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GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« on: May 19, 2014, 09:57:08 PM »
Good afternoon,

I have read very similar post to my situation, but I am just curious about variables that may have occurred, although you may find my question idiotic.

I am a 29 year old male who recently began dating in NYC. Unfortunately, i began dating someone who neglected to inform me that they were an escort in the city. Although we were innocent with our sexual activity, we were involved in foreplay.

My question is the following:

Although he never penetrated me, he did finger me with his pre-cum. My anus is a bit sore since then, which leads me to believe he may have cut me with his finger nails inside of my anus. He would put pre-cum on his fingers and lubricate my asshole with his fingers while fingering me. I understand that the skin on the outside of my anus is rough, the skin on the inside of my anus is soft with mucus membrane inside. I also understand that the hiv virus becomes very weak when it is exposed to oxygen, but i am also aware that it is a matter of minutes instead of seconds, in which in my situation, the lubricating of the inside of my anus with his pre-cum would have been within seconds of being exposed to oxygen. I am not scared that he tapped his penis against my anus, because the skin on the outside of my anus is rough, but the situation that i am concerned about is the fact that he stuck his fingers inside my anus, created cuts with his finger nails, and then proceeded to insert his pre-cum within seconds inside of me.

I understand, and have read that fingering is not a method of exposure, but in this situation there are different factors. He isn't a person that cares about his health. His ex boyfriend was also an escort in NYC and he is currently taking dangerous steroids which he enjoyed joking about. I do not trust this person anymore and I am concerned that if he is HIV positive, he most likely isn't taking care of his health, and/or viral load. I was also told by the GMHC in nyc that such as fresh wounds being exposed to a significant amount of pre-cum is a risk of contracting the virus.


I hope to hear your thoughts and opinions on the matter.


THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME.

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Re: GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2014, 10:04:16 PM »
HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex and not from fingering . I read your concerns carefully and it dosent change the fact that fingering is not a risk for HIV .

If you are uneasy and cannot accept the facts that you did not have a risk you can go test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . If this is your only concern it will be negative .

 
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2014, 10:14:00 PM »
Jeff,

I understand that you most likely have multiple questions to answer, but your answer is very short. I am trying to educate and understand my situation. I what i am trying to understand is, I am aware the virus does not survive very well outside of the body, but I was told that this happens within minutes, not seconds. Therefore, if i have fresh wounds on the mucus membrane of my anus, wouldn't i have come into exposure?

I am sorry for continuing, but your answer seemed very generic. I asked my personal question in the forms section to further understand my situation and educate myself, instead of reading a genetic answer i have read in similar posts, my question didn't really seem to have any substance in regards to an understanding.

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« Reply #3 on: May 19, 2014, 10:18:36 PM »
HIV is far too fragile to be transmitted in the manner you are concerned with and no one has ever been infected that way and you will not be the first . Once exposed to conditions outside the human body HIV INSTANTLY becomes damaged by small changes in PH, temperature and oxygen levels and is rendered unable to infect .

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Re: GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2014, 10:06:50 AM »
Jeff,

I understand that you most likely have multiple questions to answer, but your answer is very short. I am trying to educate and understand my situation. I what i am trying to understand is, I am aware the virus does not survive very well outside of the body, but I was told that this happens within minutes, not seconds. Therefore, if i have fresh wounds on the mucus membrane of my anus, wouldn't i have come into exposure?

I am sorry for continuing, but your answer seemed very generic. I asked my personal question in the forms section to further understand my situation and educate myself, instead of reading a genetic answer i have read in similar posts, my question didn't really seem to have any substance in regards to an understanding.

Our answers are to assess your risk of possible exposure, not to educate you on every aspect of HIV exposure.  If you are adult enough to being having sex, you are adult enough to educate yourself on the risks of HIV.  Please take some time and read the lessons here, and learn the truth regarding HIV exposure.

Joe

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Re: GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« Reply #5 on: May 20, 2014, 10:08:39 PM »
Our answers are to assess your risk of possible exposure, not to educate you on every aspect of HIV exposure.  If you are adult enough to being having sex, you are adult enough to educate yourself on the risks of HIV.  Please take some time and read the lessons here, and learn the truth regarding HIV exposure.

Joe

Joe,

Thank you for your comment. As to the "If you are adult enough to be having sex, you are adult enough to educate yourself on the risk of HIV" part of the comment, I am adult enough to educate myself on the risks of HIV. I have contacted various places and was given various answers, to which most notified me that i should get tested because of the precum being inserted directly into my anus in a short amount of time. I was accepting the answer that i received previously from Jeff, but it is confusing when various professionals seem to guide me in different directions. I am going to find comfort in the answer that I received from this website, which I believe has the most current information on the transition of HIV.

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Re: GAY MENS HEALTH CRISIS
« Reply #6 on: May 20, 2014, 10:14:52 PM »
Its safe to move on from this incident . Best of luck to you .

 


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