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Author Topic: New relationship worried about exposure  (Read 1052 times)

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Offline Forgiven82

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New relationship worried about exposure
« on: June 16, 2014, 09:29:44 AM »
Hi!
This is all new to me. Ive just started a relationship with a positiv man. I am negative.  We have been intimate with protection.
My question is: If he was to maybe touch himself or adjust him self and get pre cum on his fingers and then proceeds to touch/finger me with that hand, fingers inserted ect, is this a path way to exposure?

We live in a european country and the acsess to information is lacking. He goes for check ups every 6 months and is due for one soon. He has invited me to this app. So maybe i can get more info. But for now, google and other american/Canadian sites are full of info. But not particulary this one question i have.

Ive also noticed tgat prePEP or what it is calledisnot available here either. That really sucks....

Thanks for the help!!

 ;) :) ;)


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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2014, 11:16:01 AM »
I have moved your thread into the someone I care about forum so that you can post and talk to others that date or are in a longterm relationship with people living with HIV . You can post in the someone I care about forum and to a lessor extent off topic where we discuss anything other than HIV . Thanks and welcome to the forum .

HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex . HIV is a fragile hard to transmit virus so as long as you use condoms correctly and consistently for anal and vaginal sex you will avoid becoming infected . It does suck you can't get Prep in your country .

Once outside the human body sexual secretions are instantly rendered unable to infect once exposed to small changes in temperature and PH levels . You need not fear becoming infected with HIV from precum or being touched during sex .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Offline Forgiven82

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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2014, 12:40:34 PM »
Hi again!

Thanks for the reply.  I thought as much but it feels better to "get it out there" and feel confident.
I will have a read and try to educate myself as much as possible ☺

Offline Forgiven82

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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #3 on: July 05, 2014, 10:28:16 PM »
Hi all,
So ive just had sex with my boyfriend. He is + im -. And the condom broke, he did not notice and ejaculated inside me. He is on antiviral meds called something like atripel or so. We live in norway. Prep is not available here and his doc says pep is only for those who are exposed to a +who is not on meds.

In march his viral load was 0.34 and on his check up in june it was still low according to his nurse. But did not have the exact numbers. So with this he has been undetectable for probably 6 months plus if not longer.  We've only been dating since may this yr. So ive not got a full history.

What is my biggest fear here? That im 12 days since my last oeriod and in a fertile period....and its not time for a baby....or that ive might of been infected? :-( mixed feelings right now.....

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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #4 on: July 05, 2014, 10:45:13 PM »
It would be extremely rare for an undetectable person to transmit the virus so you should test, but have every right to expect it to be negative under the circumstances .

You can test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #5 on: July 06, 2014, 02:28:54 AM »
You said pre-exposure treatment is not available.  And what about post-exposure treatment? I assume that is available. I am assuming you went to the doc and was told by your treating doc, and/or his, that post-exposure treatment was not necessary after this condom break....   Is that correct?
I agree with what Jeff G said. I am asking this because it would be what anyone should do in such a situation... Get the local medical expertise.  That consultation would also be the time to ask about the "day after" pill.  Isn't that available in Norway?
« Last Edit: July 06, 2014, 02:31:54 AM by mecch »
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Re: New relationship worried about exposure
« Reply #6 on: July 06, 2014, 08:19:33 AM »
You said pre-exposure treatment is not available.  And what about post-exposure treatment? I assume that is available. I am assuming you went to the doc and was told by your treating doc, and/or his, that post-exposure treatment was not necessary after this condom break....   Is that correct?
I agree with what Jeff G said. I am asking this because it would be what anyone should do in such a situation... Get the local medical expertise.  That consultation would also be the time to ask about the "day after" pill.  Isn't that available in Norway?


Hi Mecch ... she was saying her doctors went by the guidelines and didn't prescribe PEP because PEP not indicated in cases of receptive vaginal sex with an undetectable partner .

 


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