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Offline peterhelms

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burn in my mouth
« on: November 09, 2006, 05:28:33 PM »
my boyfriend is positive im negative, today he was penetrating me and the condom broke, he didnt cum inside of me, but there might have been pre cum,  so should i start taking PEP?, please help

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Re: scared in a small town
« Reply #1 on: November 09, 2006, 05:55:56 PM »
Peter, I'm wondering how quickly he withdrew once he knew the condom had broken. Since he didn't ejaculate inside of you that automatically reduces the level of risk. If he withdrew immediately then the risk would be very low.

Is your bf on meds and/or do you know what his viral load is? If he's undetectable that would also be a factor in your favor against transmission.

The bottom line in this is the if PEP is going to be started it needs to be done at no more than 48-72 hours after a possible exposure.

I recommend that you guys call his doctor ASAP and discuss it. Get his assessment on the risk level to you. If he recommends PEP he can get it going for you.

Keep us posted on what you decide to do.
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« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2006, 06:05:36 PM »
Peter,

I can't really add anything to what Andy has said - your decision to take - or not take - PEP depends on the variables Andy has outlined.

PEP needs careful consideration before starting. The meds must be taken on time, every day, for 28 days and you may be faced with many side-effects. It is not something to put yourself through unless there has been substantial risk of transmission.

If you can give us a few more details, we might be able to give a firmer recommendation.

The bottom line here is to contact your partner's doctor and discuss it further. You will need to discuss this with a doctor anyway if you decide you need to proceed.

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Re: scared in a small town
« Reply #3 on: November 09, 2006, 06:11:12 PM »
his viral load is 44 thousand,  we are not sure when the condom broke all we know is that he didnt cum inside of me, he is not on medication......i live in south america so hiv knowledge is very scarse here, my boyfriends doctor doesnt ever answers calls.     i feel desperate....if this had happened to you guys wold you take the pep?

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« Reply #4 on: November 09, 2006, 06:24:16 PM »
OK. This is now in the domain of personal opinion. If you are unable to get word from his doctor to discuss the situation, then personally, I would say go for PEP if it's available.

I do believe the odds are in your favor in the situation as you described the incident. But why not raise them even further in your favor and do PEP?

Remember that as far as getting tested, for a conclusive and reliable test result, you need to test at 13 weeks AFTER the completion of the PEP regimen. 

Keep us posted -- and although I know you're very anxious right now, do the good deep and slow breathing I always recommend for whenever you're tensing up. It really works and getting more upset will not be helpful to you or to your boyfriend. 
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Re: scared in a small town
« Reply #5 on: November 09, 2006, 07:04:44 PM »
peterhelms, I live in a very small town also, not quite 2400 people counting the dogs. Everyone here knows my status and no one cares, except to ask how I'm doing. You would be surprised how many people really care.

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pep and vitamins
« Reply #6 on: November 16, 2006, 01:50:34 PM »
i started taking pep last week since my positive boyfriend condom broke( even tough he didnt come inside me) and i have a question, is it ok to take those gnc  work out vitamins that help you loose calories while also help you gain muscle? im totally clueless here so any help would be wonderful

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« Reply #7 on: November 16, 2006, 02:12:36 PM »
Peter-

Without knowing the exact composition of these supplements, I don't know that anyone on here could tell you for sure.  The best advice would be to speak directly with your doctor about it...and I'd bring along the pill bottles when you do.  While there might not be a problem, I'd err on the side of caution and take a pause with those pills- at least until given a definitive greenlight from your physician.  It's been documented that some vitamins and herbal supplements (even garlic supplements, I've been told) CAN interfere with the absorption of some medicines...so I'd recommend you let a doctor address this directly.  That's just my 2 cents. 
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« Reply #8 on: February 10, 2007, 03:12:13 PM »
MY boyfriend is positive, im negative, yesterday night i saw a pimple in my belly and then i started thinking, that yesterday afternoon i had sex with my boyfriend and when i was on top of him that pimple( it may have been bleeding) might have touch is penis and pre cum. If my pimple was bleeding and his pre cum touched my pimple at the time, could  that be a transmision opportunity?

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2007, 03:29:38 PM »
should i start taking pep?

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #10 on: February 10, 2007, 04:19:25 PM »
Keep all your questions and thought in your orginal thread.

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« Reply #11 on: February 10, 2007, 04:47:19 PM »
Peter,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

What you describe with the pimple is NOT a risk for hiv infection. You certainly don't need PEP.

I urge you to become more knowledgeable where hiv transmission is concerned. You don't need to go running for PEP every time you and your boyfriend have physical contact. Make sure condoms are used - and used correctly - when you have intercourse and you'll be fine.

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #12 on: February 10, 2007, 05:08:56 PM »
thank you for answering me, i got tested yesterday about what happened 3 months ago and  im negative, but now i have this other concern

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #13 on: February 10, 2007, 05:15:19 PM »
Which is not a concern at all.

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #14 on: February 10, 2007, 05:56:15 PM »
why not, what if his pre cum got inside my bleeding pimple?

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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #15 on: February 10, 2007, 06:33:33 PM »
First of all, congratulations on having posted negative in relation to your initial concern.

Secondly, as to your current concern,  HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It's fragile and it requires a receptive host.

What your latest concern is essentially what we call frottage. It's a very common sexual activity. Pimples, bruises, minor cuts and various other things happen all the time on our bodies. We would have known long before this if such activities were a risk and people would be wearing body-sized condoms.

Transmission simply doesn't happen in this common and casual way. Period.

What you have persuaded me is that you and your boyfriend need to have some conversation about HIV status. Some simple and direct conversation about feelings and fears. And if necessary with a professional such as a therapist. Along with that I would say some conversation together with his HIV doctor would also be helpful to clarify how to protect your status. 

Many, many thousands of serodiscordant couples are having very good lives in every way these days including sexually. And you can as well. There have been a number of ongoing and extensive studies done of such couples, both gay and straight. By consistently using condoms for intercourse and having lots of unprotected mutual oral among other activities the end result has been that not a single sero-negative partner has become infected.

You are worrying needlessly this time, but it would be a good idea to address the anxiety which I read seeping through your concerns. And perhaps your boyfriend's as well.
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Re: bleeding pimple
« Reply #16 on: February 11, 2007, 05:59:23 AM »
thanks so much for your answers, but sometimes  my head starts spinning like crazy, and my boyfriend is 16 years older than i am ( i 36, he is 20) so sometimes since he is so young he is not aware of the dangers, and i love him to death and i want to be with him. And SINCE IT FRUSTRATES me the fact that he is hiv positive, sometimes i get angry at him.  But i adore him  , but i dont want to become hiv postive and since we always have safe sex, i probably wont

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how dangerous is this sex act?
« Reply #17 on: February 18, 2007, 07:29:30 AM »
hello again to everyone, i have another question to you guys and this forum is great sice you can read  your concerns and sometimes when i call an aids hotline, after i hung up , everything is like a big blur.
As some of you may know my boyfriend is positive, im negative and the other day he was humping me without penetrating me, but his  penis was close to  where my  my ass begings without actually going inside, but then i started thinking , what if he had pre cum in his penis and that pre cum found a way inside my asshole? Again he wasnt inside but his penis was touching the hole of my butt., Is there a way the pre cum found a way inside?
Thanks forr your answers,i hope im not annoying you guys.

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« Reply #18 on: February 18, 2007, 07:51:56 AM »
Peter,

This is the second time I've had to merge your threads. Read the posting guidelines in the Welcome Thread like you've been asked and get with the program.

Precum doesn't have a little outboard motor so it can "find its way" anywhere. What you describe is called frottage (the rubbing of genitals without penetration) and it is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

As long as you two are using condoms for penetrative intercourse, then you will be ok. Make sure you're using the condoms correctly by reading through the condom and lube links in my signature line. A correctly used condom rarely breaks.

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« Reply #19 on: April 08, 2007, 07:49:02 AM »
hi everyone, i have a concern so i will tell you my story. Yesterday i went to a sex club ( or a porno movie theater) and went i left the place i realized there were blood stains in my t shirt, and i inmediately started to think what i had done inside the theater. , and the only thing i could think of was that the guy i masturbated with while we were jerking off together, this guy touched the head of my penis for a few seconds , especifically my urethra( thwe whole that is at the tip of the penis.
My question is , if he did have blood on his hand while he touched my urethra, is there a way that blood found its way to inside my penis and into my bloodstream? I heard before that it is hard for things to go inside the urethra since it was designed for the pee to go out and not for anything to go in,
But if the blood got inside the urethra, do i have reason for concern??

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« Reply #20 on: April 08, 2007, 07:51:31 AM »
paulwell,

Can I ask why you are using different usernames while posting to our forums? Thus far, you have also used peterhelms

Please realize that this kind of activity is disrespectful of other forum members, as well as our moderators. People spend a considerable amount of time helping others in these forums. Using multiple accounts is at the very least annoying, if not deceiving and disrespectful of others. It is also against our Terms of Membership which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread, which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse.

You must realize that the answers won't change, no matter how many names you post under.

I would appreciate a reply to this message, and I hope you will commit to using just one account - preferably your original one. If not, you will be banned from further access to the forums.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #21 on: April 08, 2007, 08:40:33 AM »
im sorry i logged in with a different username, i apologize.i never explained that my boyfiend and i have an open relationship, so ii felt embarrassed about this topic.

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« Reply #22 on: April 08, 2007, 10:05:34 AM »
Peter,

Creating a new account was unnecessary as we do not make moral judgements here. Create a third account and be banned. I have merged your two threads and disabled your Paulwell account.

You did not have a risk for hiv infection during your sex club encounter. You have been reading this forum for long enough now to understand that hiv is not transmitted in this manner.

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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burn in my mouth
« Reply #23 on: July 02, 2007, 03:45:02 PM »
i didnt continue with the last thread a few months ago because it told me that since my last thread hadnt been read in over 2 months.
my question is....my boyfriend is positive, im negative, yesterday i had a little burn on the inside of my upper gum since i have been using a whitening mouthwash
i gave oral sex to my positive boyfriend, he didnt cum in my mouth( never does), but i did blow him, what if there was pre cum , could that pre cum enetered my burn? i touched my gum and there was no blood, it just hurt a bit.
what about saliva?  Ciould saliva enter my burn and infect me?. im sorry if the question is dumb, but when you are worried you cant think straight.

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« Reply #24 on: July 02, 2007, 04:07:49 PM »
Peter,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

It doesn't matter what the software said about posting, in this particular forum we like you to keep everything in one thread.

Thank you for your cooperation.

This "burn" of yours sounds more like a sensitivity to me, from what you describe. Unless you had a serious, fresh and bleeding wound in your mouth and your partner's viral load is sky-high, I wouldn't worry about it.

Keep using condoms for intercourse and you'll avoid hiv infection.

Ann


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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #25 on: September 10, 2007, 03:23:34 PM »
Yesterday my boyfriend and i were taking a bath in the jacuzzi, we started having sex and i think  he might have been a little bit inside of me( half an inch) for about 2 seconds, on 3 different times between 2 seconds of each time. I hope im being clear, let me explain again, he was half an inch inside me, then he pull out, then half a inch  inside me again for 2 seconds, he pulled out and then half an inch inside me again for 2 seconds  and he pulled out again. He didnt cum until later, so i know for a fact there was no cum.
We are always very safe but we were very horny , so my question is...should i worry about this, is pep worth it, or you guys think this is very low risk.... thanks , i appreciate it.

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« Reply #26 on: September 10, 2007, 04:54:59 PM »
My opinion is this sounds like a very low risk experience. If at all...

I know you've been anxious about other incidents in the past. I'm wondering how much have you guys actually sat down and talked about each other's feelings? Once those colored lights get going it can be awfully easy to slip into full action, no pun intended. Some conversation maybe appropriate between you two about all this so that you can continue to enjoy being physically intimate together and safer at the same time.

Which might mean keeping condoms handy at all times.

As far as this time is concerned I don't see either PEP or testing as necessary. It might be a good idea just for your own peace of mind to get tested regularly -- at least annually if not every six months or so just to stay accurate about your status.

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Re: burn in my mouth
« Reply #27 on: September 10, 2007, 04:57:29 PM »
Doesn't sound like you were being very safe at all. That's how people become HIV positive. Do you need PEP, I doubt it, but contact his ID doctor and ask. If you are wanting to contract HIV keep up your risky behavior and you'll get it.

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« Reply #28 on: September 10, 2007, 06:25:51 PM »
i got tested last week, and im fine, we are all human, rapidrod, and sometimes we make little mistakes, it wasnt like he was all the way inside of me and now im freaking out...i dont want to become  hiv positive.
 I talk about sex with him all the time, and we never do risky things, we have been together for 2 years and im still negative, so i must be doing something right.

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« Reply #29 on: September 10, 2007, 06:34:29 PM »
Peter,

Rod wasn't judging you, he was just giving you the unsweetened facts.

MtD

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« Reply #30 on: September 10, 2007, 09:29:12 PM »
"...and sometimes we make little mistakes, it wasnt like he was all the way inside of me and now im freaking out."

OK. Now you are succeeding in setting off alarm bells with me, ones which Rod and Matty were sharper than I about picking up on in this instance.

You're either pregnant or you're not. With HIV there are no "little mistakes." You are either consistently playing safely or you're not. So it's no wonder you're freaking out, because on some level you know you're not being absolutely careful. At least you weren't in this instance. You cannot have unprotected intercourse, however briefly, and call it "a little mistake."

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« Reply #31 on: September 11, 2007, 07:24:23 AM »
ok, i understand,i will never let him nowhere near my butt again without a condom, i have never penetrated him without a condom, and he has never done it to me, what happenned 2 days ago , the whole incident didnt last more than 10 seconds, i understand now it was an unnecessary risk...thanks guys.

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« Reply #32 on: September 11, 2007, 08:52:46 AM »
Good plan, good deal, Peter.

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new question.
« Reply #33 on: September 19, 2007, 07:08:17 PM »
first i wanna thank you all for all the help you have been given me.,.
i have a new question.
20 days ago i got a new operation on another one of my lower teeth since the gum was receding a bit , so the denstist pulled it back up, i didnt have oral sex with my positive boyfriend. They took my stiches out 9 days ago, and  since i tough i was already healed i performed oral sex on him( he never cums on my mouth).
Today i went to the dentist and she said that the wound was a little swollen  and a little red, but there was no blood there.
And then my mind started to wonder, what if  he pre cum a bit yesterday when i gave him oral sex and the would was beeding at the time.(which i dont think i was), in that case scenario, am i at risk?.
i dont think the gum was bleeding , but if it was and there was pre cun there, hiv could have entered my body, or would saliva neutralize the virus......thanks

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« Reply #34 on: September 19, 2007, 07:11:26 PM »
by the way, i didnt perform oral sex on him until after 7 days after they took the stiches.

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« Reply #35 on: September 19, 2007, 08:48:08 PM »
You were not at risk.

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« Reply #36 on: September 19, 2007, 09:43:06 PM »
Peter, you did not have an open wound in your mouth. You didn't drink your bf's cum. You were not at risk.

But your mind keeps coming up with these scenarios. It's going to drive both of you crazy. Have you spoken to a counselor at an AIDS service organization? That would be a good move for you and maybe for the two of you to have some sessions together about HIV in general and safer sex in particular.

It's perfectly natural to be concerned about maintaining your negative status. But it sure as hell is not going to do anything good for your relationship to have it intruding all the time as it seems to. I also can't help wondering what else is not getting addressed in your relationship. Things unspoken usually travel in groups -- so maybe you guys would benefit from professional expertise in practicing talking directly about your concerns. I'll be your bf has some stuff to say too.

As for your latest concern I don't see any reason to worry nor to get tested.
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« Reply #37 on: September 25, 2007, 03:45:04 PM »
As i was telling you guys the other day, i got my operation in one of my lower tooth,since i had gum reduction in that particular tooth, so the dentist pulled my gum on that tooth up and put stiches , 15 days ago the dentist took my stiches out, and the gum went  a litttle up , but not much, i was expecting the gum to stay much upper than it did.
The gum on that tooth is still much lower than in the rest of my teeth, so im a little worried .
how hard would it be to get hiv  even my gums  never bleed and my boyfriend never cums inside my mouth., it doesnt seem to be an open wound of any kind, but since my gum on that tooth is so low, im  scared it could be a point of entry to my boyfriend´s pre cum.
I didnt have the balls to ask that to my denstist, he is a friend of my family and i dont think he would understand, im a chicken , i know.
thabks for answering my question.

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« Reply #38 on: September 25, 2007, 04:11:12 PM »
If you're really concerned about that issue then ask another dentist since you are concerned about this one knowing your family. I don't see any cause for concern. If you're old enough to be having sex you need to get used to speaking about it clearly with medical professionals.

And I still suggest you and perhaps with your bf see a counselor and have a good and open conversation about these recurring concerns of yours. How the hell can you enjoy life and sex together with this kind of anxiety hanging over both of your heads. You know many thousands of sero-discordant couples are having great lives in every way including sexually together, but it does require effort and honesty. On both parts.

And of course following safer sex guidelines consistently. Specifically with regard to intercourse.

 
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« Reply #39 on: April 02, 2008, 06:16:00 PM »
As some of you may know , my boyfriend is positive and im negative, we have beem dating for 2 and a half years.
Yesterday something happened, since we didnt have time to have full on sex, we jerked off and had oral sex, and since we were in a hurry once both of us ejaculated, my boyfriend grabbed a piece of toilet paper and cleant himself ,and  he gave me the same piece of toilet paper and i cleant my urethra really fast.
is there a way that his cum that was in the toilet paper got into my urethtra when i wiped  the tip of my penis?
I cleant myself pretty fast( no more than 2 seconds), but i would like to hear your opinions.
By the way, we didnt realize the mistake we had made until a few minutes after the fact
« Last Edit: April 02, 2008, 06:29:10 PM by peterhelms »

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« Reply #40 on: April 02, 2008, 06:50:12 PM »
Peter,

You didn't make a mistake. Hiv is not transmitted from a tissue to a penis. It just doesn't happen that way and you've been coming here long enough to realise that by now. Stop and think about what you know about transmission (re-read your thread!) before you ask questions.

This latest tissue issue is not a risk for hiv infection.

Keep using condoms for anal intercourse and you will avoid hiv infection.

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« Reply #41 on: April 02, 2008, 06:53:00 PM »
thanks ANN for your answer, but since i wasnt sure i needed to ask, since there are theological risks and real risks...Thanks again.

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« Reply #42 on: April 02, 2008, 07:08:28 PM »
thanks ANN for your answer, but since i wasnt sure i needed to ask, since there are theological risks and real risks...Thanks again.

Peter; theological risks? God has nothing to do with what does or does not constitute an hiv risk.

Theoretical hiv risks are in the same catagory that says you could be hit by a meteorite when you step outside your home tomorrow. It aint gonna happen. It could, theoretically, but ... NO.

You haven't had a risk. Do you need a time out?

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« Reply #43 on: June 09, 2008, 05:32:27 PM »
Peter; theological risks? God has nothing to do with what does or does not constitute an hiv risk.

Theoretical hiv risks are in the same catagory that says you could be hit by a meteorite when you step outside your home tomorrow. It aint gonna happen. It could, theoretically, but ... NO.

You haven't had a risk.


BRAND new question.
Today i was giving oral sex to my positive boyfriend ( he never cums on my mouth).
We were in a akward position and for 2 minutes during oral sex his penis kept rubbing the inside of my cheek instead    of  going straight down.
So i need to ask the question,  is there a way thatthe inside of my  cheek could bleed or get irritated   from his penis rubbing it and i could get infected from his pre cum or if if there was blood on the inside of my cheek i would have noticed it? Have there been any cases of transmission this way?
Sorry if its a silly question but i called a couple of hotlines and they couldnt answer me.
Thanks for the advice

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« Reply #44 on: June 09, 2008, 06:44:06 PM »
Peter,

This isn't any different to the other oral sex questions you've asked. Unless his penis has talons, he's not going to damage the inside of your cheek.

I can't help but make the observation that your relationship must be pretty toxic for your partner. I know for myself, I couldn't deal with having a negative partner who was so paranoid and afraid of me. Perhaps some couples counseling is in order, instead of running to us every time you have sex.

Do you need a time out to encourage you into counseling?

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« Reply #45 on: June 09, 2008, 06:54:43 PM »
i dont let him know when i start getting worried about  something we do in bed, i try to give him all the love i have and try to make  him happy. He doesnt need to hear me complain, he is a sweethart, and thanks to this forum i always find the answers i cant figure out myself.
I have always been a worrier, there is nothing i can do about it.
Thanks ann for answering my question, you have no idea how much it means to me.

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« Reply #46 on: June 09, 2008, 07:02:01 PM »
Peter,

If you think you can hide your hiv paranoia from someone who is hiv positive, you're fooling yourself.

Again, seek counseling.

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« Reply #47 on: July 14, 2008, 07:14:27 PM »
As some of you may know my boyfriend is positive and im negative.
Yesterday i flossed my teeth and 15 minutes later i gave him oral sex..( he doesnt cum in my mouth)
Also right before the oral sex and 15 minutes after flossing i used a mouthwash, and i later got worried because i read that the mouthwash may kill the enzimes that neutralize the virus.
When i blew him some pre cum may have been present.
Was  this situation risky? Have there been any documented cases of seroconverting this way?
Thank you for your answers.

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« Reply #48 on: July 14, 2008, 07:42:54 PM »
No Peter, there haven't been any documented cases of HIV being transmitted in the way you describe and you know it.

You've carried on with this guff here and in the Someone I Care About forum for long enough. I'm referring your latest post to the Moderators for their review.

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« Reply #49 on: July 14, 2008, 09:20:12 PM »
The guys have answered all your questions there is nothing else they can tell you, you need to listen to them, and if you can't accept their advice then you need to move on and seek help elsewhere.

This is your final warning...any more of this and you will be given a 28 day Time Out.

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