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Oral sex with ejaculation in mouth while sick.
« on: June 09, 2014, 09:43:51 AM »
Hello, I want to first thank all of you for your patience and help in this situation. It's a bit long winded but I appreciate the help.

I am a 24-year-old gay male living in NYC. 4 days ago I performed deep oral sex on an older bisexual man I met at a spa. I had been sick with fever and sore throat since a few days before that, but engaged in oral sex anyways. I performed deep throat oral sex on him, and when he ejaculated he came in my mouth, mostly on my tongue and lower lip. I was caught in the moment and didn't spit the semen out right away, but rather let it sit in my mouth for a time and then eventually started spitting (unaware of how much of his semen I had actually spit out), and then continued to perform oral sex on him.

He also performed oral sex on me, as well as gave me a rimjob and there were a few minutes of anal frottage.

After the contact, we discussed HIV and STDs and he told me that he had a previous genital wart infection and pubic lice in the past. However, he was adamant about his HIV- status based on bloodwork done by his doctor for routine physicals - and not from actively being tested on a regular basis. When asked about the last time he was tested he replied "it's been a while but I don't partake in high risk activities". I find this hard to believe based on the nature of how we met and his previous bouts with STDs, but that is a story for another time.

Here is why I am wrecked with anxiety:

Precum and semen entered my mouth and throat directly from his penis while I was already suffering from a pre-existing sore throat. I also have deep tonsil crypts/craters from tonsil stones in the past and fordyce spots, which I am unsure if they are gateways for HIV infected semen to enter the bloodstream.

Although I have read numerous times on this forum that oral sex is no-risk, It would still calm my unbearable nerves to hear that my specific incident is no risk as well.

Thank you very much for taking the time.

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Re: Oral sex with ejaculation in mouth while sick.
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2014, 09:54:32 AM »
There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

There have only been a scant few cases of documented oral transmission of HIV . The theoretical risk is from giving a blowjob to a man with a high viral load while you suffer significant open wounds in your mouth .

We get the oral sex risk question everyday and many do not accept that they did not have a risk until they test and see for themselves that the fear and anxiety was all for nothing .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Oral sex with ejaculation in mouth while sick.
« Reply #2 on: June 12, 2014, 07:15:35 PM »
Thank you for the reply. Just an update:

One week to the day since the oral sex and I feel very sick. Headache, lightheaded ness, mild nausea, stomach pains, white/tasteless tongue, sore throat (which I already had) as well as dark spots on the roof of my mouth and back of throat. I also have developed a dark red bruise on my arm without any known trauma.

I realize that these symptoms could be of other infections and stds, but I still can't shake the anxiety.

would tonsil craters be considered a risk of transmission through semen?

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Re: Oral sex with ejaculation in mouth while sick.
« Reply #3 on: June 12, 2014, 07:22:06 PM »
If you are sick please go see a doctor and find out why . Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and since you never had a risk it has to be unrelated and nothing to do with HIV . We do not discuss symptoms ... so please talk to a doctor .


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