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Offline silentcent20

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Anxiety eats me alive!
« on: June 05, 2014, 08:23:39 AM »
Hi, i'm 18 years old a bi male . (sorry for my english , i'm not good with it) for the past two years i can say that i am sexually active . The whole story starts at May 18 where i experienced a headache. I've experienced symptoms that is maybe due to big anxiety and stressed such as loss of appetite, fatigue, difficulty of breathing , night sweats and etc. I'm really worried that time and that pushes me to have a test at May 22. I am negative of all the std screening test that i have including HIV. I am convinced well that all of my experiences is safe and in fact most of that is receiving orals . But the truth is still i must be worried.


May 10 - Me and the guy whom i contact in the internet met. He give me oral through that whole activity ( i was the recepient of the oral).. Then later on i was convinced to go inside him.( THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I HAD TO TRY ANAL SEX) He owned the condom that he put on my genital and eventually put lubricant on it ( i just don't know if it was oil or water based)but it was well lubricated... its almost 10 minutes that i entered him and the feeling was smooth until the end ( i don't ejaculate on the condom ) .. After that, i pulled the condom ( i think the condom didn't break because it is in its wholeness when i pulled it off , i just don't know if they were a possible tear because fastly i throw the condom) After, he said that he should give me again oral at the shower.. i cleaned and we finished ..


1 - 10 days after the exposure i experienced symptoms like i said above such as  loss of appetite, fatigue, difficulty of breathing , night sweats , diarrhea and etc .. after experiencing all of these. i got  my first test regarding HIV it came back negative all the symptoms gone after knowing the results except diarrhea ( I think this is from stress) .. I am convinced that the result was effective only on my past sexual activities but in my last activity that was happened in May 10 was not accurate..

~ May i consider this symptoms that i may have HIV?
~ Am i at big risk contracting the disease?
~ I'm planing to have a test ( ANTIBODY RAPID TEST) on the 5th week is it valid for me to consider it ?.. I know the result in 12thweek is conclusive but i can't wait .. I was at my greatest grief right know :(

From that day , I was a different person .. My find is full of negative thoughts about me contracting the disease and it makes me weak everytime until this moment.. I've contact him and in his knowledge he is clean at this particular disease.. but still i am doubting..

In addition that, i'm panicking because i caught a rash on my forearm

Please help me ?

Offline Jeff G

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Re: Anxiety eats me alive!
« Reply #1 on: June 05, 2014, 08:47:46 AM »
Nothing you did was a risk for HIV . Getting a blow job is not a risk for HIV and the anal sex you had was protected . Condoms are designed in such a way as to leave no doubt when they fail and condoms do not get little holes you could over look . You can relax because if this is your only concern and you have always used condoms for anal and vaginal sex then you are conclusively HIV negative and do not need to test again over these specific concerns .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Anxiety eats me alive!
« Reply #2 on: June 05, 2014, 09:50:37 AM »
Thank you sir for the reply i appreciate it, However , I'm still worried if the condom has holes . If it was the scenario and the guy i have sex with has unknown status. Do i have a great risk..

I am very unfortunate if i will caught this.. I don't know what to do :(

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Re: Anxiety eats me alive!
« Reply #3 on: June 05, 2014, 09:57:17 AM »
If the condom had failed you would have known it. It's not about itty bitty little holes as people often imagine. No, when a condom fails it's very clear because the whole thing goes and it ends up looking like a hoop with strips on the wearer's penis.

You are worrying needlessly as Jeff has already told you.
Andy Velez

Offline silentcent20

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Re: Anxiety eats me alive!
« Reply #4 on: June 10, 2014, 04:29:03 AM »
UPDATE: even though i am not at a big risk still i made my self to have a hiv test..
The test that i took was "RAPID HIV ANTIBODY TEST" at my 4th week post exposure specifically 31 days from now... The reulst is "NON - REACTIVE"

Should i relax now ..?

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Re: Anxiety eats me alive!
« Reply #5 on: June 10, 2014, 07:44:51 AM »
You can relax . No risk and a negative test is conclusive .


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