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Offline veryworried1992

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69-ed an infected woman
« on: February 19, 2014, 10:56:13 PM »
Hey guys, I would like to know what my odds of being infected are if I gave AND recieved oral sex from an HIV positive woman

I made the stupidest decision of my life and hooked up with a woman who turned out to be HIV+

She gave me a blowjob while I performed cunningilus on her. I also rimmed her a bit, AND as if it couldn't get any worse, I stuck my dick in her for about 5 seconds (no condom) before she told me oral only.

She's not medicating which is freaking me out and I am getting tested tomorrow at 9AM

I think I'm in for a sleepless night, and I don't know if anyone will see this before my test.

Either one of two things will happen. I will be infected, and will probably kill myself.

OR I will be HIV-

IF I am HIV- my new purpose in life will be to help the HIV/AIDS community however I can. You guys are so much braver than I am.

Responses very much appreciated. Thank you all.

EDIT: the links/information on this site is absolutely top notch and is putting my mind at ease so much, but I still need the test to be sure.
« Last Edit: February 19, 2014, 10:59:52 PM by veryworried1992 »

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #1 on: February 19, 2014, 11:04:40 PM »
You never had an exposure from oral sex even if she was HIV positive.

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2014, 05:11:30 AM »
Worried,

You  need to start assuming ANYONE you have sex with is potentially hiv positive and protect yourself accordingly by NOT sticking your unprotected dick inside their anus or vagina. Put a condom on it, or don't stick it in. It's that simple.

The oral you engaged in was NOT a risk, but the unprotected dipping WAS a risk. It's very much on the low end of the scale, but is a risk nonetheless.

Due to the briefness, it's on the same lines as experiencing a condom break and I've yet to see the insertive partner end up positive over a condom break. I do not expect you'll be the first, but you MUST test to be certain.

You should be testing regularly anyway. From the way you talk, I wouldn't be surprised that this isn't the first time you've proceeded to anal or vaginal intercourse without a condom. For all you know this is NOT the first hiv positive woman you've been with. After all, many many people do not accurately know their hiv status and if you're not in the habit of regular testing yourself, you ALSO don't accurately know your status. So don't even get on your high horse, ok?

The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

To recap: The only risk you had was the unprotected vaginal dipping. None of the oral was a risk.

You need to test at six weeks, and confirm any negative result at three months.

I do not expect you to end up positive from this particular incident, but you do need to wise up and stop sticking your unprotected dick into anuses or vaginas. If you don't wise up you may eventually end up poz, if you're not already.

Ann


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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2014, 05:18:48 AM »
Thank you. I'm actually getting tested in 3 1/2 hours from now.

I should add the exposure happened in early december (between 12 and 13 weeks)

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2014, 05:38:55 AM »
Worried,

Provided this was the ONLY incident of unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with anyone in the past twelve weeks, then your result will be conclusive.

I'm expecting a negative result for you - but you're doing the right thing in testing to make certain.

Please learn from this and stop having unprotected intercourse, no matter how brief. You're playing roulette with your health.

I hope you also start having regular, routine COMPLETE sexual health check ups - STARTING TODAY. You can have STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis and not have any noticeable symptoms. Regular testing is the ONLY way to accurately know your sexual health status.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2014, 06:04:14 AM »
Ann, thank you very much.
This is my last free reply, so I'll make it count.

The reason I started inquiring to former partners if they had anything (there were only 2) was my current girlfriend (met the day before the exposure and have had sex since) got a bad yeast infection
Now she has infrequent abdominal pain when she pees.

so basically I'm convinced I've given my girlfriend HIV. I know my risk is low, and her 2 symptoms dont mean she has hiv (she also had a sore throat last week which i didnt get) but im seriously freaking out. My test is in 3 hours 10 minutes now and I am hopefully going to get the 30 minute test.

Worried,

I quoted and deleted your post above so you still have one free post left to tell us what happens at your appointment.

So, you've been having unprotected intercourse with your current girlfriend - without testing together first? That basically means you're still in a testing window as you aren't psychic and can't possibly know your gf's hiv status without testing together.

You seriously need to wise up and stop assuming you know anyone's hiv status, and stop having unprotected intercourse until you have been monogamous for at least three months before testing together for the all-clear.

You absolutely cannot go by what someone tells you about their sexual history or hiv testing history, or what you think you know about them. The ONLY way to accurately know someone's hiv status - or sexual health status in general - is to be in a close, committed relationship with them where these things have been tested for together and discussed.

Good luck with your testing - and remember, it's only conclusive three months past your last incident of unprotected intercourse with ANYONE. ANYONE means ANYONE, including your current girlfriend. For all you know she could have been poz before you got together. So think on!

Ann
« Last Edit: February 20, 2014, 06:07:44 AM by Ann »
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #6 on: February 21, 2014, 03:20:04 PM »
ok, I took the blood test yesterday and got the results today
both strains of HIV came back negative. I was so relieved I sort of broke down.

Anyway, I told the woman who I thought had exposed me and I get a response which makes me so angry I'm still shaking.

She tells me "you know i was messen wit u"
She never had HIV.
She let me believe for a week that I had been exposed.

I can't believe anyone would joke about this, that is so completely evil.

You guys have been great, and I wish everyone on this forum the best of luck

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Re: 69-ed an infected woman
« Reply #7 on: February 21, 2014, 05:04:47 PM »
You absolutely cannot go by what someone tells you about their sexual history or hiv testing history, or what you think you know about them. The ONLY way to accurately know someone's hiv status - or sexual health status in general - is to be in a close, committed relationship with them where these things have been tested for together and discussed.

Good luck with your testing - and remember, it's only conclusive three months past your last incident of unprotected intercourse with ANYONE. ANYONE means ANYONE, including your current girlfriend. For all you know she could have been poz before you got together. So think on!

Ann


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