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Offline Diezmio87

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Oral sex 8 weeks ago
« on: August 19, 2014, 10:26:12 PM »
So almost 8 weeks ago (8 weeks on Friday). I got oral sex from a girl who may or may not have hiv. She claims she is clean but anxiety had been more than kicking my butt these last few weeks. I'm unsure if she had any blood in her mouth but after I did not see any blood on my penis nor did I have any open wounds or sores as I have never had an std. After a week I got a sore throat and then almost at the 3 week mark about 17-18 days I had a dna test done and an antibodies test with a full 8 panel std check and all was negative. I felt better but that same day I experienced body aches and they still have yet to leave me and the sore throat has become more of an uncomfortable tight feeling feeling accompanied by trouble swallowing. I have a girlfriend and a son and son I confessed to her my mistake and told her if she would forgive me I would marry her, and so I asked her to marry me a few weeks later at Disneyland and she said yes! But I still have incredible guilt that I could have hiv and may have passed it to her the one time we had sex a week after I received oral from the girl, she hasn't really shown symptoms except at the 5 week mark she got a cold with a bad cough that took about two weeks to go away and the cough still is here or there with her. Anyways enough rambling I got an rna test at 5 weeks and it was also negative and a western blot test at 7 weeks which was negative. Now I have been doing too much internet research and discovered the other less common strand of hiv and I am scared I have been testing for the wrong one! The girls boyfriend is in the navy and is often dispatched over seas so I am scared he may have contracted some sort of exotic form of the disease or something and now my anxiety is out of control. My new symptom is nausea and just an overall feeling of impending doom that won't go away, please please help me and tell me if I should get tested more or if I'm okay and this is all just a bad case of hiv anxiety! Help! Thank you so much also I forgot to mention I quit smoking weeding after 10 years of constant every day abuse (like 7-8 times a day) and hopefully that is a reason for some of what I'm feeling I also quit drinking and I started going back to church to try and really fix my life, it's been more of a blessing than a curse I just hope it doesn't End with with me being virally enhanced, no offense to anyone who is I have respect for the fight that you go through every day I just want to be healthy enough to see my son grow up onto a better man than I. If I end up being okay I promise to run a marathon for hiv!

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Re: Oral sex 8 weeks ago
« Reply #1 on: August 19, 2014, 10:45:42 PM »
You can't get HIV from getting a BJ ... the theocratical risk for oral exposure comes from GIVING a blow job and not getting one . If this is your only concern you are conclusively HIV negative .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Oral sex 8 weeks ago
« Reply #2 on: August 19, 2014, 11:51:25 PM »
Thank you so much. Yes the only contact was through oral sex and as I said I have no idea if she has anything I'm just concerned that she may. So then I am absolutely so risk and should go on with my relationship and my life and enjoy it? Also no matter what symptoms I feel they must be all in my head right? Just making sure we are clear I am 100 percent hiv free and negstive? Sorry for the redundant question the fear of not knowing is pretty terrible, thank you for your patience

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Re: Oral sex 8 weeks ago
« Reply #3 on: August 20, 2014, 08:29:44 AM »
Thank you so much. Yes the only contact was through oral sex and as I said I have no idea if she has anything I'm just concerned that she may. So then I am absolutely so risk and should go on with my relationship and my life and enjoy it? Also no matter what symptoms I feel they must be all in my head right? Just making sure we are clear I am 100 percent hiv free and negstive? Sorry for the redundant question the fear of not knowing is pretty terrible, thank you for your patience

That is correct . It would not matter if she did have HIV, it still would not have been a risk for HIV . 

 


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