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I am not sure what to do
« on: January 19, 2014, 01:59:50 AM »
I spent 3 hours ghosting the forums before deciding to create this post.

I think I'm certainly positive, as I have ohl on both sides of the tongue plus chronic diarrhea (sorry to mention that). I was probably infected when I was 20 (so this would be 6 years without treatment) due to a horrible life style. I am scared, mainly because I know I can't tell my family - as I don't want to hurt them.

My question is, what should I do now? take a test and confirm the diagnosis? and start treatment? - But I also think I may be too late for treatment as the two symptoms I mentioned above are characteristics of AIDS if I am correct...

I am 26 years old and I really don't know what to do, can I just skip the test and goto a specialist to start meds?

Thanks in advance.

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Re: I am not sure what to do
« Reply #1 on: January 19, 2014, 02:32:35 AM »
The only way to know if you have HIV is to test 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it . There is no use guessing or discussing symptoms because the only way to know for certain is to get tested so I urge you to do that .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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« Reply #2 on: January 19, 2014, 02:36:02 AM »
I moved your post into this forum so please read the posting guidelines at the top of this page  . Only post in this thread no matter how long between visits or subject matter . You can go to your profile and select show own post and it will take you here .

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Re: I am not sure what to do
« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2014, 07:08:33 AM »

You have a lot of misconceptions about hiv in the 21st century.

Anyone can get OHL and anyone can get chronic diarrhea. These problems are NOT specific to hiv and hiv only.

Unless your alleged OHL was diagnosed by a doctor or dentist, chances are good that it isn't actually OHL. You cannot diagnose yourself from pictures or articles on the internet. What you're seeing on your tongue is very possibly normal, but you think it's abnormal because you're viewing it through the lens of thinking you're hiv positive. OHL can even be difficult for a medical professional to diagnose without a biopsy. Smokers can get OHL, so no, you do NOT have to be hiv positive to get OHL.

Chronic diarrhea can be caused by many, many things, Crones disease and irritable bowel syndrome are just two off the top of my head. You need to stop diagnosing yourself and see a doctor about this. You could be missing something serious, but treatable, and putting yourself through bathroom-hell for no good reason.

No doctor will treat you for hiv without testing you first.

The only time it is "too late" to start hiv treatment is if the patient is already dead. If you think OHL and diarrhea are really serious conditions that make treatment useless, boy oh boy do you have another think coming. Sometimes people are diagnosed when very ill and in hospital, hooked up to drips and a respirator and live to tell the tale once hiv treatment is started.

Of course some people do not make it back from being so ill, but many do. Even if you are correct in your assumption that you are hiv positive, you are clearly nowhere near death, so get a grip and go get tested.

Provided you have not had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse or shared drug injecting equipment - with anyone - in the past three months, you can test NOW for a conclusive result.

Other than citing a "horrible lifestyle", you don't say what you believe put you at risk for hiv infection. Unless it was unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse or sharing needles, then you're assuming you're hiv positive for no good reason.

In adults (even young adults), hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.

Unprotected vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it, so unless you've engaged in one of the above activities, then you haven't been at risk.

If you actually have been at risk, GO TEST. Stop diagnosing yourself and torturing yourself. GO TEST. No excuses!

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