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Offline dworried87

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Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« on: August 24, 2014, 07:10:21 PM »
I did something very stupid. I got heavily drunk and I ended up visiting a sex worker at a massage parlor. The parlor wasn't cheap, around 300 dollars total (not sure if this make any difference though).

The actual sex act lasted around 10 minutes. The entire duration of the act was using a latex condom provided by the sex worker. The sex included vaginal sex with condom, brief oral sex with condom, and some kissing. The sex worker VERY carefully removed condom after sex.

One thing that worries me more is that I popped my pimple on my penis the day before the sexual encounter, which could be considered "open" sore. The pimple is of moderate size (not too big nor small). The pimple was located between midway of the penis head and the base. It should have been covered by condom but I am worried that the condom might have slightly unrolled itself during sex, which is what worries me. It also started bleeding the day after sex, which is what freaks me out. Most importantly, I do not remember if the penis had bled or not during the intercourse. 

The worker herself was very cautious during sex, and was not willing to do many stuff. Is this a good indication that she is not likely to be infected? I stupidly did not ask her of HIV status. Also, this was in the San Francisco Bay Area, which I assume is a high risk zone?

This is my first time I have ever done something like this, and I am filled with guilt and anxiety. I am currently in a monogamous relationship, and I can't bare to look at her for what I have done. Perhaps my conscious is getting the best of me.

Are my HIV chances high? How about other STDs? I have checked for HIV a month ago, and it was negative during my last check.

Should I visit hospital for PEP prescription?

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Re: Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2014, 07:16:10 PM »
You did not have a risk for HIV having protected sex . The pimple would not a make difference, hiv if present is deep in the vagina near the cervix and the fluids a woman makes when exited comes from glands near the opening of the vagina and those fluids are not infectious for HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! 

Offline dworried87

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Re: Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2014, 07:51:58 PM »
Hi Jeff,

I take it as you think my incident is not significant.

There was one tiny details that I left out. After I ejaculated, she was on top of me for like 25 seconds without pulling out (with condom intact of course) and probably my penis last erection during this time frame. Does this make no difference?

Thanks for the sincere response.

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Re: Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« Reply #3 on: August 24, 2014, 07:52:38 PM »
No . Still not a risk .

Offline dworried87

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Re: Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« Reply #4 on: August 24, 2014, 07:58:49 PM »
Thanks for the response.

My final question is when should I get tested for HIV and other STDs?

Will getting tested after a month be good?

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Re: Swarmed with guilt and anxiety.
« Reply #5 on: August 24, 2014, 09:15:20 PM »
Thanks for the response.

My final question is when should I get tested for HIV and other STDs?

Will getting tested after a month be good?

You can test at any time.  You did not have a risk, so you have no need to wait before testing.



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