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Author Topic: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex  (Read 2255 times)

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Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« on: February 13, 2014, 01:04:38 PM »

I am new to here and I have recently been concerned about a foolish act of behavior that I happened six weeks ago.   I am met a lady at a hotel bar,  I ended up going back to her room where I proceeded to finger her deeply with a few fingers and one finger in a the anus.   I then gave her oral sex where I sucked on her clit pretty aggressively for a good ten minutes.   I noticed afterwards I did have a cut in my mouth from accidentally biting my lip a day prior.   She wanted me to have sex with her I kind of poked around her vaginal area a bit but did not go inside her.  I asked if she had a condom she said now and that she had a recent hysterectomy so we were good to have unprotected sex (which makes me think she could a probably does have something).   At that point I decided not to have sex and proceeded to masturbate myself.   I am now concerned and wondering if I should have a test done.   I have symptoms of guilt as I a married with children and this was one time exposure.  Now this week my wife has come down with sometype of viral illness.   I am concerned I may have put my wife and life at risk by my poor decision.   My questions are is there a difference in risk with anal fingering vs vaginal fingering.  And if a person aggressively sucks on a clit for a  longer period of time is there a higher risk (she was very wet).   Do I need to test?  Or can I put this behind me?  Sorry about the details but I just wanted to make sure I covered everything.  Thanks in advance for the advise.  Pete

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Re: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« Reply #1 on: February 13, 2014, 01:10:38 PM »
The risk factors for sexually acquiring HIV are from unprotected anal and vaginal sex . You did not have a risk in any of the things you are concerned with .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« Reply #2 on: February 13, 2014, 04:50:05 PM »
Hi Jeff,

Thank you for your reply.   So in other words I do not even need to test ??? from this exposure.   For some reason I thought there was a risk with oral and fingering.  I want to be able to resume my normal life with my wife and just need to make sure I am good to go.   

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Re: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« Reply #3 on: February 13, 2014, 05:07:59 PM »
You did not incur a risk for HIV . Fingering is not a risk and the theoretical risk for oral sex comes into play when GIVE a blow job to man with a high HIV viral load while suffering significant wounds in your mouth .

Cunnilingus is not a risk and that is why the lesbian population has not been a demographic that suffers HIV infections .

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Re: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2014, 08:29:50 AM »
Scared again,   this about 2 weeks ago, or so I have noticed what appears for what i have looked at on line to be an Oral Wart in my inner lip.   It is still there.     I have had this one exposure that I had listed above.    After being concerned a few weeks back I went and had a HIV test done at 6 weeks.   It came back negative.   (Is there any chance I have hiv from that one exposure that I had listed above)  I am concerned that my immune system is not function properly, as when I have reseached oral warts all this hiv pictures ext come up.  I have also had a chronic sinus infection and dandroff on my scalp.   Would any these conditions slow the body to produce antibodies? Can you have oral warts and not have hiv?  Also can oral warts be passed from kissing?   Thanks for the help   Pete

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Re: Anal Fingering / Deep Fingering / and Oral Sex
« Reply #5 on: March 15, 2014, 08:54:24 AM »

For a start, STOP self-diagnosing yourself by looking at photos on the internet. ONLY a doctor or dentist can diagnose what is going on in your mouth.

Warts, (if that is even what you're dealing with) are caused by the Human Papillomavirus (usually referred to as HPV). HPV is a totally different family of viruses to hiv and has NOTHING to do with hiv. Most adults are infected with one species or other (often more than one) of HPV.

HPV is spread through simple skin-to-skin contact, UNLIKE hiv. Comparing the two viruses is like comparing ants to camels.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point - when there has been a risk and you did NOT have a risk - but is highly unlikely to change.

The only people who might take slightly longer to seroconvert and test positive are those people who are on chemotherapy for cancer, anti-rejection drugs following organ transplant, or people who have been injecting street drugs, every day, for years. Even these people will normally test positive by three months. Dandruff, warts, and/or chronic sinus infections have nothing to do with it and also have nothing to do with hiv.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. If you're worried about the thing in your mouth, show it to your doctor or dentist. Whatever it is, it has NOTHING to do with hiv. You do not have hiv.

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