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Author Topic: I am so scared, can't even sleep. (possible HIV exposure)  (Read 634 times)

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Offline pabloh4822

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I am so scared, can't even sleep. (possible HIV exposure)
« on: August 30, 2016, 06:17:44 PM »
Last week I had sex with a guy that I've talking with to for moths now. Finally we decide to meet up at his place (We're kinda neighbors).

Evetything was perfect: He's so handsome and polite, it was raining and we drank some wine, played an amazing playlist, and he lighted some candles. It was just great, we talked a lot and ended up having sex. I wore a condom, and used a lot of lube, but then we were masturbating to release everything and I took off the condom, he was lying next to me so I started rubbing my penis over his butt, it was soo lubricated that caught myself pulling my penis inside of him and don't gonna lie it felt SO GOOD that was the very first time in 29 years that I've lived I get inside a man without a condom.

He said it feel good. I did the same action like 3 times, each one for a couple of minutes until we finally came at the same time. Myself over his chest and he on his stomach.

The thing is that now I am fucking scared to get HIV :/ I let tempation go so far this time. He told me that he gets tested regullary and his status is negative.

I was trying to find any information about the risk that I got. Many resources say that it is a 'mediun risk' since the higher risk if for the one bottoming, also I am cut and that lower the risk, but I am still scared, this was the very first time.

Now I have to wait 3 months to get tested. I don't know how I'll be able to sleep after that.

I know I was unresponable, but last time I had sex was over a year ago. I'm always very careful, I've never tasted another guys cum, never had another risky situation like that before.

Here where I live (not in the USA) PREP is not that popular, I don't even know if it is available.

I spoke to him about that and he told me to calm down, that I have nothing to worry about.

Sorry for my bad English.

Offline JimDublin

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Re: I am so scared, can't even sleep. (possible HIV exposure)
« Reply #1 on: August 30, 2016, 08:32:21 PM »

Look you either had a risk or you did not. In this case it sounds like unprotected intercourse and this would be a risk and so testing is recommended at 6 & 13 weeks post incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions. As you are sexually active, it is highly recommended that you get a full sexual health check-up / screening at least annually including but not limited to hiv testing.

Remember that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's. So please do get fully tested regularly for all STI's including HIV and more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs. Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Finally use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, to avoid sexually transmitted hiv infection.

Kind regards


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