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Author Topic: Can you give me your thoughts on this encounter....should I worry?  (Read 1055 times)

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Hello, all. About a month ago I had an encounter with a man whose status I know nothing about. I'm not at all experienced in sex. In fact, I'm somewhat of a virgin. I started exploring my sexuality recently and hooked up with a stranger. Well, hook up is somewhat of an overstatement. The entire ordeal lasted maybe 5-10 seconds. I wanted to feel what anal sex was like so I asked him if I could penetrate him. He gave me a condom. I put it on, but since I'm not that experienced, it kept rolling halfway...I don't really know why. In any case, I penetrated him and after about three pumps, I asked him to get on his back since he was way taller than me. He did, and again I stuck my penis inside his anus and after about the fourth pump, I noticed blood on the condom. I pulled out immediately, for the sight of that was somewhat of a turn off. He quickly put his clothes on...and that made me second guess why he was so quick to get out of there and why I am here.

Considering the situation...is there anything I have to worry about? I did not ejaculate or precum, I had a condom on. It was rolled halfway my penis, but the head was fully protected. The entire thing lasted maybe ten seconds. The blood on the condom is what's worrying me. I know I had a condom on and I didn't ejaculate or precum or have any open sores on my penis and logic is telling me that I shouldn't worry so much, but I guess there's that lingering thought.

I got a fever a week later, but I suppose that's due to the cold weather as it disappeared that same night.

I plan on getting tested, but at the three month mark. I don't see the point in testing in the window period since it takes a while for the virus to spread.

Thank you for your time.

EDIT: Oh, one more thing. I kissed the guy, but had open sores in my mouth, is this something that I should overlook? I know saliva isn't a concern with HIV, but since I had open sores, I don't know how that impacts the situation.
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Re: Can you give me your thoughts on this encounter....should I worry?
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2014, 10:32:09 PM »
The risk for sexually acquiring HIV is from unprotected vaginal and anal sex . You did not have a risk having protected intercourse because the glans of your penis was covered . Kissing is never a risk for HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do not need testing at this time for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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