repeatedly innoculated him, kind of like the case of Andrew Stimpson, who was once HIV positive, but then became negative.  Supposedly, he cured himself of HIV.  What's the latest on his story anyways?  Also, I read that there have been stories of this sort of thing happening to prostitutes in South Africa, but those cases have not been documented like Andrew Stimpson.  ...strange things indeed.

Andrew Stimpson, would not volunteer to help with research via further blood tests. I don't believe I would put much stake in his claims. But it does happen that in some serocouples one has not been infected. But after you know you are positive and your partner was not, would you continue to have unprotected sex?

Offline Central79

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #8 on: February 15, 2007, 12:46:32 PM »
About 1% of Europeans are unable to getting the virus. I guess it's the same in the US. If you have two delta 32 genes for CCR5 you have no CCR5 receptors and the virus cannot get into the body.

Still, it sounds pretty lucky! When I think of the random way I caught it!
Diagnosed January 2006
26/1/06 - 860 (22%), VL > 500,000
24/4/06 - 820 (24.6%), VL 158,000
13/7/06 - 840 (22%), VL 268,000
1/11/06 - 680 (21%), VL 93,100
29/1/07 - 1,020 (27.5%), VL 46,500
15/5/07 - 1,140 (22.8%), VL not done.
13/10/07 - 759 (23.2%), VL 170,000
6/11/07 - 630 (25%), VL 19,324
14/1/08 - 650 (21%), VL 16,192
15/4/08 - 590 (21%), VL 40, 832

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Re: can he really be negitive???asap
« Reply #9 on: February 21, 2007, 06:27:03 AM »
My partner when I was diagnosed who I had been with for 4 years previously is still negative,its a blessing,take it,at the moment you don't need to load more guilt on yourself.  I would reiterate the remarks about Mr Stimpson,there's definately something iffy there
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