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Author Topic: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?  (Read 3758 times)

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Offline Hwood

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Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« on: November 20, 2006, 03:17:32 PM »
Hi,

Any advice is much appreciated. Let me give you the history:

**** I know the choices I made were bad ones but I can't change what I did in the past only what I do in the future.****

9 weeks ago I had my first man / man experience and am scared I may have contracted HIV. The guy I was with and I discussed at length his HIV status and he told me he was negative. I told him I was as well. The only test I ever had was for life insurance 5 months ago and that was negative. I had no other sexual encounters between my test and the night 8 weeks ago.

We engaged in oral sex, no ejaculation, and unprotected anal sex (insertive on my part), no ejaculation, then mutual jo. The day following the we spoke again about his HIV status and he assured me he was HIV -. Three days following that night I became very nauseous and unable to eat. I didn't have a full blown fever but did experience hot flashes and cold sweats on occasion and a sore throat, not too many body aches and no diarrhea. They symptoms lasted for 4 days or so and have gone away.

Two weeks after the encounter I had an HIV test and it was negative, the nurse suggested I get tested again in 3 months which is mid December. I'm wondering if a test now, 9 weeks after would give me some sort of relief from the anxiety I'm experiencing.

I have no real reason to believe the guy is not being honest with me about his status but I can't help but think I caught something.

Please let me know my risk and again, anything you can tell me would be very helpful and I appreciate it very much.

Thanks.
« Last Edit: November 21, 2006, 05:40:32 PM by Hwood »

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Unprotected exposure risk
« Reply #1 on: November 20, 2006, 03:42:24 PM »
OK, H. There are some important basics to discuss here.

First of all, I agree with the suggestion that you re-test at 13 weeks. That's in line with the recommendation of the CDC for a reliable testing point.

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the very smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure to the HIV virus. Given that you had a single possible exposure in which you were the insertive partner, the odds are very much in your favor against transmission having occured. The risk is less for the insertive partner, but nevertheless there is some risk and HIV status is never something to guess about.

You can have all the sex you want with other men. The main thing to remember is that when it comes to intercourse, the insertive partner must always be wearing a latex condom. They provide very effective protection against HIV.

It's your responsibility to protect your own health. So while it maybe reassuring to have heard what the other fellow told you, the only test result that matters is your own. It doesn't matter how nice the other person is or how great he looks or anything else. A condom is a must for intercourse and that's true for both vaginal and anal. Period. Everytime. No exceptions until such time as you may sometime find yourself in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners have tested negative together.

One last thing is the matter of you using the term "clean" to describe the other guy. You need to know that's offensive in relation to conversation about HIV in particular and STDs in general. It implies that someone who's HIV positive is unclean or dirty. I don't think you intended to convey that so just remember in the future to use either HIV positive or negative or some similarly non-judgemental term when referring to HIV status.

Good luck with your test. I do expect you will come through this ok, but you do need to get into the habit of always, ALWAYS using a condom.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected exposure risk
« Reply #2 on: November 20, 2006, 04:39:33 PM »
Thanks and I didn't mean to imply somebody with HIV is unclean, I apologize if I offended anybody.

Thanks again.

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #3 on: November 30, 2006, 04:01:44 PM »
Hi and again thanks for all your advice.

I've got one more question.  I was feeling so anxious over the Thanksgiving holiday and since then that I decided to get another oral quick antibody test.  It's been 10 1/2 weeks since possible exposure and the test today was negative.  I know I'm not out of the woods and still have some time to stew over the mistake I made.

Only one thing confused me, the nurse that administered the test today mentioned to me that 95% of people will test positive by 3 months but there are still that 5% may take as long as 6 months.  Everything I've read here says 3 months or 13 weeks.

Thanks again.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2006, 04:27:47 PM »
If you would be in the 5% category would have known it way before now. ie., Chemo treatment, on antirejection medication, chronic IV drug user and someone with an immune suppressed disorder.

Offline woodshere

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #5 on: November 30, 2006, 04:28:11 PM »
I am not qualified to discuss seroconversion and such, but I can tell you something about your "stewing".  Stop!  We all make mistakes.  Quit beating yourself up over it and learn from it.  It looks like you will remain negative.  So learn from the experience and next time use a condom so you won't have to go through all this again.  If you choose not to use a condom then be prepared for all the feelings you are experiencing to resurface.
Cheers,
Woods
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Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #6 on: December 01, 2006, 04:37:52 PM »
Thanks....I really appreciate everybody's support and comments and will go for one more test in a few weeks.

Thanks again.

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #7 on: December 07, 2006, 01:50:49 PM »
Hi,

I hate to take time away from the other posts as there is really nothing I can do for another week and a half.....but, if my test last week, at 10 1/2 weeks, was negative is there any information as the chances that the results may change at 13 week?

Thanks again and I am sorry if I'm taking time away from anybody else who needs advice.


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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #8 on: December 07, 2006, 02:06:29 PM »
H,

If your ten and a half week test is negative, you're more likely to find a lottery ticket lying in the gutter outside your house that turns out to be a $10,000,000 winner. Seriously. It's that unlikely to change.

Ann
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Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #9 on: December 11, 2006, 04:43:40 PM »
Thanks again everybody,

I'll be taking my 13 week test next week, keeping my fingers crossed and saying a lot of prayers.

It's really great to have a forum like to for scared individuals to openly discuss issues like HIV and get much sought after support.

Thanks.

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #10 on: January 02, 2007, 03:12:25 PM »
Hi,

I'm getting ready to go for another test but had a quick question.  I'll be 15 1/2 weeks after the possible exposure, I find myself more anxious than when I went at 10 1/2 weeks.  Anyway, I've been on antibiotics for the last ten days and wondered if they have the chance for affecting the results.

Thanks.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2007, 03:31:35 PM »
No the antibiotics will not affect the test and your results.

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #12 on: January 08, 2007, 02:35:37 PM »
Hi everybody,

I just got back from a Oral Quick test at the 16th week mark, it was negative!! 

I wanted to thank everybody for their kind words and support, it's really helpful when you have nowhere else to turn, thanks again!!
 
Two things, the nurse still suggested I get tested at 6 months and I just wanted to get your thoughts on that.

Also, I wish I had handled one thing a little differently -- I was so quick to suspect the guy I was with was positive and that through my constant implying that he wasn't being honest....I think I lost a potentially great friend and it cost me 4 months of anxiety.

Again, thanks to everybody here.


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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #13 on: January 08, 2007, 05:16:11 PM »
Hwood,

You are conclusively hiv negative and do not need further testing.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for intercourse and you will continue to avoid hiv infection.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Hwood

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Re: Unprotected anal - exposure risks?
« Reply #14 on: January 10, 2007, 11:26:01 AM »
Thank you all again VERY VERY much for all your kind words and support !!!!


 


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