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Offline misterworried

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Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« on: August 21, 2014, 08:11:12 PM »

I think I could have been raped at a youth hostel. I was drunk from around 5 or 6 vodka shots and 1 beer. I went to bed in a youth hostel and woke up in the middle of the night feeling sick with deep anal pain. I was sleeping with just my boxers on due to the heat and I sleep on my stomach. I have no memories of being raped but I am worried I was so drunk I slept through it or I have memory loss. The pain continued for several days and is very odd. Anyways I explain it in detail below. But I am wondering what my HIV risk would be from a one time exposure on the receptive end?

so heres the story. I went out to a bar an drank about 6 shots of vodka and topped it off with a beer almost 72 hours ago. I went out with a friend to a dance club and everything was fine. Anyways after that I went home alone.

The thing is I am low on money and I am staying at this youth hostel place. There were like 4 other guys staying in the same room as me via bunkbeds. I got home around 4 am and went to sleep fast I remember. When I drink it really puts me in a deep sleep. Anyways it was blazing hot because this place has no air conditioner so I was just sleeping in my boxers and no cover I think.

I have stayed at youth hostels before and always considered them safe. I went to sleep and woke up later in the night and felt sick. I had a pain in my anal area too I noticed that was deep feeling.

Anyways I wake up the next day and I still have a pain my anal area. Its like a deep throbbing pain. I really didnt think much about it the first half of the day because I have a bump in that area that sometimes produces a pain (Im guessing hemorroid maybe) and I figured the alcohol must have aggravated it or something. But then I started wondering why now when I drink in the past I never got this type of pain. I think maybe I can recall a time a few months ago when I had a pain in that area but I remember there was a bulging bump that hurt when I touched it. It was not really the same as this pain and went away in less than a day really.

Anyways I have never talked to any of these guys before and dont know them. I am pretty sure though one of them is gay and from france though based on how he acts and talks. I started to panic and the pain lasted for a good 3 days.

Not to get too graphic but another thing is I noticed my bowels 3 days after the incident smelled like perfume or something. I thought that was really odd and started to really panic thinking this could be some lube or something left over. But it happened nearly 72 hours later...wouldnt any lube be flushed out by now?

Heres the thing. I have no memory of anyone raping me. But the thing is when I drink it knocks me out cold sometimes. The good thing is I do remember waking up feeling sick. So if that waked me up and I remember it wouldn't I wake up during anal penetration considering nothing has ever been up my anus before. It also proves my memory was in tact most like since I remember waking up feeling sick.

I am really scared I could get hiv from this. I mean I have always feared hiv and maybe that fear has attracted it to me. I read that anal rape is a high chance of hiv. I mean...if he had hiv what would my risk be? I read a 1/70 chance but rape makes it higher since it would have been rough maybe. I am really worried if I was raped there is a good chance I have hiv now. I mean this is how people get hiv.

The good news is I thank god have no memory of some dude on top of me or anything like that. Surely by the grace of god I would wake up during an anal rape right? Or was I too drunk or maybe have memory loss? I have had total memory loss in the past from drinking too much so thats possible too. What do you guys think considering what I have told you? I mean wouldn't I have some sort of vague memory of someone raping me if it happened?

Let me just say. The only "proof" I have of being raped is the anal pain. It is a deep pain, throbbing but not unbearable. Its uncomfortable and hurts some though. I can actually press on an area in my anal area that hurts more and it feels like a mass/bump on my skin or something.

But the only proof of rape is the fact I was in sleeping in the same room with 4-5 total male strangers, it was hot and I was in my boxers only. I have no memories of rape or anything like that. If I did not have a pain I would have never suspected rape or even entertained the thought. But I guess pain alone is enough evidence to signal it might have happened.

So assuming worse case senario here. The raptist used no condom and raped me. Do you think my odds are high that I have hiv if he had had hiv from a one time exposure. This happened about 12 days ago btw. I hope I do not sound paranoid because I had a anal pain that was explainable and deep. The pain even extended into my peripheral area and almost towards the base of my penis.

It was not like unbearable....just annoying. Like I could feel the dull pain all day for a few days. Sometimes I want to convince myself I was not raped but then I remember that pain. What the heck was it? I have never felt a pain in that area like that. So its hard to deny that I was raped. I feel like it's a 50/50 chance for sure. Sorry to ramble...what do you guys think? Thanks

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2014, 08:24:12 PM »
The bottom line is if you think you had any unprotected anal or vaginal sex then you can test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months .

HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex so if in doubt test .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2014, 08:31:19 PM »
Jeff I always use condoms. The problem is whoever the punk was who raped me might not have. I have no clue at all what happened and why my anus hurt. I appreciate your reply but trust me I always use condoms. I am straight BTW....so I would never be in this high risk situation if this had not happened.

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2014, 08:34:53 PM »
I think you are being paranoid but if you are unsure ... then go test . Its the only way to know if you are infected .

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2014, 08:46:14 PM »
Thanks Jeff. I did not even consider rape when I first woke up the next morning. I just noticed that pain that would not go away. I was like "what the crap?" Why does this hurt. Then I thought to myself "man if I was in prison I would be worried." But then I realized "oh crap....I dont know these people in my room. Was I raped last night?" I just couldnt deny the pain either and realized something was wrong for sure.

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #5 on: August 21, 2014, 08:49:14 PM »
Just a suggestion . If you are drinking enough that you are going into black out you may want to address that issue .

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Re: Possible Anal Rape. Hiv Risk?
« Reply #6 on: August 28, 2014, 06:56:50 PM »
Only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter, you can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post . 

You damn well know better than to post outside your own thread and did so to get around having used up your 3 questions . If it were important I would address your new concerns but they are not and you will not be rewarded for breaking the rules .

Symptoms mean nothing ... if you are sick go see a doctor and if you are unsure then go test . Read this thread again if you have any more questions .


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