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unsure situation
« on: March 30, 2014, 12:31:50 PM »
Hello, I was looking for some input on my situation. The other night I met up with this guy and we're hanging out in his car talking and drinking. Needless to say, I ended up pretty drunk. One thing leads to another and we start messing around. So I'm on my stomach and he gets behind me and start putting his dick near my ass. I'm really cautious about anyone getting close down there w out a condom. So I kept trying to push his dick away from my whole. He was being pretty aggressive. He got really close so I told him to put a condom on If he's going to try to penetrate me, he said he didn't have one. So he keeps being pushy and holding me down. Until I kinda freak out and push him off of me and tell him to stop because he's freaking me out. It freaked me out because I was drunk and now I keep thinking what if he penetrate me. If he did it would have been very very brief, but I keep telling myself that if he did actually penetrate me I would know for sure. I text him today and asked if he did and he says he didn't. Again I don't think he did but I'm freaking out over the possibility that in my drunken state I didn't notice. What do you guys think?  Thank you in advance.

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Re: unsure situation
« Reply #1 on: March 30, 2014, 12:48:21 PM »
Chriss, if he had penetrated it you would have felt it at the time and afterwards as well because your butthole would have been sore. This situation now is about fears and doubts rather than any real evidence that you actually had anal sex.

Actually the biggest red flag in the situation is that you became engaged in sexual play while drinking excessively. That is something you need to avoid in the future. You might also think of carrying up-to-date condoms with you if you are going to be out and about and possibly having sex.

I don't see any need for testing over this incident unless you need the inevitable negative result just for your peace of mind. If so testing is at 6 weeks and then 3 months for a conclusive result. But like I said I don't think you really need to do it.

Get on with your life.
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Re: unsure situation
« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2014, 08:11:57 PM »
Hey there, so I took my 6 week test just because. Oraquick in home test. There was not even a faint red line but there was a little almost black dot where the test line would be, right in the middle. The control line was clear, no test line at all. What is your take on that? Thanks.

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Re: unsure situation
« Reply #3 on: May 11, 2014, 08:21:03 PM »
You never had a risk to test for so its conclusive that you do not have HIV .

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« Reply #4 on: May 11, 2014, 08:25:25 PM »
Yeah I pretty mucj agree. Still don't feel at ease about it about tho, just because of how drunk I was. Have you ever heard of anything like that before? Just wonderin.

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Re: unsure situation
« Reply #5 on: May 11, 2014, 08:30:03 PM »
Yeah I pretty mucj agree. Still don't feel at ease about it about tho, just because of how drunk I was. Have you ever heard of anything like that before? Just wonderin.

I have never heard of anyone getting HIV that didn't have a risk . If you are uneasy the best and easy thing to do would be to go to a testing center that can read your test for you . Or you could simply accept you did not have a risk and put this behind you .


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