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Author Topic: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!  (Read 1344 times)

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Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« on: September 21, 2014, 10:05:22 AM »
Hi Everyone...I am really worried for the past few days and I really really need your help...

I just have three questions -

1) 45 days back I went to an overcrowded brothel.I decided not to have sex.She was completely naked and I did not wear any condom and she also started fingering herself and immediately was giving me handjob with her same wet hands ( vaginal fluid ) and this happened several times- almost till the end.And she also came on top of me when I was lying and she rubbed my penis on her pussy for few mins ( No Penetration - just frottage for few mins).So, in both the cases lot of vaginal fluids came in contact with my 'uncircumcised' penis and I did not get a chance to wash my penis till next 8 hours.So, is it possible that the hiv got transmitted through these two incidents ( vaginal fluid touching uncircumcised penis) ?

2) In the same incident, when I was done after the handjob..the girl gave me a cloth to clean my penis and while I was cleaning I felt something wet and when I checked it was serum ( from previous customer few mins back) that came in direct contact with my uncircumcised penis.She apologised and ran and brought me a new cloth after 4-5 mins.Will this have any risk ?

3) After exactly 43 days after incident, I had cough, sneezing,runny nose and a mild fever.Runny nose and sneezing got over in 3 days without any medicine but I still have little cough ( dry and wet both ) and slight heavyness in ear and head due to cold .Also I am feeling a small ball like thing on my left jawline but it is not swelled- Request you to please explain what is this? Does ARS symptoms include - Coughing, Sneezing and Runny Nose? and Can ARS show up after 6 weeks?

I humbly request you to please answer my above three questions and please don't think these questions as a 'what if' question - I SWEAR all thee above things actually and literally happened.I SWEAR. I really need your help as I am really worried specially after when I caught this cough and sneezing etc on 43rd day after exposure.

Thank you so much. God bless you ! Request you to please be patient .Thanks !!

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Re: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2014, 10:30:27 AM »
The risk for sexually transmitted HIV comes from unprotected penetrative anal or vaginal sex and not from hand jobs or frottage . HIV is extremely fragile and is not infectious the instant it leave the confines of the body, small changes in temperature and PH damage HIV and render it unable to infect . It does not matter if your partner is living with HIV or not, nothing you did was even a remote risk for HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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Re: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2014, 11:23:44 AM »
Thanks a lot for the quick reply Jeff :)

1) So my 1st two points ie vaginal fluid touching urethra and uncircumcised penis are totally risk free right? Should I be completely relieved?

2) Jeff, please answer the third point ie are sneezing, coughing, runny nose, heavy head due  part of ARS symptoms?

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Re: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« Reply #3 on: September 21, 2014, 11:37:33 AM »
I did answer you questions thoroughly . You did not have a risk and HIV is not infectious once it leaves the confines of the human body ... How you could possibly think I didn't address all your questions is beyond me . No risk means no risk and I carefully went over the fragile nature of HIV and how you need not worry about it or any sexual fluids once outside the body ... unless you have unprotected anal or vaginal sex or shoot drugs with an infected person you are not going get HIV, its that simple  .

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Re: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« Reply #4 on: September 21, 2014, 11:48:43 AM »
Sorry Jeff, I did not mean to irritate you...I am just worried so thats y wanted to just confirm.I am really really sorry .

I just got worried about the recent symptoms- coughing , sneezing and running nose.... I know you dont discuss symptoms but Jeff please please tell me..that does ARS include all these things?

I am so so thankful to you to finally get my mind to rest.God Bless you !

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Re: Please Help - having ARS...Really really worried !!
« Reply #5 on: September 21, 2014, 11:52:25 AM »
Im not irritated ... just trying to get through to you . Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and since you did not have a risk if these are your only concerns it could not have a single thing to do with HIV ... if you are sick go see a doctor and find out why ... its not HIV . 


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