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Author Topic: Fingering question  (Read 393 times)

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Offline ofek

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Fingering question
« on: March 14, 2014, 01:52:06 PM »
Hi,

I am in a long term relationship and a week ago made a huge mistake.

I met a woman whose HIV status isn't known to me. We didn't have vaginal or anal sex. we only did the following:

French kissing, she gave me oral sex and we both fingered each other (me in her vagina and she in my anus).

I saw you wrote that all these activities a risk free and also carefully read the scientific explanations. for some reason I find it easy to accept that kissing and receiving oral sex are indeed risk free, but I struggle with the mutual fingering.

This fear doesn't let me sleep and since this event I am afraid to make love with my wife (I know the reason is guilt, but I would like to make sure it is ONLY guilt).

my questions:

1. Do all these activities share the same NO RISK status? or are kissing and receiving oral sex safer?

2. Is it OK and not risky at all to have sex with my wife, or should I avoid it and wait till I test?

3. I now have a red cut in my finger. I don't know if it was there a week ago. is it clear that even with the cut, It was a ZERO risk event?

I will thanks you for answering.


Offline Jeff G

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Re: Fingering question
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2014, 02:11:52 PM »
1. Do all these activities share the same NO RISK status? or are kissing and receiving oral sex safer?

HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex . Fingering and kissing is not a risk .

2. Is it OK and not risky at all to have sex with my wife, or should I avoid it and wait till I test?

You have not had a risk for HIV .

3. I now have a red cut in my finger. I don't know if it was there a week ago. is it clear that even with the cut, It was a ZERO risk event?

Fingering is not a risk even with cut on your finger .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

 


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