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Offline PeteNYNJ

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Status question on Manhunt.net
« on: December 04, 2006, 12:11:37 AM »
I am just full of posts today....

I have a question for the gay/bi/questioning/men in the forums who have ever been on Manhunt.net (Sorry my lovely Ladies but chime in if you have an opinion)

 For those who don't know, Manhunt.net is VERY popular hook-up site for men.  Almost as popular as friendster or myspace in the gay community.

Anyhow - there is a very public question regarding status (right after age, position, favorite diva, whatever).  I always found this question intrusive - even before I was poz- because there are no questions about syphilis, gonorrhea, TB, rabies, plague, etc.

Anywho, I played a game and left mine positive (hardly any responses), ask me ( more responses), and blank (almost as many as if I put I can never get any disease on Earth).  It just makes me mad that this is even an option in a place that is so public and supposedly for the gay community.  I think it shows how far we still need to go to educate people ( the words - clean, no diseases, etc. are thrown around regularly plus people get super exicited and post when they last tested negaive - I wonder if they would do the same if it came out poz) I  leave mine blank now because I dont want anyone who looks at my profile to know that much info about me.  If they are interested , we shall discuss.
 
I assume that many others have done like me (or liked) because the % of guys if you pull up NYC is ridiculously low.

Thought?
« Last Edit: December 04, 2006, 12:21:36 AM by confusednewbie »

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #1 on: December 04, 2006, 12:14:56 AM »
Hey Confused,

It is all about how you want to approach it. The ball is in your court on this one.


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Offline Longislander

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2006, 12:18:32 AM »
I haven't changed my status there from negative. But then again, I'm not in there much anymore. When I do pop in, to search for POS men (you're right, not proportionate), I get a few new emails. I just politely decline whatever it is they're offering and get out as quickly as I can.

I can't change my status there to POS. I have similar pics on regular dating sites, and a great deal of people around know me from the pics.
I can tell you, when I used to go in there, if it didn't say negative, I would assume positive. It didn't make sense to me that someone would tell when they wanted it, and whatever is right next to it, then leave that blank.

I never thought it was blank because they thought it was an intrusive question. As far as your 'study' goes, I'm going to assume you'll get fewer responses.

Paul
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8/06   349/9500 25%              11/07 515/68000/24     2/10 845/U/38%
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Offline PeteNYNJ

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2006, 12:24:36 AM »
I understand Paul, but ins't it deceiptful to put negative then nothing at all?

Believe me, I am not giving you shit - to me it is like walking into your local gay dive and running up to the dj booth to announce "Hey eveyone, I am poz just in case you are interested, so run for the hills"

Offline Longislander

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2006, 12:34:05 AM »
oh it definitely is, that's why I don't shop there anymore! lol

If I were to pop in there and change it to blank, I may as well just put Pos.
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #5 on: December 04, 2006, 12:39:53 AM »
If it wasn't so politically incorrect and they could get away with it the negatives in the gay community would be glad for the positives to wear red triangles on their clothing.   OK, I know everyone isn't like that but I think many/most are even if they won't admit it.

Then again there are many positives who, if they show no traits of lipoatrophy, aren't interested in dating someone that has it.  Same thing.
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Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #6 on: December 04, 2006, 01:29:50 AM »
I had never heard of manhunt.net so I briefly checked it out. I don't think the fact they have a HIV status category is what is upsetting you as much as the lack of response to posting that you are positive. I didn't look into the whole thing but sexual position was one of the top categories. If people are going to count you out because of your hair color, age, race or the fact you won't bottom it's perfectly understandable they wouldn't be interested because of HIV status. As everyone on here knows HIV is serious stuff and of course most people are not going to see poz as a positive. People are looking at a brief little description accompanied by a photo that may or may not actually be of that person and filling in the blanks with what they hope will be their ideal. If I was looking for a boyfriend online I would count people out for less serious stuff than HIV: smokes... nope, alcohol... nope, drugs... nope, over 6'2"... nope, under 30... nope.

Frankly I don't see this as a problem because if someone wasn't interested in me because my online profile says I'm poz, or bald, or 40 or hairy I wouldn't take it personally. It's not me as a person but just stats on a computer screen. If someone can't deal with HIV then I would rather know up front and not waste my time. However people shouldn't be rude. I think I get most irritated with guys who go on about how they are so masculine and straight acting and any gayness will not be tolerated. I just want to say "I bet you'll look really straight with my dick in your ass"... but then that would be rude.

Offline Longislander

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #7 on: December 04, 2006, 01:35:22 AM »
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I bet you'll look really straight with my dick in your ass"... but then that would be rude.

LMAO, I thought everone heard of Manhunt!! Just to clear one thing up, you don't look for a BF on Manhunt-lol
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Offline thunter34

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #8 on: December 04, 2006, 01:48:00 AM »
GSO:  Some might think it is 'rude', but it is definitely appropriate in my book.  That 'straight-acting' bit makes me run for the hills, personally.  Yes, I like my guy masculine...at least somewhat, but I also prefer that to be the term used to describe it.  'Straight-acting' generally reads to me as somewhere between 'mildly to severely closeted' and 'most likely boring in bed'.  Just my opinion.

I didn't really get that status question to be so offensive.  Actually, I saw it as a possible olive branch to + guys that might rather just have that out there from the start, rather than having to wonder if/when the big question was gonna come up & then how to handle it once asked.

I totally undrstand the frustration you feel about the difference in % of responses, though.  I said this in another post, but I'll say it again here:  In Atlanta (and I imagine in most other places), guys frequently cast a sideways glance at the poz boys, all the while engaging in some raw sex that would make even the most seasoned porn star blush.  I can't count how many times I saw bowls of unopened condoms placed as far out of sight as possible...as if their mere prescence in the room would ward off any threat of HIV/AIDS.  A Safe Sex Totum, I call it.  And the declaration of 'negative' works like magic for paving the way to any and all sorts of raw adventures, far away from the bothersome worry that is HIV.

Like 'Abracadabra'.  Or 'Open Sesame'.

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« Last Edit: December 04, 2006, 01:50:47 AM by thunter34 »
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Offline sdcabincrew74

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #9 on: December 04, 2006, 02:07:16 AM »
Ah, I love manhunt.  Anyway what I have found is that if their answer is "Ask me" they are poz.  At least, in my experience.  I have mine as ask me in case any coworkers run into me there.  Which, more than a few have .... the joys of being a flight attendant.  Anyway, just put ask me.
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Offline yowsaa

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #10 on: December 04, 2006, 02:42:49 AM »
Srry to take your thread off topic here. I totally figured the gay community would be more receptive/understanding and educated towards poz people. Holy crap, I think if you guys have trouble hooking up, what chance would I have if single. Now I really feel like a leper lol.

This frigging thing truly does suck, don't it.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #11 on: December 04, 2006, 06:16:40 AM »
Fear of death, fear of losing a love one, fear of the unknown.  It is logical that people who are neg wont want to have sex with people who are poz.  That said, and I do understand their position, I rather leave the space blank, and than tell the hook-up my status.  It is a nice ice-breaker.  I sometimes get the "oh me too" statement.  Either way, their fear is justified and it seems that most sites have some kind of method to reveal your HIV status.  Like me for me and my p.o.z. 
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #12 on: December 04, 2006, 09:42:41 AM »
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #13 on: December 04, 2006, 10:02:28 AM »
Yep!  Preach on, Iggy!  It is like I said above about the magic words and safe sex totums.  It's just like the classic Atlanta Harm Reduction Plan:

They want to be Master Class Party Whores themselves, but they don't want to be around anyone who will openly say anything to that effect.  After all, if you declare yourself into partying and BB, then you must be a real tramp and clearly eat up with the fever.  They want you to present yourself porn fantasy style..."Well, I've never done this before, but..."

A few years back, a friend and I entertained ourselves for hours as he played that game with someone online.  This guy shot back (the very first sentence of the first reply...and in CAPS)   NO BAREBACK !!  He said it over and over and always in caps...yet he kept fishin' around my friend's profile that was pretty obviously infavor of the ol' BB.    Eventually, every time this guy would hit up my friend, he would reply right back:  NO BAREBACK !!!  This soon morphed into something along the lines of..."well, I have once or twice.  how about you?  UBB?"  Needless to say, they hooked up...and, of course, this other guy went straight for topping my friend raw style.  Who knew??   ::)

The hypocrisy is staggering on those sites.  This guy was clearly just trying to kid himself so he could feel better about being the ho-dog he was.  They always want to have the feast without any guilt attached.  Like having a diet soda with a big plate of chicken wings.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #14 on: December 04, 2006, 10:07:43 AM »
Gee, you mean to tell me guys lie? Who da thunk it?

Offline Basquo

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #15 on: December 04, 2006, 10:16:55 AM »
I have my status on there, and even a line that says "I prefer other poz guys," but ever since I put this latest pic up there, I get emails within a minute of logging on, from all types of guys, even negatives.

Offline thunter34

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #16 on: December 04, 2006, 10:25:12 AM »
...but ever since I put this latest pic up there, I get emails within a minute of logging on, from all types of guys, even negatives.

Hmmm.   Imagine that.   ::)
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #17 on: December 04, 2006, 11:10:51 AM »
I'd never heard of Manhunt.com until another member here mentioned it in his blog.

Sorry guys, I just distrust hooking up with anyone on the Internet. You have no idea what's on the other end or what you might walk into.

I was always a face-to-face, or face-to-whatever, kinda guy.

Creighton, I am not at all surprised you're getting lots of hits with that latest photo.  8)


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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #18 on: December 04, 2006, 11:53:27 AM »
Gee, you mean to tell me guys lie? Who da thunk it?
On the internet no less!  How DARE they!
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #19 on: December 04, 2006, 12:50:15 PM »
I am just full of posts today....

Unfortunately, fags, like children, are sometimes exceptionally vicious - and often without trying to hurt others.

When I put POZ in my manhunt status field, I ended up curtailing "the conversation" and the disappointment from rejection.  I have found that it saves a great deal of grief.  btw, I'm strayboy74 on manhunt as well. :)

I'm glad that I can put my status, it saves me from weeding out the dick holes.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #20 on: December 04, 2006, 01:03:21 PM »
I have mine up, with my status...and I get posts the minute I log in, and a lot when I am not...hmmm...and strayboy74...I will be hitting you up later!! ;D
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Offline PeteNYNJ

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #21 on: December 04, 2006, 01:14:12 PM »
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I'm glad that I can put my status, it saves me from weeding out the dick holes.

So I guess that makes you a bottom?  :)

[quoteI have my status on there, and even a line that says "I prefer other poz guys," but ever since I put this latest pic up there, I get emails within a minute of logging on, from all types of guys, even negatives.][/quote]

Of course you do, when I saw your new pic on here I immediately looked up where you lived, alas - it is nowhere near me :(

I guess it goes to show that the better you look, the more people will take chances on you.  Wasn't there a study done recently that found a positive correlation between likelyhood of having an STD and how attractive someone is considered?  I guess we can take solace in the fact that we are all obviously beautiful :)

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #22 on: December 04, 2006, 01:35:02 PM »
I have mine up, with my status...and I get posts the minute I log in, and a lot when I am not...hmmm...and strayboy74...I will be hitting you up later!! ;D

:)  I'm easily smitten by swarthy men who have dark facial hair.  LOL


BTW, don't be alarmed by the pictures of me in leather. :)

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #23 on: December 04, 2006, 03:51:20 PM »
As Paul pointed out, manhunt is not where you go for relationship dating, unless it's master and slave.  :)  To answer positive or unknown or something other than negative, in a place like NYC with so many men, it's a street which no one in heat feels that he needs to go down.  I am not surprised by your results, in other words.  Then you need to factor in 'look.'  Certain looks- and this is no comment about yours, please know- are deemed 'hot' and draw more men and, over time, those looks have varied and changed.  Someone who can come (or c__) across as being a take charge guy is also more likely to get hit on.  Or a fresh face, the 'staff' guys having already been through everyone twice.  The same is true among male hookers.  Some are more attractive to the general client.  Some attractive to certain clients.  Manhunt, like much of life, is about marketing yourself and your... product.  Win
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #24 on: December 04, 2006, 04:01:34 PM »
:)  I'm easily smitten by swarthy men who have dark facial hair. 

Isn't everyone? :)
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #25 on: December 04, 2006, 04:08:04 PM »
:)  I'm easily smitten by swarthy men who have dark facial hair.  LOL


BTW, don't be alarmed by the pictures of me in leather. :)

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #26 on: December 04, 2006, 05:02:58 PM »
I won't be alarmed, if you're not alarmed by me in leather sporting a rosebud!

Ah well... in the immortal words of Gertrude Stine, "A Rosebud is a rosebud, is another fucking bottom."

For a dyke, she sure knew ass.  Perhaps we could just costar in a movie together. LOL

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #27 on: December 04, 2006, 05:18:24 PM »
On my local site in gay.com - I leave it blank.   It's TMI for the average bozo.  If they have half a brain they should know I'm saying something by saying nothing.  I disclose only to sexual partners, genrally in person.  Let them pull their pants on and walk if they can't deal.
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #28 on: December 04, 2006, 09:46:24 PM »
I leave my status as "Ask Me" on Manhunt. I believe manhunt is popular only in some parts of US, like NJ/NYC..

In Canada, guys don't give a shit for Manhunt, everybody prefers men4sexnow.com

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #29 on: December 06, 2006, 08:41:09 AM »
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #31 on: December 17, 2006, 09:45:02 PM »
never heard of it (nose growing longer). ok well maybe a few (hundred) times.  i used to put "Ask Me", but then that just creates one more email to have to disclose.  Now I put "poz" in the text part.  still a lot of Neg guys interested, but this is LA where it's more laid back.

but i do agree with you about asking for other diseases, etc.  never thought about it b4.

also agree with Strayboy74, it saves a lot of grief and time to just put it in profile.
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #32 on: December 17, 2006, 09:57:34 PM »
I haven't had an internet hook up in 5 years.  I was really badly stalked by this freak in Manhattan once and it really turned me off.  Nothing like fearing for you life!... Sad thing is that I eventually ended up having sex with him (*giggle*)
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #33 on: December 17, 2006, 10:02:51 PM »
Ah well... in the immortal words of Gertrude Stine, "A Rosebud is a rosebud, is another fucking bottom."

For a dyke, she sure knew ass.  Perhaps we could just costar in a movie together. LOL

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #34 on: December 17, 2006, 10:03:20 PM »
glad to see that your morals really kicked in  LOL
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #35 on: December 17, 2006, 10:04:59 PM »
what really irks me, is when you email someone and it goes into the black hole.  if ur not interested just let me know. i can handle it.  i always try to respond even if it's to say "not a match, but good luck".  i've had a few guys actually thank me for responding.

then again it is a sex site, not a manners site
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #36 on: December 17, 2006, 10:13:24 PM »
It's a sex site?  damn I didn't know that.  Will have to read those profiles a little closer :) 

And I have actually gotten more contacts I think after posting a note about my status.  Not that I get a lot of contacts these days or years for that matter  :'(
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #37 on: December 17, 2006, 10:26:18 PM »
I'm not gonna lie and say that I've never trolled for booty on the Internets... but this whole conversation makes me really glad that I don't do that so much anymore.

Personally, I've found it easier when you meet someone in person (or even through a non-sex site like Myspace), and while they really probably want in your pants (that's the dirty little secret about Myspace... it's responsible for more poon hookups than gay bars in some states), there's at least that veneer of sociability. 

Even though you'd rather just get to sex, the medium in which you've met the person is different, and you're forced to get to know each other as people a bit more than on sites like that.

I've found that I don't have these disclosure issues so much when I've met someone that way.  They're less likely to say "see ya" when they've met ya and dig ya.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #38 on: December 18, 2006, 12:36:59 PM »
"Personally, I've found it easier when you meet someone in person (or even through a non-sex site like Myspace), and while they really probably want in your pants (that's the dirty little secret about Myspace... it's responsible for more poon hookups than gay bars in some states), there's at least that veneer of sociability. "

It's sad that MySpace has turned into the hook up site because it is not meant for that, it was meant for musicians or so I was told. I have a profile on there but I make it known that I am not there for the quick hook up but to make friends, nothing irritates me more than whore trains, but have chatted with a few good people.

Sorry to kinda hijack but I really can't comment on Manhunt for obvious reasons... :D
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #39 on: December 18, 2006, 05:39:28 PM »
I think a lot of the younger set that seems to sexually exist solely on the internet is missing some require skill sets.  Pre-internet in the 90's (well, I had internet access by '94 or so but hardly anyone else did so I didn't indulge that way until around '98, but I digress) one really had to hone those cruising/pick up skills at the bar.  It's surely becoming a lost art... and I will admit that I was fairly skilled back in the day.  One of my ex's used to call me "Bar Whore" which of course is funny but not a particularly compelling nickname to have.  Still makes me laugh though.
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #40 on: December 18, 2006, 07:27:01 PM »
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #41 on: December 18, 2006, 08:07:43 PM »
I was glad to see this posting.. 
I was wondering what to do with mine,..
I kept it as negative but if things are going as to meet and when im sure who in chatting with i let them know..  I cant post as positive because im not telling my family about my status and i have a brother that use that site too..   ;D
But theres a lot of blanks that i assume as positive and most of the ask me too so i tend to chat more with those and respect the ones that clearly say that they want a desease free preson...  But one way or the other is a tuff situation..
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #42 on: December 18, 2006, 09:46:43 PM »
Hey Pete...

So how is the hunt going? Location is key.


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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #43 on: December 18, 2006, 09:56:56 PM »
Do you really find being known as a Bar Whore some kind of proof that the older set has better social skills?

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Bar Whore, Internet Whore... really, which involves better social skills?  *giggle*
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #44 on: December 18, 2006, 10:09:01 PM »
Bar Whore, Internet Whore... really, which involves better social skills?  *giggle*

Of course, are social skills really important when the end result is that you're a whore?

And whore is such a negative term.  I always preferred "sexually exuberant."
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #45 on: December 19, 2006, 01:54:43 AM »
Well, I liked to consider myself a picky whore.  I mean, I didn't just go home with anyone!  REALLY!  Plus I generally stay out of public bathhouses and parks... too messy, though there's a large plaque in Judy Garland Park here where I was gang raped by 10 black men in 1995.  I swear I picked up HIV on a toilet seat though.
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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #46 on: December 19, 2006, 02:02:05 AM »
I joined the site and have noticed since putting up the positive instead of ask me no one will reply. So what it really boils down too I would not doubt that half of the men on there are hiv+ put are to afraid to come out and tell anyone. Then again that is why it is called MANHUNT.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #47 on: December 19, 2006, 11:41:05 PM »
Hmm, try not to joke about picking up HIV from toilet seats. WW's are free to browse any section including Living With HIV and that's the last thing they need to read. But I will show you a picture of a real (and proud-of-it) ho. He has a thing for married preachers ...I think his ho days might be over with his new book deal and all:

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #48 on: December 20, 2006, 12:58:24 AM »
Oh dear me, manhunt....

I leave it blank. Why? because calgary is small and incestuous and there are never more than 70 people on from southern alberta at once. We have one gay bar and pretty much everyone who goes on manhunt also goes there (including some of the staff... not people you want knowing your intimate of intimates). Also, perhaps I'm a hippocrate but I don't think I've come to the point in my life where I can advertise my status yet. I don't tell people that I meet at school, I don't tell my co-workers and only my friends who were around when I was diagnosed, sexual partners and people I have become EXTREMELY close with since my shit hit the fan are privy to that information. My sexual orientation however, I pretty much wear on my sleeve. I got really freaking sick of girls hitting on me and me having to explain it to them so it made it a hell of alot easier to twink it up a touch upon first introduction to get the point across. Also, I have had much longer to develop a political opinion on my sexuality than I have on my status and came to the conclusion (long before HIV) that closet cases are one of the primary reasons we still have so far to  go in terms of bigotry and legal issues. Perhaps I'm not part of the same problem for people living with HIV but whereas I think being gay is great and I would rather drink acid than become straight, I don't think I will ever come to a place where I think being HIV+ is a good thing.

Plus, I worked really freaking hard to have a wicked body for the last year and I'm not gonna lie, I've got a few racy -yet g rated - photos of myself up there and I kind of like the ego boost from all the messages I get. I have no intention of meeting ANY of them but when you're feeling shitty about yourself a quick pick me up from people wanting a piece of your ass is nice and I don't really want to ruin that by putting up my HIV status.

Does that stop other poz guys from finding me? so far yes, I've only ever seen one other guy in alberta with a poz label on there but that's ok. I got lucky (if you can call it luck) and caught garden variety, wild type HIV that has less than no resistance to all available treatments. I suppose it's selfish on my part but I don't want to sleep with other poz guys and possibly contract whatever drug resistances they have and seriously screw my future up and I think that there would be far more pressure to bareback with someone of the same status as me.

As for the guys on there who put the whole "disease free" thing. well, power to them... I feel the same way. I still wake up everyday and thank god I don't have syphillis and hot diggity I plan on keeping it that way. However, it's freaking ignorant. How the hell can they guarantee that? 20-25% of people with HIV don't know they have it, there are lots of other STDS that can lurk in the shadows for a very long time before the host knows they're there. Putting some dumbass disclaimer like that up doesn't protect you and in my opinion only serves as a backhanded way of advertising their own holier than thou cleanliness.

That whole 'clean' label kind of pisses me off too. Clean? the opposite of clean is dirty and last time I checked, my hygiene was FAR supierior to most everyone I know. I would really love to ask one of them just what exactly they thought of me in comparison to their own 'cleanliness'. For someone to say that makes me think that they must have at one point gotten crabs from one of their many sex partners (but who they probably couldn't tell you) and is really pissed off about it.

*sigh* sorry for ranting again. I'll be much nicer when school is over for the holidays.

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Re: Status question on Manhunt.net
« Reply #49 on: December 20, 2006, 08:44:23 AM »
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