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Risky oral sex
« on: August 30, 2016, 07:22:48 PM »
Hi!

Please assess the likelihood of getting HIV from several sexual intercourses I had with a man who might have been HIV-positive. He said he wasn't but his behavior indicated otherwise. I'm a white male in my early 20s.

We had sex four times and it included unprotected oral sex (I sucked), protected anal sex, and some sort of contact with his spit and urine. I'm mostly worried about the unprotected oral sex because at that time I was struggling with an infection and my tonsils were swollen and red. There was also a lot of precum that I swallowed, though he never finished in my mouth.

I got tested after 49 days (Elecsys HIV combi PT test) since our last meet-up and the test turned out negative. I'm aware of the fact that I hadn't waited the advised 12 weeks to get a definite result and now I'm wondering how credible the test was and whether I should get tested again once the three month timespan passes.

Thanks in advance for your help and sorry for any mistakes, I'm not a native English speaker :).

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Re: Risky oral sex
« Reply #1 on: August 30, 2016, 08:25:53 PM »
Hi

Nothing you mentioned stood out or made this "risky" situation.
Test as normal when you are next due, and move on with your life. 

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He said he wasn't but his behavior indicated otherwise.
?? Utter nonsense. Put it out of your mind.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions. As you are sexually active, it is highly recommended that you get a full sexual health check-up / screening at least annually including but not limited to hiv testing.

Remember that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's. So please do get fully tested regularly for all STI's including HIV and more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs. Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Finally use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, to avoid sexually transmitted hiv infection.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Risky oral sex
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2016, 03:27:50 AM »
Thank you so much for your answer, JimDublin!


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Nothing you mentioned stood out or made this "risky" situation.

I know oral sex is considered a pretty low risk situation but I thought that the fact that I was struggling with an infection which caused tonsils swelling made it far more risky because tonsils generally are a good way for the HIV virus to get into the body, not to mention because of the infection I was just more vulnerable.


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Test as normal when you are next due, and move on with your life.

I still wonder, though, how credible the first result was. I don't know anything about the generation of the test that I mentioned and whether the result can be considered definite after such a short period of time (49 days to be exact). Now since I'm in a relationship with an HIV-negative man there's virtually no way for me to get infected with HIV and I'm still not sure whether there's a need for me to get tested again. It was a pretty stressful experience.


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He said he wasn't but his behavior indicated otherwise.
?? Utter nonsense. Put it out of your mind.

Sorry if it sounded offensive, I'm not saying HIV-positive people act a certain way. Nonetheless his behavior was odd; he asked me not to swallow the precum and made it clear he would never finish in my mouth, he checked my lube several times if it's safe to use with a condom, used hydrogen peroxide after sex, refused to drink alcohol because of the prescribed drugs he was taking at that time etc. It should have been a red flag...


Anyway, once again thank you for your answer :).
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Re: Risky oral sex
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2016, 03:53:26 AM »
Sorry if it sounded offensive, I'm not saying HIV-positive people act a certain way. Nonetheless his behavior was odd; he asked me not to swallow the precum and made it clear he would never finish in my mouth, he checked my lube several times if it's safe to use with a condom, used hydrogen peroxide after sex, refused to drink alcohol because of the prescribed drugs he was taking at that time etc. It should have been a red flag...

Firstly for risk assessments we presume the other person is living with HIV however your reasons for thinking he is HIV positive are Rubbish.  Now I don't drink it has nothing to do with my HIV or my HIV meds. I like millions of others take other medication for health conditions unrelated to HIV that means I can't drink. As for checking the type of lube that's called safer sex making sure the lubricate is safe to use with the condoms. Sounds like he was doing the right thing and keeping himself safe.

I know oral sex is considered a pretty low risk situation but I thought that the fact that I was struggling with an infection which caused tonsils swelling made it far more risky because tonsils generally are a good way for the HIV virus to get into the body, not to mention because of the infection I was just more vulnerable.



Unless you had gaping open wounds in your mouth nothing you mentioned stood out. Having a sore throat is not a route for HIV infection.

I still wonder, though, how credible the first result was. I don't know anything about the generation of the test that I mentioned and whether the result can be considered definite after such a short period of time (49 days to be exact). Now since I'm in a relationship with an HIV-negative man there's virtually no way for me to get infected with HIV and I'm still not sure whether there's a need for me to get tested again. It was a pretty stressful experience.

You should have already been testing yearly for STI's including HIV and the 13 weeks is the gold standard for testing.
 
How do you know he is HIV negative? ....

You don't and the only thing that matters at the moment are your own actions. Practice safer sex, use condoms and lube.  I am guessing by the way you mentioned his status you have not been doing so.

If you have entered into a relationship great congratulations and if its a monogamous than get a sexual health checkup together at 13 weeks time and test for STI's including but not limited to HIV.

Jim

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