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Author Topic: How many times a day???  (Read 4480 times)

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Offline Javicho

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How many times a day???
« on: November 30, 2006, 04:37:36 PM »
OK I'm going to need everybody help on this. I'm trying to make my partner understands that a normal couple can have sex at least twice a day or some times three. Who is with me...

Offline Cliff

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2006, 04:57:37 PM »
I don't think there are any hard and fast rules here.  If you two are comfortable with the amount of times per day/week/month, then that's your normal.  But if you gotta pressure him, then perhaps it ain't normal (for him at least).

Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2006, 10:12:40 AM »
I'm not try to pressure him I just wanted to find out how sexually active is an average normal couple

Offline tcellsnaction

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2006, 10:42:27 AM »
According to my ex.....it depends on how long you have been together....

We were together for almost 13 years and dwindled to once a quarter or so...I would have welcomed once a day... ;D
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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #4 on: December 01, 2006, 10:49:40 AM »
I don't think there are any hard and fast rules here.  If you two are comfortable with the amount of times per day/week/month, then that's your normal.  But if you gotta pressure him, then perhaps it ain't normal (for him at least).

You said hard and fast!!! LOL

The average couple has sex around 13 times a year.  According to the American Association Of Sexual Therapists of America Group.
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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #5 on: December 01, 2006, 10:55:22 AM »

The average couple has sex around 13 times a year.  According to the American Association Of Sexual Therapists of America Group.
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How I will survived with 13 times only?
Maybe is just me I'm way to horny...

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #6 on: December 01, 2006, 10:58:30 AM »


   Go to the porn thread...  that may offer you some solice!


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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #7 on: December 01, 2006, 11:05:36 AM »
Skeebo I'm been in that thread since started and i loved it :P

Offline ACinKC

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #8 on: December 01, 2006, 11:06:11 AM »
Thats just an AVERAGE... there are equal parts ABOVE that number and BELOW that number.
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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #9 on: December 01, 2006, 11:17:18 AM »
I definitely want to be in the Above number ;)

Offline poet

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #10 on: December 01, 2006, 11:19:43 AM »
Javicho, in your own words: 'trying to make my partner understand.'  In a relationship, as I am sure that you know or have read, you can't 'make' someone do something.  You can ask him or her.  You can open up a discussion about sex, how often you would like to have it with him or her.  You can hear his or her response so you get his or her side of the question.  If a couple involves 20 something year olds, it is not unheard of for sex to be going on constantly.  If a couple is older, their libido tends to drop and sex is less frequent.  If a couple is together for a long time, it is also normal for the sex to drop off.  Now if you would like him to get with it more often, perhaps think about changing the sex you two are having, when you are having it, etc.  There is nothing like a change in things to respark things.  But, bottom (and top) line, communication is needed.  Win
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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #11 on: December 01, 2006, 11:27:29 AM »
We are been together 6 years he is 44 and I'm 34 we do try many things including w/a third person

Offline Oh501sguy

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #12 on: December 01, 2006, 08:09:36 PM »
What dream world are you living in?  LOL... Sort seems to be a rule here... when your "going steady" 5-7 times a week,
When you commit, years 1-5, 2-3 times a week...after that ...your lucky if you get it 10 times a year!

(this is only based on MY past experience)   

The last two relationships that I have, sex was good until we committed.  Then after that they wanted it with everybody EXCEPT me. 

Did I mention Im NOW single?

 ;DChuck


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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #13 on: December 02, 2006, 05:33:16 AM »
Okay guys, the gauntlet is down: Chuck is available and WANTS to have sex, lot's of sex, so if it isn't happening after you discover him and start dating him, it's YOUR fault!  ;D  We now have two guys who can show us that the drive doesn't go into park.  Win
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Offline AtomicA

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #14 on: December 02, 2006, 05:41:41 AM »
mmmm sex.

how long have you been together? Sometimes I want to have sex 8 times a day for a month and then It hardly crosses my mind for 2 or 3 weeks.

and which one of you is poz? are you both poz? are you sure he's not got some fear issues surrounding the whole transmittance thing? that can be a silent mood killer, I know that one from experience.

Offline Eldon

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #15 on: December 02, 2006, 08:55:56 PM »
Sex...

Hhhmmm...

There are a number of different variations with this topic. I'd start with communication. Just saying.


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Offline Iggy

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #16 on: December 02, 2006, 09:19:07 PM »
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« Last Edit: January 10, 2007, 09:14:27 PM by Iggy »

Offline quarterhorsetn

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #17 on: December 02, 2006, 09:23:18 PM »
as much as possible!!!
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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #18 on: December 04, 2006, 10:45:16 AM »
mmmm sex.

how long have you been together? Sometimes I want to have sex 8 times a day for a month and then It hardly crosses my mind for 2 or 3 weeks.

and which one of you is poz? are you both poz? are you sure he's not got some fear issues surrounding the whole transmittance thing? that can be a silent mood killer, I know that one from experience.

I'm poz he is neg I'm not sure if that's the case but is a good point. About jerking off that's all I do for now ;)

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #19 on: December 04, 2006, 12:01:12 PM »
Why care what a "normal couple" does?!!!!

 

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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #20 on: December 04, 2006, 02:43:59 PM »
I'm trying to find out if I'm the only horny guy ;)

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #21 on: December 04, 2006, 04:21:26 PM »
Jav,

Atleast you are having sex! I haven't had any in over a year and I have to use a bob to take the edge off. When I was in a relationship last, my partner was 21, so I had to pull out the stops to try to hang with him. I'm 37 but am diabetic which I hear tends to kill the sex drive. But for me a few times a week is good....Sounds like your partner may need some motivation, who knows......
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Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #22 on: December 04, 2006, 04:58:08 PM »
Jav,

Atleast you are having sex! I haven't had any in over a year and I have to use a bob to take the edge off. When I was in a relationship last, my partner was 21, so I had to pull out the stops to try to hang with him. I'm 37 but am diabetic which I hear tends to kill the sex drive. But for me a few times a week is good....Sounds like your partner may need some motivation, who knows......

I do try everything I can as I mention before i even try having sex w/a third person, also porn movies and toys, since that is working but I think is me that i want more

Offline Razorbill

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #23 on: December 04, 2006, 05:05:25 PM »
2 or 3 times a day????  Don't you have a job?  Hobbies?  Laundry?  I'm gonna buck the trend here and say you are not being reasonable at all.  You should back off some and find something to do with your partner that doesn't involve your dick.

Offline Javicho

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #24 on: December 04, 2006, 05:10:20 PM »
I do have a job, hobbies and i do laundry every weekend, don't tell me you don't like sex as much as I do ;)

Offline Razorbill

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #25 on: December 04, 2006, 05:20:28 PM »
Like Groucho said - I like a good cigar, but I take it out of my mouth every now and then.

Offline poet

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #26 on: December 04, 2006, 07:18:59 PM »
Ok, from a sexpert, someone who worked in the sex trade?  Men do vary, in or out of a relationship.  I had one 20 something year old client whom I never could figure out.  He HAD to get off twice a bodywork session.  HAD to do so.  Even if he had just had sex.  I have had clients who wanted only to get off.  Why spend the money on a session?  The normal flux with the full moon, men's hormones like women's responding to the pull and the fixation and look of someone driven by the moon is just that: fixation.  I tried to work with many sexual compulsives, by definition, guys who would seek out sexpportunities, get off and then seek out sexpportunities as thought they 'got no satisfaction.'  In NYC it kept many a Times Square movie theatre in business.  And shall we remember bath houses and how the point was to hit everyone in your fixed time period?  Of course there the trick was to get close but not get off so if you were smart you figured out who was close to scheduled departure time and brought him in.   Then there are the guys, perhaps like your partner, who have sex and then move onto something else, like eating dinner.  Men, at least, vary.  Communication is needed to try to get you and your partner into how to handle this without driving both of you crazy and/or apart.  Win
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Offline tryingforhope

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #27 on: December 05, 2006, 12:06:58 AM »
Okay female going out on a limb here. I must be incredibly horny. I was in a relationship for ten years with someone, married for five to him and we had sex at least once or twice a day.
With my fiance now, I have been with him for a year and we have sex at least once or twice a day. Crazily even this pregnancy has not slowed down my drive....

Offline Javicho

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« Reply #28 on: December 05, 2006, 10:25:12 AM »
Thank you Poet, yes we are going to start a couples therapy today and will see whats going on maybe I'm to horny or he just not into sex anymore...

Okay female going out on a limb here. I must be incredibly horny. I was in a relationship for ten years with someone, married for five to him and we had sex at least once or twice a day.
With my fiance now, I have been with him for a year and we have sex at least once or twice a day. Crazily even this pregnancy has not slowed down my drive....

I'm just like you girl, good for you ;) I will love to have sex at least once a day or two

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #29 on: December 05, 2006, 11:07:42 AM »
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« Reply #30 on: December 05, 2006, 11:12:16 AM »
I have sex once every pass of Haley's comet, or when a Helen Keller convention for the blind is in town.

Whit that look I will be very lucky ;)

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« Reply #32 on: December 05, 2006, 11:33:37 AM »
Yes, you have a perfect body and a very cute face :-*

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Offline Javicho

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« Reply #34 on: December 05, 2006, 11:55:45 AM »
If I'm correct I saw your face on a previous pic

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Offline Javicho

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« Reply #36 on: December 05, 2006, 12:08:24 PM »
Don't be so hard on you I think you are still very attractive man I really mean it :-*

Offline et in arcadia ego

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« Reply #37 on: December 05, 2006, 04:23:00 PM »
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How I will survived with 13 times only?


When you are my age, you will understand....

Offline Javicho

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« Reply #38 on: December 05, 2006, 04:48:08 PM »
When you are my age, you will understand....

You are only 53 I"m sure you can do more ;)

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Re: How many times a day???
« Reply #39 on: December 06, 2006, 04:20:52 PM »
Nightmarehell... you could look like the bad guy from the carebears... you're still my wet dream

 


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