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Offline francois

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Possible exposure condom slipped off
« on: April 07, 2014, 07:06:40 AM »
Hi there,

I had a recent encounter with a csw, during intercourse I think I felt the condom slip however I don't think it fully came off??? but I felt it slip for sure, silly me I just carried on though :(

The lady changed positions a few times during this encounter but I can't remember if I stayed inside while she changed or if she got up and reinserted, I didn't do the "deed" then she got up / off to change position and I/we noticed I didn't have the condom on any more, the condom was partially hanging out of her like the band/ring and maybe an inch or less of the main sheath was left behind.

My questions and concerns are...

Say the condom did fully came off during intercourse I would assume this would more than likely push the condom up into her? so its no longer visible when pulling out? However is it possible for the condom to fully come off and then continue intercourse with the condom next to my penis so when I pull out it pulls the condom partially out also with the penis also? so it appears like it has just slipped off? but as it would be lubricated etc. I don't think that scenario would happen would it and would just push up inside.

Or because its partially hanging out it just slipped a bit during intercourse but never fully came off, but then when pulling out that's why the condom was left behind slightly protruding?

Thanks for the read and hoping someone could asses my situation and whether I should seeking testing or not.

Kind regards,

Francois

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Re: Possible exposure condom slipped off
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2014, 07:59:38 AM »
Francois,

Yes, if the condom came off during the act, it would have been pushed up inside of her and she would have had to "dig" it out.

The fact that it was hanging out of her means it came off when you withdrew, and that is NOT a risk for hiv infection. You're supposed to hang on to the base of the condom when you withdraw or change positions to prevent slippage from happening.

While you do not need to test specifically over this NO RISK incident, any sexually active adult should be testing at least once a year as part of a COMPLETE sexual health check up.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS SLIPPAGE INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Possible exposure condom slipped off
« Reply #2 on: April 11, 2014, 11:10:12 AM »
Hi Ann,

Thank you for the reply much appreciated Ann, I understand this post will now be my 2nd post leaving 1 left after this.

I have a follow up question to the above, if it wasn't slippage I felt during actual intercourse but say breakage or tearing of the condom as I don't know if I would know the difference in sensation / feeling, if it was breakage would there be any visual tell tale signs? I know slippage also occurred during withdrawal as already mentioned above, but as I say if it was breakage as I only saw the condom for a brief second during slippage at withdrawal it looked fine however I assume if broken or torn it wouldn't look right?


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Re: Possible exposure condom slipped off
« Reply #3 on: April 11, 2014, 11:23:32 AM »
Condoms are designed in way as to leave no doubt when they fail, they either have obvious shredding or large tares or break in half . As Ann advised it sounds like you slipped out of the condom and that is not a risk .

If you are unsure or uneasy you can test for peace of mind only . You can do so 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . Its rare for the insertive partner to test positive after a condom break or brief insertion so you should expect a negative result .

To be clear . It does not sound like you had a risk so if you decide to test do so for peace of mind only and try not to stress over this incident . 

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Re: Possible exposure condom slipped off
« Reply #4 on: May 13, 2014, 02:26:31 PM »
Condoms are designed in way as to leave no doubt when they fail, they either have obvious shredding or large tares or break in half . As Ann advised it sounds like you slipped out of the condom and that is not a risk .

If you are unsure or uneasy you can test for peace of mind only . You can do so 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . Its rare for the insertive partner to test positive after a condom break or brief insertion so you should expect a negative result .

To be clear . It does not sound like you had a risk so if you decide to test do so for peace of mind only and try not to stress over this incident .

Hi Jeff G thank you for the reply.

I understand this will be my last of the 3 messages/replies I'm allowed to make, but I do have one last follow up question.

I feel that I haven't had an exposure as I've now read about on the internet at what condoms failures are like, like you suggest large tears, rips or totally break in half or leave the ring at the bottom and the rest left behind and in turn leaving the penis at risk of infection.

My only concern and I will do as you advise for peace of mind is to get tested but as I say I feel I haven't been at risk, but my question is in regards to slipping out upon withdrawal and leaving the condom behind, as I say I only saw the condom for a brief moment it looked intact to the ring part and looked like how a condom usually does after use from my past experience (how do I explain this sorry my English isn't great for explaining things as its my second language), hope this makes sense when the lady removed it from herself it had shrunk back in on its self like wasn't expanded any more as obviously had no contents in it (me), so it looked shrivelled up / back in a more relaxed state like they usually do after use, I assume if it had torn or shredded this would of been visible from the brief moment I saw? all I saw was it was complete at the base with the ring, so if broken, torn or shredded half way up it wouldn't have gone back into it shrivelled up / relaxed state correct? like for a break I assume the latex / rubber material would of reached its point of no return for being intact and elasticated and would look more unfurled when she pulled it out correct? rather than being how I usually see them after use.

My only real concern doubt is the sensation I felt when I was having intercourse of the condom slipping / moving or maybe even a tear, it felt like it had moved up my penis towards the head slightly, I'm not sure if it was say a horizontal tear or just slightly lose and moving up slowly, which might also be why I lost it on withdrawal as wasn't fully covered by then I guess.

As I can't make any more replies I thank you kindly for your time and everyone else's replies on here.

Best wishes,

Francois

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Re: Possible exposure condom slipped off
« Reply #5 on: May 13, 2014, 02:51:09 PM »
I do understand you apprehension and I read and understood you last comments perfectly .

The only thing I can advise is to test for peace of mind . You should be having regular checkups anyway so just look at this a routine checkup .

Although you didn't have a risk the cure for HIV anxiety is to test at the appropriate time .
You can do so 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . Its rare for the insertive partner to test positive after a condom break or brief insertion so you should expect a negative result . Best of luck .   

 


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