Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr Instagram
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
February 09, 2016, 09:58:13 AM

Login with username, password and session length

  • Total Members: 27524
  • Latest: tf224
  • Total Posts: 684945
  • Total Topics: 53593
  • Online Today: 201
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online
Users: 6
Guests: 157
Total: 163


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ and AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all.

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: Worried  (Read 911 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline rbby

  • Standard
  • New Member
  • Posts: 2
« on: February 07, 2014, 03:27:20 PM »
this is really embarrassing to admit but I'm honestly worried. I recently celebrated my 21st bday and had a lot to drink, I ended hooking up with some guy when we was getting ready to top me I pulled out a condom and told him to put it on and he did, I don't know if I was too drunk but I couldn't tell if he had taken it off or not. he never really fully penetrated me but he did really try hard, I'm just wondering if he had not been wearing a condom but still forced his penis into my anus but not fully penetrated me could I be at risk? I've tried calling him to ask but haven't heard from him.

Offline Andy Velez

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,293
Re: Worried
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2014, 03:37:03 PM »
RB, given what you have described my guess is that he had a condom on during the time he penetrated you to whatever extent he did. And I think you would have known either during or afterwards if he had ejaculated in you.

But HIV is not something to guess about. My suggestion is that you get tested at 6 weeks. Assuming you get a negative result which is what I think is likely, then you will in all likelihood test negative again and conclusively at 3 months.

For future reference you need to avoid ever having casual sex when you have been drinking too much. It's a dangerous combination and affects your ability to make safer sex choices.

Good luck with your tests. I expect you to come out of this ok but I do think testing is a good idea. 
Andy Velez

Online Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,822
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Worried
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2014, 03:40:51 PM »
Happy Birthday . It is impossible for us to know if you were penetrated but its unlikely that you were and did not know it . A brief insertion can carry a risk and you will need to get tested if that happened . Rubbing or frottage isn't a risk .

You can test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Offline rbby

  • Standard
  • New Member
  • Posts: 2
Re: Worried
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2014, 04:05:28 PM »
thanks for the fast replies, I should mention I know for a fact he didn't ejaculate inside me, I guess what we did could be considered dipping. is that still considered risky? I'm definitely planning on getting tested at 6 weeks.

Online Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 16,822
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Worried
« Reply #4 on: February 07, 2014, 04:09:35 PM »
Any time a bare penis goes into a vagina or rectum it is judged to be a risk . The odds are with you that you will come out of this OK but the responsible thing to do is test so its good to hear you are following through and getting tested for HIV and all other stds as well just to be on the safe side . 


Terms of Membership for these forums

© 2016 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.