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Offline BillyPOZ123

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Very Scared - Please Help
« on: February 12, 2014, 02:45:02 PM »

I might have been exposed to hiv 3 weeks ago and would like your opinions on the matter, here is my story:
Iíve had an encounter with a female sex worker from an escort agency in Montreal. The following has been done :  receiving blowjob and protected vaginal intercourse. I am at 22 days post-exposure and have completed a Hiv Duo Elisa test of 4th gen today for which I will have the results tomorrow.
What worries me is that the escort had a rash all over her body, psioriasis-like, which she later told me was a light diagnosed psioriasis condition that she once had before and had gone away (and that it was triggered by stress) , but you never know she might have been lying or not have known. When I thought about the HIV ARS rash symptom the next day, I started experiencing high anxiety about the whole thing. I know I was protected and therefore I shouldnít stress, but even though the condom didnít break, I lost maybe 30-40% of my erection near the end of intercourse, which led to us stopping, and pulling back, the condom was not as tight and covering the entirety of my penis anymore. Also, I had shaved my shaft and scrotum with a razorblade 2 hours prior to the encounter and had little rough marks, like micro cuts at the bottom of my shaft, but nothing actively bleeding.  Also, and this could be very well caused by anxiety, I started having a rash about 2 weeks after the encounter, that looked like a heat rash, small pink patches on my chest, but always only 1 or 2 at a time, and they faded away in 24-48 hrs and reappeared at other places on my chest. Also, I started having a sore throat and pain in my neck/throat muscles, but no pain swallowing, no red streak in the throat, no white tongue or any other flu symptoms. The sore throat isnít there in the morning and seems to progressively get worse as the day goes by and during high stress periods.

So Here is what I know:

-Most Canadians female sex workers do not have HIV
- You canít get HIV from receiving a blowjob
- The rash on her body could be due to multitude of other conditions and only slightly increases the odds of her  having HIV
- Cuts have to be actively bleeding for HiV to enter your bloodstream
- My symptoms are not consistent with ARS, as the rash would appear and stay for some time and not be on and off. The sore throat would involve pain swallowing and other symptoms related to pharyngitis. The whole thing could be linked to anxiety since the mind is a powerful thing.

Is everything I said accurate? And if not, on what am I wrong?

My last question would be: 22 days post-exposure, how accurate would you say the results of my 4th gen Elisa test will be? Over 90%?

Thank you guys so much for the help!


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Re: Very Scared - Please Help
« Reply #1 on: February 12, 2014, 03:01:14 PM »
I read your concerns carefully and none of them were or are a risk for HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

To answer your last question ... For future reference if you ever have an actual risk the testing window period is 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . There is no use in testing before 6 weeks .

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.

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Re: Very Scared - Please Help
« Reply #2 on: February 12, 2014, 08:12:44 PM »
Thanks a lot for your answer Jeff, are you absolutely sure about the condom slip-off while losing a part of my erection? I don't know about the technicalities of condoms but can there be a slip off/slip in inside the vagina that would expose a person to vaginal fluids?

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« Reply #3 on: February 12, 2014, 08:20:37 PM »
As long as the glans or tip of your penis is covered it was safe and not a risk .

As for vaginal fluids ... The female secretion where hiv has been shown to be present is the cervicovaginal fluid. This fluid is actually a thick mucus that covers and protects the cervix.

The fluid a woman produces when sexually excited comes from the Bartholin's glands, located on either side of the vaginal opening. I have yet to discover one shred of evidence (and believe me, I've looked) that shows this lubricating fluid to have any more hiv present than other bodily secretions such as saliva, sweat or tears. Saliva, sweat and tears are NOT infectious fluids.

The fluids you were exposed to around the shaft of your penis is the fluids a woman makes when excited and they are not infectious so you need not worry about those fluids contacting razor stubble or skin .

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Re: Very Scared - Please Help
« Reply #4 on: February 13, 2014, 04:15:16 PM »
Hey Jeff,

Got the test result, Negative on all accounts just like you said. Thanks a lot for the support. I'm currently debating booking another test at the 6th week mark or not, what do you think?

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« Reply #5 on: February 13, 2014, 05:02:09 PM »
This is the window period for HIV testing ... keep in mind you did not have a risk or need to test over this incident .

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.


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