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Extremely Scared!
« on: February 17, 2014, 10:42:11 AM »
On September 7, I received oral from a man (unknown of what his HIV Status was).
I had a cut on my penis right below the head on the skin in the middle. It lasted anywhere from 5-15 minutes.

Over the Past couple of months ive been freaking out and really scared. Ive never felt this way before, any other time i did anything sexual. I don't even know if he had cuts inside his mouth but the fact of me having a cut on my penis scares me.

I have a couple of swollen lymph nodes on the sides of my groin. I have some very small ones in my neck, and one on my collar right before my neck. I started to notice the ones in my groin about a month after. None of them are painful so that scares me as well. I had went to the hospital and the Doc told me if nothing happens within a month your fine. 2 weeks later i notice lymph nodes. Im going to get a biopsy done on 2/25. Im really scared because ive really messed up this time. I try doing push ups just to test my body to see if i feel weak or muscle weakness and i do. (I use to workout a lot and i stop back in 2011 and its 2014) So maybe that's why. I did/do have a dry cough but its not really a cough, its only when i try to cough on purpose i notice it. I haven't gotten sick, no rash, nothing besides nodes.

I have been tested on December 2 (Rapid Test From Health Clinic)
And Also tested on December 12 (Blood sent to Lab)
Both came back negative but im still worried cause of these nodes.

Im very scared because i really have messed up and i feel like there's no going back from this.

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Re: Extremely Scared!
« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2014, 10:48:52 AM »
Getting a blow job is not a risk for HIV even with a cut on your penis . HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex . No one has ever been infected from getting a BJ and you will not be the first .

If this is your only concern then you have tested conclusively HIV negative and do not need to test over this specific incident again . Your symptoms could be from many things other than HIV so we do not guess what a symptom is caused by . If you are sick go see your doctor, its not HIV making you sick . 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Extremely Scared!
« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2014, 11:06:02 AM »
I might have had Urethritis at the time, Does that increase my chances?

And im not sick, i haven't gotten sick.

If I were positive from something that happened before this incident would it already have shown? And will it always show?

Is it time for me to move on from this and continue my life? Or should i be worried that when i get this Biopsy done that it will come back HIV related?

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Re: Extremely Scared!
« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2014, 11:40:35 AM »
I don't know if i should be worried anymore, Idk what to do. I mean if i were positive from something before this would i still test positive or would have tested positive?

And im more worried because these lymph nodes have been on me for a while.

I just want things to go back to normal

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Re: Extremely Scared!
« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2014, 12:06:39 PM »
The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.

You did not have a risk no matter what scenario you throw into the mix ... If you were HIV positive from this incident you would have tested positive . I have had HIV for 30 years and would still test positive to this day . You can move on, you do not have HIV .   


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