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Author Topic: Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive  (Read 221 times)

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Offline yellabee3

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Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive
« on: December 21, 2014, 10:29:20 PM »
I am married and been working on my marriage. Everything was coming together until early October I found out I am positive. Everything been going downhill ever since. Luckily my husband is not, but it has put a strain in our marriage. Now I am worried about the baby and hoping it is not positive as well. I want to meet other females who experience or been in the same boat as me. I need a strong support group.

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Re: Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive
« Reply #1 on: December 23, 2014, 09:56:33 PM »
Hi Yella,
Though I have not been positive while being pregnant, I have had HIV+ female clients (when I was a case manager) who got pregnant and carried the children to term, normal births, babies on treatment for a few weeks and are HIV-.  There are specific meds you need to be on, however, in order to increase the chances that the baby will remain negative.

We are here for you.  I am sorry you needed this site, but glad you found it since you do need it.  I've been positive since (at least) 1989, probably earlier based on the timeline close to my first husband's death.  It is possible to live with this, and to thrive. 

Are you and your husband in counseling?  How is he doing?  I hope he's treating you good, and being understanding.  It is a very difficult situation, but one I know you can weather.  Stay strong girlfriend!

Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline yellabee3

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Re: Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive
« Reply #2 on: December 24, 2014, 12:16:52 AM »
When I found out I was positive, it was October 16th and I was 22 weeks pregnant. I got on meds on November 4 at 24 weeks. I was placed on Kaletra lopinavir and lamivudine. The doctor mentioned that my CD4 was 345 and my viral loads was 790,000. I found out in the beginning of this month that my vl is now 4550 and my white blood count is a 7. My doctor never mentioned my CD4, he said it was not important, which I found it strange. Instead of being excited about this pregnancy like I was before the diagnoses, I been so depressed. I will give you a little back-story.

Iíve been depressed and my husband believes I am bipolar and I been acting out outside of our marriage, which got me in the situation I am in now. I should have gotten helped when he wanted me to. It had gotten worse when my mom got sick from cancer two days after Christmas and I been driving 2 hours almost weekly to take care of her. She passed away in March, a week after my sonís birthday party. My husband been there for me, but I was in a different state of mind, like a different person and I didnít know who I was anymore. Oh how regret what I did, because we were working on things and I was finding happiness again. And when I found out I was pregnant I was so happy, we both were. But this diagnosis just killed me inside and I hate that I betrayed and hurt my husband. I am so scared about the state our child will be in once he is born. Yes, I am having a boy in February. Now I am seeking counseling and trying to focus on the health of the baby and my family. It has been so hard.

Thank you for your support.

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Re: Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive
« Reply #3 on: December 24, 2014, 05:44:20 AM »
Yells, I know it's hard, trust me, I know.  I've had many challenges in many different areas.  But I do know that as long as you keep pushing through, things work out.  Maybe not always the way we expect or want, but they do work out. 

You need to accept what happened and forgive yourself.  And learn some coping skills for whatever personal struggles you are going through so you can relax and have a good pregnancy, and future.  Since you are on meds and in regular medical care, I wouldn't be concerned about the baby having setbacks because of the virus. 

Hang in.  Work on whatever you need in counseling, to come to peace with yourself.  And keep reaching out!

Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline yellabee3

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Re: Pregnant and found out in October that I am positive
« Reply #4 on: December 24, 2014, 04:24:21 PM »
Thank you for your support and I hope you enjoy your holiday.

 


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