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Offline halllokitty

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I'm so worried,still
« on: November 17, 2010, 07:28:52 AM »
Hi,guys.I really want to be happy, and everyday I keep telling myself that anything I'm thinking now will not contribute any to my 6 week test result, which still needs more than 4 weeks to be known. But I can stop myself, I'm so worried, and I can't control myself any more. So I'm here, hoping your guy can help me. Here's my things.
I know there's a high percentage of HIV+ among homosex, but I(male) have my 1st sexual experienment with another guy more than 1 week ago, a horrible experienment, which I swear I'll never do the same thing again. I did the things below:
1.Rimming(me to him, very slight and only a short time)
2.He fingered me,with his saliva on his finger for lubrication,I asked him if he used any pre-cum,or there's any cut on his finger,he said no,but I'm not that sure;
3.I performed oral sex on him, although a short time without ejaculation, but I'm also not sure if there's any pre-cum in my mouth, which I considered quite possible. There's no obvious gum in my mouth, but there may be gingivitis, because about 4 hours after our sex, I brushed my tooth strenghthly and roughly to make sure, and then I found bleed;
4.He touched my pennis for about 3~4 seconds,then we masturbated with our own hands.But his sperm are all on my face, while I have some zits on my face too, and some of them may have been picked by me earlyer, but no bleeding.
That's all of my sexual experienment in my whole life, I'm feeling huge regret and guilt all the time. And I promise if I do not catch HIV this time, I'll never let it happen!!!!I'll never do anything like this again!!
So I want to ask your guys, how much my risk is? Will I be infected?
Since I'm waiting for the 6 week-test, how accurate it is, can it be 99.9945%?
You said 13 weeks can be conclusion, then how about 12 weeks, or 11 weeks and 6 days?(because in China, 12 weeks later is our Spring Festival, which equal to your Christmas Day, Everyone are on holiday, I don't want to have the gooddays with guilty and regret :'()
A boy who made a huge mistake in his life....

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Re: I'm so worried,still
« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2010, 08:07:11 AM »

Nothing you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection. You don't need to test.

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Offline halllokitty

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Re: I'm so worried,still
« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2010, 09:14:30 AM »

Nothing you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection. You don't need to test.


Sorry for my OCD(Obsessive Compulsive Disorder),really sorry.
I know I should stop surfing the Internet for other informations which may really scare me, but unfortunately I did from time to time....now I'll trying to stop!
What you said really calm me down, not a little, almost completely, if I stop reading any other staff on this.
I'll try my best to survive in this difficult period!

I asked him several days ago, he said he has been with 4 guys. Never anal sex with any of them, only fingering, receiving and giving unprotected oral sex. That's only what he said, I don't konw.
He said last time he had sex was 3 mouths ago, and then I bought a piece of Quick Oral Saliva Test Strips online for him, the result was negative, but as you know, there's a lot of fakes on the Internet, as well as the maybe-not-standard operation, all experts say it's not a convincing result.

And I know what he said is not the stardard to measure my risk, the gold stardard is what I behaved,which you have already commented on.

So I only want to confirm thatódo you mean I can come back to my really life, without any consideration or misgiving on that hiv has already hiden in my body, and AIDS may suddenly appears to me 10 years later?
Or a 3 mouths' wait is still needed to avoid the potential risk?
Pretty stupid question, sorry for my OCD again.

Simple life turns to be so nice, only when a mistake occurs that I know it. :-[


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Re: I'm so worried,still
« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2010, 10:37:00 AM »
Yes, that's exactly what she means. No risk means you ought to get on with your life and let go of this unwarranted fear. Period.
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Offline halllokitty

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Re: I'm so worried,still
« Reply #4 on: November 17, 2010, 10:18:52 PM »
Yes, that's exactly what she means. No risk means you ought to get on with your life and let go of this unwarranted fear. Period.
I don't know how to express my thankness!


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