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Author Topic: Probably shouldn't be worried, but need to see a response to my situation  (Read 454 times)

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Approximately 8 weeks ago I had a short encounter with another man.  He performed unprotected oral sex on me for about thirty seconds and then climbed on top of me and rubbed his anus on my penis for several seconds.  I was nervous and never more than semi erect.  I am fairly certain there was no penetration - there was  a lot of lube, but I was rapidly losing what little erection I had at that point.  I left after that.  He told me before and after that he had been tested and was disease free.

I tested for all the major STDs, including HIV 1/2 AB EIA with reflex and the Aptima HIV RNA test at 32 days after the encounter.  All were negative (I assume not detected for RNA and non-reactie for the AB mean negative). 

I have read the forums, and the logical part of my brain tells me that based on the activity there was low to no risk.  I have read several similar posts on the forum and they have helped my mental state.  My plan is to get an Oraquick rapid test done shortly to verify.  I have been terrified that I could pass something along to my wife.  I had been curious about being with a man for many, many years, and finally pulled the trigger, but I got cold feet and realized it wasn't what I wanted.  I would like to put this behind me and move on with my life, but as I said I have been terrified that I could compound this bad decision by passing something along.

A couple of questions:
1. Have I built this up in my head to be much worse than it is (minus the infidelity part of it)?
2.  Would a negative rapid test result at 8+ weeks combined with my previous test results be fairly conclusive?  I know 3 months/13 weeks is pretty much the gold standard, but could I be fairly certain at 8+weeks?


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Online Jeff G

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  • How am I doing Beren ?
The risk for sexually transmitted HIV comes from unprotected penetrative anal or vaginal sex . Rubbing, frottage and getting a blow job are not a risk for HIV so if this is you only concern you do not need to test for HIV for this specific incident .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


 


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