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Author Topic: Sex with an escort, condom broke. Please help.  (Read 2224 times)

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Sex with an escort, condom broke. Please help.
« on: May 14, 2014, 09:37:03 PM »
i have been losing my mind and i need someone knowledgeable to snap me out of it.

i am a 25 year old male. last saturday i had sex with an escort. we used a condom, but it broke midway through. i'm not sure how long it was broken before i noticed it, but eventually i did notice it and put a new one on. i did not ejaculate during sex, but i did ejaculate afterwards on my own.

i didn't think much of it for the first few days, but today and yesterday i've been having a meltdown. i contacted the agency and they told me their girls are tested every two weeks. i can't confirm how reliable or truthful this is. the escort i saw is also very adamant about using condoms for everything. the first thing she said to me was "we do nothing bareback." but accidents do happen, as they did with me.

i have scheduled an appointment with my family doctor for May 22nd, where i plan to fully disclose what i've done and request a full STD screening. in the meantime i am losing my mind.

what are your thoughts? what are my chances of having the virus?

i really appreciate your time and input. i hope you can respond soon. thanks.

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Re: Sex with an escort, condom broke. Please help.
« Reply #1 on: May 14, 2014, 09:47:10 PM »
Condom breaks rarely result in a transmission of HIV for the insertive partner so you have every right to be optimistic you will test negative when you test .

You can test as early as 6 weeks past any possible exposure and confirm the results at 3 months for a conclusive result .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Sex with an escort, condom broke. Please help.
« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2014, 08:23:49 PM »
Some background:  on May 10th I had sex with an escort and at some point my condom broke and peeled back all the way.  I'm not sure how long it was broken, but I did notice after some time and put on a new one. 

I got a baseline HIV test done within a few weeks.

On August 8th, exactly 90 days post risk exposure, I had my follow up antibody test.

The results are as follows:

HIV 1/2 antibody.

Result - < 0.05

< 0.99 Non-Reactive
> 1.0 Reactive

My doctor says the result is negative, but that I should have the test done every 3 months for a year because they can only know for sure after 6 months and sometimes the window isn't accurate for up to a year.

Should I worry, or can I pretty much write off this negative result as conclusive?  My doctors words frighten me.

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Re: Sex with an escort, condom broke. Please help.
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2014, 08:43:05 PM »
Please post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter .
You can find your thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post an it will take you here .

You are HIV negative and do not need to test again for this incident . A 3 month negative HIV is conclusive and has been the standard for many years now .


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