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Offline rodjoe989

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Very scared
« on: January 25, 2014, 10:08:27 PM »
Six days ago I decided to try anal intercourse for the first with someone I don't know. I had him use a condom and lube. When I got home I went to clean myself and there was reddish blood on the toilet paper. I fugere cause it was my first time. None the less I don't know if condom broke cause I never saw it. But whats stressing me out know is this... he also gave me oral, and I put a condom on to. Five days later I feel a burning sensation on my ball area  and its also around my anas area to... When I pee it doesn't burn... no pain going to the restroom. That night and morning of trying anal sex... when I went to the restroom it did hurt. But the next day hasn't botherd me.... I know from what I've read its to early to know if I got anything.... Can the burning sensation be cause the condom broke.. I wounder why I didn't feel it from the beginning why five days later....? Has anyone experience this.... Also my penis had a couple of red marks and now its got bigger.. I keep telling myself I used protection yet here I got some kind of symptom.... Hope I don't offend anyone, I really would appreciate your feed back....

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« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2014, 10:17:21 PM »
You can not offend us, that would be a very hard thing to accomplish LOL . 

Condoms are designed as to leave no doubt when they fail so its extremely doubtful a condom failed and you didn't notice it . HIV is transmitted via unprotected vaginal and anal sex so you need not worry about the oral part .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
If you are uneasy and want to test for peace of mind only you can do so at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it . If you haven't already been having your sexual healthcare checkups you could use this as a reason to begin them . I gave you the testing guidelines for future information and not because I think you had a risk . Best of luck .   

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« Reply #2 on: January 26, 2014, 08:06:50 AM »

First off, I'd like to point out that picking up an STI following sexual activity is NOT a punishment - it just comes with the territory. It's no different to picking up a cold or flu when in contact with other human beings. I just had the feeling you needed to hear that.

Hiv infection does NOT cause burning sensations in the ano-genital area. Other STIs can, and other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv.

Condoms don't always succeed in protecting against other STIs, but they have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

"I wounder why I didn't feel it from the beginning why five days later."

Sexually transmitted infections (any infections) take time to cause symptoms. In the case of STIs, it can take between three and five and up to ten days to two weeks before you start noticing anything, and they can all be present without ANY noticeable symptoms.

The ONLY way to know if you've picked up an STI is to test. You can test now for most STIs - and make sure you get a rectal swab as well as a penile swab. Don't forget to also test for syphilis - which shares a three month window period with hiv for a conclusive negative result.

If you're a sexually active adult (regardless of your usual sexual practices), you should be having a FULL sexual health check up at least once a year, or more often if you're very active with several partners.

If you cannot be sure whether or not the condom broke, then you would be prudent to test for hiv. The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point - when there has actually been a risk, which is not certain in your case - but is highly unlikely to change.

As we've both said, you should be testing regularly anyway. Let this be the start of a new, healthy habit of looking after your sexual health. Think of it like going for check ups with your dentist - you may not have a toothache but you go anyway.

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Re: Very scared
« Reply #3 on: February 26, 2014, 09:30:38 AM »
Hello I'm back.... I know that u really don't discuss symptoms ... But I'm really stressing out.... I went and got tested last week, the swab test, it was negative... It was only four and a half weeks from my exposure .... Well I wanted to wait for 6 week test but for the last two three weeks I been feeling really achy ... My knees, elbows and neck hv been bothering me a lot... So much that I wake up at night and can't go back to sleep... Also when I go to restroom it's normal than its like diarrhea, then it's normal... I tell myself maybe it's what I eat, and stress. I hvnt had fever or night sweats , rash .... None the less I know the only way to know is to get tested... None I was hoping u could give me some insight, does hving elbow, knee, and nick pain normal for hiv infection, I also feel like needle pocking in different parts of my body, even some pain in my inner thy ... ? I also got like a white patch in the inside of my mouth and it looks like it peeled off... So I hv one more week to go and I'm scared ... Hope to hear from u... And THANK U VERY MUCH FOR UR TIME AND HELP

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Re: Very scared
« Reply #4 on: February 26, 2014, 09:49:36 AM »
You did not have a risk for HIV . You had protected intercourse and that is not a risk factor . The transmission modes for sexually transmitted HIV are from unprotected anal and vaginal sex and you used condoms so there was not a risk .

You do not need to test over this specific incident but you chose to do so for peace of mind . There are no shortcuts to testing so if you must test just to feel better then do it correctly at 6 weeks and 3 months to confirm it ... better yet since you didn't have a risk just wait until 3 months to test and be done with it and expect a negative result . Another option is because there was not a risk to begin with you can count your negative result as conclusive if this is your only concern in the last 3 months .

We do not discuss symptoms so if you are sick go see your doctor .   


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