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Offline NYCvillage

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Do I need PEP?
« on: April 07, 2014, 07:58:08 AM »
Last night I had a man rimming me as our main activity.  He told me he was negative, but who knows.  He got into it, I got into it.  He stood up over me and started masturbating to completion.  He said "I'm gonna cum", so I got the bright idea of putting a finger in my hole to 'plug up' and keep any semen out. In doing so however, I accidentally took some of his semen (he came fast) and put it into my anus

I panicked and washed myself out within minutes by douching. Then I evacuated.

Pretty much going to assume I'm at risk and go on PEP this morning. 

Is this the right call?

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Re: Do I need PEP?
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2014, 08:04:00 AM »

NO you do NOT need PEP over this NO RISK situation.

You haven't had a risk and you don't even need to test over this NO RISK situation.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, the cum that was OUTSIDE the body was no danger to you regardless of what you did with it after it came out of his body.

We get similar questions here all the time where someone was fingered (you're the first self-fingerer to the best of my recollection) and the finger had cum on it - and none of them ever became infected. You're not going to either.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS NO RISK FINGERING SITUATION, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Do I need PEP?
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2014, 08:10:10 AM »
Thank you so much for your reply.   I do know HIV is very fragile, and the inky reason I'm freaked out is that the  fingering occurred so instantaneously after the semen was on me   It's like I was actually helping it along

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Re: Do I need PEP?
« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2014, 10:03:49 AM »
Your fears notwithstanding, Ann has given you spot on advice. HIV is way too fragile to be passed in a viable state in the manner you are worried about. There's no need for PEP.

Andy Velez

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Re: Do I need PEP?
« Reply #4 on: April 07, 2014, 10:30:22 AM »
Thanks so much for your additional reply, Andy.   Ann definitely made me feel better but the timing of the fingering  still has me uneasy    The perceived time between ejaculation and my fingering feels almost instantaneous and that has me still feeling upset about it.  What if the virus survived in that instant?  And does douching actually help?

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Re: Do I need PEP?
« Reply #5 on: April 07, 2014, 10:41:22 AM »
Thanks so much for your additional reply, Andy.   Ann definitely made me feel better but the timing of the fingering  still has me uneasy    The perceived time between ejaculation and my fingering feels almost instantaneous and that has me still feeling upset about it.  What if the virus survived in that instant?  And does douching actually help?


No matter what you feel about the incident, the science is very clear.  HIV does not survive outside of the body and you did not have a risk.  If you are unable to accept this fact, you can test 6 weeks after this incident and collect your negative result.  If we thought you were at risk, we would be telling you to test.  You did not have a risk and do not need to test over this incident, other than for your own piece of mind.



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