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Author Topic: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?  (Read 2090 times)

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Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« on: February 10, 2014, 06:05:17 PM »
I had a high risk exposure with a CSW 30 days ago.
We took a bath in the bath tab together and had protected sex thereafter. This included me fingering her and I don't recall having any open wounds. But later I saw a small wound on that finger that was almost healed that I didn't know had been there. Also, in the course of sex, she squeezed her breast and quite some of her breast milk splashed on my face.. I can't tell whether I ingested any but I didn't taste any of it...... I used a condom and it did not break as it was all intact after ejaculation.
Two weeks later I developed stomach upsets that are still on and off till now and visits to the doctor have not revealed any thing.
One week ago I developed flu like symptoms..... Sore throat, hoarse voice, dry cough with no running nose, but now feeling much better. At the same time I noticed a very itchy rash on my hands and inner thighs that I've been treating with some cream and is now better.  One day ago I started feeling pain in my knees. I have not had any fevers, no night sweats or enlarged lymph nodes.... Just some mild headaches the last two days.
I'm worried whether these could be signs of seroconversion? Please help.

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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2014, 06:12:55 PM »
You did not have a high risk you had a no risk encounter . HIV is sexually transmitted via unprotected anal and vaginal sex ... you had protected sex so you did not have a risk for HIV .

Taking a bath and fingering is not a risk, even with a cut finger its not a risk . Breast milk is not infectious for HIV to adults . The risk from breast milk only is for infants with developing immune systems .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #2 on: March 08, 2014, 09:26:23 PM »
Hi. I revisit this because it just won't go away. The dry cough went on for a while but is now gone. But I'm concerned that things aren't getting better overall. The headaches continue. And the pain on my knees is now felt on my elbows as. well. The night sweats have been there the last the days. This is quite worrying. I don't feel so fine overall. Probably I got infected with precum or brushing my penis over the vagina before I put on a condom during three mentioned episode? Is it time I got tested?

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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #3 on: March 08, 2014, 09:30:42 PM »
You did not have a risk and if you are feeling unwell, please see your doctor.  Symptoms can be caused by many things and only your doctor can help you.  You did not have a risk, so you don't need to test.


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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #4 on: April 30, 2014, 09:36:58 PM »
Hi again. Thanks for the feedback.  It has been 15 weeks since this incident and wish to update.
I did an antibody test about 8 weeks after possible exposure and the results were negative. I understand this is not conclusive and has to be done at least 13 weeks.
Now, the pain on my knees and elbows has lasted throughout this time, even if mildly most times. 2 weeks ago, I had excruciating pain on my right elbow that lasted 2 days. I could not stretch the hand coz of the pain and used ice cubes and took pain killers for relief and pain disappeared.
 But the mild pain persists on my left quite someknee especially and now both elbows tool now. Now I also feel the same kind of pain on my upper back near the spine area the last 3 days. These are not pains I had experienced before January, duo you can understand my concern.
Probably it is time to now get tested as the window period is over since the possible exposure date? Could female secretions that got into contact with the penis where the condom rolls up or ends create an exposure? I know the condom was intact after sex, but what if it does not cover the entire penis and part of it gets into contract with the vaginal secretions?

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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2014, 09:41:56 PM »
You never had an exposure and didn't need testing.

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Re: Worried after risky encounter... your advise pls?
« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2014, 09:51:23 PM »
You seem to not be even acknowledging the fact that you did not have a risk . You are HIV negative and do not need to test again for this specific incident .

If you wish to continue to pretend to not hear us then by all means test again at 3 months and get another negative result to hold on to and then maybe just maybe it will hit you that we know what we are talking about and you have wasted 3 months worrying over nothing .
I do wish you the best and the sarcasm here is a good natured attempt to get your attention like the bold letters proclaiming,



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