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extremely word about being infected
« on: March 16, 2014, 12:38:43 PM »

I'm a 25 year old male. Was sexually active with a partner for 4 years. Always used condoms. No exceptions.

I had a high risk encounter with a worker in between Dec 29-Jan 1 just a few months ago.

Protected vaginal sex, received unprotected oral sex and performed cunnilingus. She was black african heterosexual.

Once came back from the trip, less then a week later, experienced a fever for 2 nights with night sweats and chills. A very painful sore throat. The sore throat got worse a day later and went to the ER. Was diagnosed with strep throat and it had to be flushed out of my throat.

Was given clindamycin antibiotics for a week and just a few days later started feeling better. Right away a dry cough developed and until a few days ago it was there. I've also been having headaches with head feeling heavy and hot that got better about a week ago.

4 days ago, I noticed a white coated tongue and I noticed it could be HIV related. i've been brushing it every night slightly getting better and coming back the next week. The coating is only on the tongue and its not painful.

My question is, could I have transmitted HIV by having vaginal sex if the condom broke mid-way? Used 2 condoms. 1 taken off by sex worker to give oral sex and the second taken off by me when it was over. When I took off the condom, It did not feel that the condom was cracked or broken.

Could I have transmitted HIV by giving cunnilingus? do not remember if my mouth was sore or had cuts. It could have been possible.

And I have not been tested. I've started to get really paranoid just for the last 1-2 weeks. I've been very busy and itdidn't cross my mind to go get tested

Would appreciate anyone's comments as I'm freaking out here.

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Re: extremely word about being infected
« Reply #1 on: March 16, 2014, 12:59:37 PM »
Nothing you mention is a risk for HIV in your post . You had protected intercourse and that was not a risk . Getting a BJ and performing cunnilingus is not a risk for HIV .

I will say that you would have known if the condom broke so it did not and is not a factor in this assessment ... Using more than one condom at a time is improper and can actually lead to condom failure so don't do that anymore . I repeat ... it did not break or you would have known it .

Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and we do not discuss them but I will say that its not unusual for you to have a white tongue if you have been on antibiotics . 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: extremely word about being infected
« Reply #2 on: March 16, 2014, 01:06:47 PM »
thank you for the reply i appreciate it. I also forgot to mention that 1 wee before the white tongue appeared, my throat was sore but not painful. I had a very dry mouth and the headaches were there. Is this in any way related t having HIV symptoms?

Thanks again

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Re: extremely word about being infected
« Reply #3 on: March 16, 2014, 01:11:16 PM »
Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and we do not discuss them . You did not have a risk for HIV .


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