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Offline worriedandanxious

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sex worker encounter (shaved)
« on: June 08, 2006, 07:37:11 AM »
1 week ago I had an encounter with a sex worker from Kenya.

I received unprotected oral from her followed by protected vaginal intercourse, the later of which lasted not more than a minute. That morning I had shaved the base of my penis and scrotum and am now worried that this might have put me at greater risk. I realise that unprotected oral is considered low risk and so is protected vaginal intercourse but i am freaking out, especially after reading up on the high percentage of infection in the population of african nations.

i have never done anything like this before and am trying to figure out how to tell my wife when i see her again in a couple of weeks as she will expect us to make love and i don't want to risk passing anything on to her. i have basically decided that i will tell her, and beg forgiveness, and then will get all the tests i can think of done. Will a test after 3 weeks yield any reliable results? I know I will have to get retested at 13 weeks to be sure but i would like to get tested as soon as possible for obvious psycological reasons.

Any advice on how I can tell my wife would also be much appreciated.

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #1 on: June 08, 2006, 07:59:48 AM »
If you had protected sex, you don't have a concern with contracting HIV. You won't get HIV from a blowjob. You can however get an STD. You won't have to wait to be tested for an STD. The window period does not apply in this case.

Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #2 on: June 08, 2006, 08:07:12 AM »
but doesn't the fact that i had shaved my pubic region prior to this put me at greater risk? what are the odds of contracting hiv in this manner?

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #3 on: June 08, 2006, 08:19:30 AM »
worried,

The fact that you shaved makes no difference at all. Condoms do an excellent job of preventing the transmission of hiv. Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection no matter what sort of spin you want to put on it.

As Rodney pointed out, getting a blowjob is a potential risk for other sexually transmitted infections, but not hiv. For further information on other STIs, please check out the inSPOT website for more information - and see your doctor.

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Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #4 on: June 08, 2006, 10:22:07 AM »
Thanks for information and the link.

I know it is irrational but I am still really worried about the chance of HIV.

Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter
« Reply #5 on: June 08, 2006, 11:01:18 AM »
everyone on this forum does an excellent job. it is especially reassuring to an idiot like me, who has done an unbelievably stupid thing, to get advice from people who know what they are talking about. i wish everywhere on the internet could agree on risk factors though.

I know i need to get tested for STDs, but would you still advise a HIV test just to be sure?

Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #6 on: June 09, 2006, 01:19:46 AM »
after another night of practically no sleep i am freaking out even more, I just keep going over this stuff again and again in my head and thinking that for sure I have been infected.

protected sex is not a guarantee right? what are the odds of getting hiv during protected sex? what are the odds of contracting an std from unprotected oral? please help.

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #7 on: June 09, 2006, 01:40:34 AM »
Worried,

Saliva is not infectious.  Knowone has ever contracted hiv from RECEIVING a blowjob. 

A properly used condom imparts 100% protection from hiv.  The only risk is if the condom were to break. 

Shave or no shave, you were not at risk for hiv.  You had protected sex.

You don't need to test for this encounter.....  but if you're going to insist on it, wait at least until the 6 week post exposure mark as the vast majority of those infected would get an accurate result at that time. 

But before you get too obsessed with this, re-read this thread as you have been advised by the best in hiv risk assessment that YOU WERE NOT AT RISK FOR HIV.

Morgan
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Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #8 on: June 09, 2006, 02:34:02 AM »
thanks morgan, your reassurance is much appreciated.

i think i might go crazy with another 5 weeks to wait though. do you know how long i should wait for other std tests such as herpes etc.?

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #9 on: June 09, 2006, 02:49:46 AM »
Worried,

The incubation period for herpes is usually 2-5 days..... maybe up to a week.

I just posted other std info in Freshair's thread....  but we're getting a little off-topic with the other std's so I'm going to cut it there.

Morgan
« Last Edit: June 09, 2006, 02:51:51 AM by Morgan »
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Offline worriedandanxious

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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #10 on: June 09, 2006, 03:14:29 AM »
thanks again morgan. sorry for getting off topic.

like most everyone else on this forum i am stressing out and want all the answers to everything. sorry.


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Re: sex worker encounter (shaved)
« Reply #11 on: June 09, 2006, 03:17:42 AM »
I completely understand.

Morgan  ;)
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