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Offline rajkumar.india76

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Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« on: May 30, 2014, 01:18:37 PM »
This is with ref to my one and only sexual encounter outside my marriage of 10 years with a sex worker in India on 20 May 2014. It happened because my friends pushed me into it and gave me a viagra 50 to reduce my inhibition etc.

The vaginal sex was protected by a condom and i ejaculated within the condom and pulled out the penis along with the fitted condom filled with my semen. i then took off the condom and then put on a fresh second condom and inserted again in the vagina of the female for a very short time & i pulled out my erect penis along with the second condom out of the vagina and removed the condom again.

i then washed my penis etc with shampoo and water, and also did a water filling test on both the condoms for tear etc. which to my satisfaction was intact.

As i am a hypochondriac and permanent negative thoughts cross my mind regarding my complete health since years now. have thought of cardiac, urological and various other complications on many occasions for very long time. Now i am always feeling that i may have got HIV or STD from the sex act detailed above.

As symptoms to whatever now I have started having itch below my naval and groin region and testicles within 3 days of my exposure, then after 4 days i suddenly found a small pea sized hard lump below my testicles near to the groin fold low down a little away from the perineum.

Have been searching  internet for all kind of information on the subject starting from probability, symptoms, tests etc and within 10 days of my exposure have felt itching, sore throat etc.

I am getting mad with the anxiety of HIV and as you know i am a hypochondriac always thinking of the worst outcome always.

You are kindly requested to advice me towards my chances of getting HIV or other STD from the act mentioned above.

Pls help with your advice and insight regarding my exposure...

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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2014, 01:59:35 PM »
You had protected vaginal sex and that is not a risk for HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2014, 02:29:19 PM »
Raj,

I deleted the thread you started in a different section of these forums. You are NOT permitted to post anywhere outside this thread in the Am I Infected forum.

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You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Get over it.

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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #3 on: June 04, 2014, 05:18:43 AM »
Dear Sir,

But if i am unaware of any micro holes in the condom or could i contract the virus while changing the condom without washing hands and penis, or could the virus stick on to testicles or any exposed part etc etc.

All this is driving me mad.. its been 15 days and i have read everything from several websites including HIV denialists, dont know what to do.

i am kind of sure that i didn't get exposed probably, still i am unable to believe it and always feel that anything that happens to my body like itching, hair bump in the groin (if its not a swolen lump as it is deep down below the testicles an inch away from the perineum), a scratch on lip slight headache etc. i relate all these to be the symptom of HIV and then freak out on it to the level of high anxiety.

Pls help.

Raj

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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2014, 06:06:14 AM »
Raj,

If you can't bring yourself to believe us when we tell you that you had absolutely NO RISK for hiv infection, then go test at the appropriate time and collect your negative results. As a sexually active adult you should be testing at least once a year anyway. Don't forget to also test for all the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs while you're at it.

There is no such thing as "micro-holes" in condoms. That is an urban myth put out primarily by the Catholic church.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

As for worrying about hiv on your hands or balls, transmission doesn't work that way. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, where it never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. This is why hiv on your hands or balls does not pose the slightest hiv risk to you.

In adults, hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.
Unprotected vaginal intercourse.
Sharing drug injecting equipment.

You didn't engage in any of those three activities, therefore you were NOT at risk.

You had NO HIV RISK protected intercourse. Get over it and move on with your life.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #5 on: June 04, 2014, 06:47:46 AM »
admire you for all your support Ann, Thanks a ton.

if it is not for HIV initial symptoms, why do you think i am having itching at the foreskin of the penis and what is that pea size lump below my testicles.

These are remaining two issues that are concerning me.

Waiting for your reply ANN.

Regards

Raj


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Re: Sex exposure & Severe HIV fear
« Reply #6 on: June 04, 2014, 11:21:44 AM »
Raj,

I cannot diagnose you over the internet and neither can anyone else.

If you're worried about your itch or lumps, GO SEE A DOCTOR. There's nothing I can do for you other than tell you that you had NO RISK for hiv infection. End of story.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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