Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr Instagram
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
February 06, 2016, 06:55:15 AM

Login with username, password and session length

  • Total Members: 27502
  • Latest: Ñoelia
  • Total Posts: 684698
  • Total Topics: 53565
  • Online Today: 194
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ and AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all.

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried  (Read 8638 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline timmtimm911

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« on: February 20, 2014, 03:00:18 AM »
Hi i am really scared of an encounter i had. I am currently in Thailand for conference i was stupid enough to take a ladyboy sex worker to my room. I always wore a condom in thailand. My concern is are condoms eliminated the risk of hiv ? or should i test ?
This encounter i had was wit a post op ladyboy. I made out wit her and sucked her nipples, after that i put on a condom and proceeded with anal intercourse it was only 2 minutes or less i pull out for a second and found the condom had blood on it. I freaked out she said its ok im tight it happens. But i got so scared went to the bathroom unrolled the condom off carefully inside out so as the blood would be on the inside of the condom. after unrolled inside out i filled it with water from the sink, to check if its broken or has a hole. It filled up like a balloon and nothing was dripping. Please note i do not know what a broken condom looks like or a condom with a hole in it. After this i went home. Ever since this i cant go to work properly i cant go to the gym i cant even enjoy my time out wit friends. I am so scared i got infected especially cause this is a sex worker and Blood on condom. Blood is the main route to hiv. Yes it was on the condom but what if it touched my skin my hand or leg or balls. I am so scared i cannot wait 3 months to test i am freaking out. Was i at a risk ? could i have got infected ? from kissing or sucking her nipples or even worse from the blood on the condom ? i know many people here are experts and i might sound stupid. so i am asking for ur consultation

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,140
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2014, 05:34:06 AM »

Calm down already. You didn't have a risk. Condoms prevent hiv infection. It doesn't matter if there was blood on the condom, it still did its job and protected you.

Getting blood on your hands or legs or any other areas of skin is not a risk - the skin is an effective barrier against hiv. In addition, hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, the blood on the outside of the condom posed no risk to you once the condom was outside her body.

What's important in this situation is that the condom covered the head of your penis while you were inside. The head of the penis is the area where there are cells present that hiv can infect - the head area only, not the shaft, not your balls, not your thigh.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

While you do not need to test for hiv over this specific situation, as a sexually active adult you should be having a FULL sexual health check up on a regular basis.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline timmtimm911

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2014, 12:29:28 PM »
Thanks a lot Ann for your speedy reply, it really took a lot of pressure off me. I have been really stressed these few days could not even work the sight of blood has been in my head always. Yes i did use a condom and the blood was on the condom when i pulled out. im guessing there were no holes or tears as i checked the condom by filling it up with water after unrolling it. Just filled up like a balloon.
Thanks again i really do appreciate everything you told me. I learned a lot from your post. I was really confused to be honest how hiv is transferred as the internet seems to be so broad about it. Says could transmit through breast milk. I lick there and there was milk. But according to what you said its very rare.
Thank you

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,796
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2014, 02:03:40 PM »
Breast milk poses no risk to adults for HIV . Its only a risk for infants with a developing immune system .

There is no use in doing the water test because it tells you very little and is a good way to damage a condom messing around with it and then you think there was a risk when there was not one .

Condoms are designed so that when they fail there is no doubt, the break in half or shred ... they do not get micro holes that you must do complicated test or exams to detect . The whole water test is not a necessary, you will know if a condom fails .     

Offline timmtimm911

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #4 on: February 26, 2014, 05:34:33 AM »
Hi Jeff and Ann, I want to apologize for posting here again however i wanted to ask you both something as it seems you have years of experience regarding this matter.
I read on this forum posts from some people saying they popped the condom or had a hole in the condom meaning the breakage was not obvious. I really dont know what a condom break looks like. So it seems like a small tear could be possible at the top of the condom. Someone told me if the condom breaks it will be obvious and that i will definitely know. After reading this it takes me back to the incident where i had blood on the condom. Should i be worried that a tear could have been present ?
I kind of have a soar throat right now and seem really tired i don't want to be paranoid but im just re evaluating my risk.
I really appreciate you help again and my apologies if my posts sound a little stupid. I would just like to know if after this incident i should test.

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,796
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2014, 07:31:02 AM »
Timm, you did not have a risk and you would have known if the condom broke ... if you remember you examined it very carefully and were lucky it did not get damaged during the water test I advise you not do . You are worrying over a no risk incident .


Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,796
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2014, 04:39:28 PM »
If you read the posting rules at the top of this forum you will see you are allowed 3 questions before you must buy a subscription . Please do not use the moderator button to ask questions .

You did not have a risk so I would think twice before you pay money to get the same answer on what has been covered already .
« Last Edit: March 03, 2014, 04:43:43 PM by Jeff G »

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,796
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Sex with thai ladyboy - condom blood - scared first time worried
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2014, 05:17:53 PM »
Timm . Im issuing you a warning for not following the posting guidelines at the top of this forum .

Do not post outside of this thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter . You can find your post by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here . Do not attempt to create more than one account or you will be banned . 


Terms of Membership for these forums

© 2016 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.